I'm a married woman with children, but I have this ridiculous crush on my pastor. He's young and good-looking, and I recently started thinking about him in a romantic way. He used to be my spiritual advisor, but I stopped meeting with him when I developed these feelings. I still see him daily at prayer group as well as several other times a week at church. He isn't aware of any of this as far as I know.
2006-09-29 06:07:08 · 15 answers · asked by culpantistes 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
While it's normal to feel attracted to other people even when you're married, avoidance is key. This is an especially serious matter because he is a priest. You don't want to tempt him or yourself when it could lead to mortal sin, not to mention the destruction of your marriage and his service to God. Go to services conducted by another priest either at your parish or at a different parish.
2006-09-29 07:30:04 · answer #1 · answered by Caritas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, considering the fact that your a married woman, i would say just put it out of your head. I think it is normal and healthy to develop crushes on people. However, it is not always a healthy thing to act upon. You are human so, these things may arise from time to time. I would suggest that you get some rekindling in the romance department in your marriage. Sometimes these things happen because we become stagnant in our relationships and get a little bored. Make life at home a little more interesting, you know what your husband likes do something spontaneous and use your urges on him. that way, no harm done to anyone. My guess is eventually this will pass. Most of all pray for God guidance and wisdom and strength, he will give you all you need to get through this. Good luck & God Bless
2006-09-29 06:14:40 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound sensible...discuss it with him. If he's good looking, he's probably been through this before. You've already stopped meeting with him becuase of what you deem a "silly crush"....try honesty. Tell him you realize your feelings are misplaced but can't seem to move on...ask him for guidance or a referral to another advisor. Sometimes just discussing things intelligently can have a tremendous effect ....worse case, he will refer you to another spiritual advisor and if the temptation to stray is that great, then it's for the best.
2006-09-29 06:14:43 · answer #3 · answered by bug927 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is more common than you think. The same thing happens to women with their ob-gyns! But when it comes to the Pastor...This is the enemys way of stopping your spiritual growth! That's it - End of Story! You have to get in the word and nip this end the bud. Do you have to see him this many times a week? Do what you can to limit it to Sunday Morning!
2006-09-29 06:14:30 · answer #4 · answered by Stiletto ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from him and find another prayer group. It's the lesser of two potential evils. Better to be out a prayer group than out of a marriage
2006-09-29 06:11:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 05:00:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People get crushes like this all the time. Well, women anyway. We have tons of "priest groupies."
Sounds to me like you've taken the right action. Pray for purity.
2006-09-29 06:11:45 · answer #7 · answered by Max Marie, OFS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep it to yourself, and enjoy it!
I get crushes all the time, although they're usually on tv characters or occasionally celebrities.
I use it in my fantasy life and as fodder for .... you can fill in the blank.
Then I get over it, and no harm done.
2006-09-29 06:26:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
move church 4 the sake of your husband, your kids, your church, the pastor, the pastor' staff , pastor girfriend? the list goes on.
2006-09-29 06:11:30 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because everything forbidden is more lucrative...try to think of him as attainable...you'll loose interest fast
2006-09-29 06:10:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋