A man, two yrs younger to me,expressed his love for me even after knowing my true age. After few days he realised that it wont be a healthy relationship and he started asking me to forget him. By this time I was totally intoxicated by his love coz I never had the experience of the feeling that comes when one is taken care of so delicately. In that one weeks time...I experienced heaven(nothing physical, only we talked over fone).Because I was broken totally..he kept ringing mecoz he felt guilty for my sufferings and pain caused to me. Last month he got married almost 10 months after meeting me. Now I dont get to talk to him. I am unable to handle myself, plz suggest me a way out of such tormenting situation. I cant survive if I am unable to forget him...but dying looks easier than forgetting him.His voice fills me with life, I want nothing else, just be in touch with him...which perhaps is not possible for him.Why he punished me in this way?He took initiative and himself retreated.WHY??
2006-09-29 06:00:44 · 16 answers · asked by Leena 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
by reminding yourself he was not for u or u would have him, move on to the one who is for you, you'll know he's the one when u get married, the rest are just training.
2006-09-29 06:03:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its bad at his part. i understand what you are going through life becomes hell nothing seems to be well. The best thing you can do is keep urself indulge into activities like join a course from 9 to 5 or go outskirts. you got to keep one thing in mind that he has betrayed you and married if he had loved you he would never ever had taken this major step. i know its not that easy to do. But theres nothing impossible everything is possible. u have a long way to go and im sure you have the best stored for you in future. Be focused and try an achieve ur goals........ rather than wasting ur time for him..... BE HAPPY. If u love something set it free if it comes back it is yours if it doesnt it never was..... think abt it,...............
2006-09-29 20:31:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get angry. I know it sounds simple but it really works.
Right now, you are only thinking about how it COULD have been and how wonderful he is.
Starting TODAY.. REALLY FEEL what he did to you. He KNEW he hurt you, but he did not care. Is he STILL such a 'wonderful' guy? Think as many negative things about him as possible. Think of him picking his nose, walking around nagging his wife, horrid bad breath. ANYTHING that puts him in a negative light!
They may not be true.. But, you are in love with the IDEA of him.. You never even REALLY knew him, so he may be a great guy or he may be a jerk. You might have got to know him and DUMPED him, and never thought of him again, but since he did it while you thought he was so great, you can't get past that point!
What you need NOW is to tear him down in your mind, because you BUILT him up so much in your mind.
He is NOT punishing you and it's time for you to REALLY look at how foolish you are being. Don't you think you are worth more than whinning after a man that did NOT want YOU????
SERIOUSLY, he's not wasting any time thinking about you.. So, WHY do you give him so much power??
Think as MANY negative things that would turn you OFF about a man as you can about him.
At THIS point, it's simply like being in love with an actor, you MADE him be GREAT in your MIND ONLY.. You don't even know his REAL personality at all. So, NOW, it's time to come back to reality.
If you did something like hurt yourself, he'd be like.. Who was she??? Oh, that girl I dated for a week, then he would yawn, pick his nose and wonder what his wife was making for dinner..
YOU KNOW BETTER THAN THIS!
You said "He kept ringing me because he felt guilty for my sufferings and the pain caused to me." That is total BULL SH**!! He was on a POWER trip and you were this gushing "Oh, I LOVE you. I can't live without you," EGO trip for him!! He did not, does not love you.. and you need to RESPECT YOURSELF and stop this. If nothing else, think of how his WIFE would LAUGH if she knew you were still SO crazy about a guy that DUMPED YOU!!
2006-09-29 13:45:29 · answer #3 · answered by LittleBitOfSugar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have 2 go out and start talking 2 other people go 2 a coffee shop the mall but go out and interact with people cuz if u dont u will lose yourself , if u want go 2 chat rooms and spark up conversations with others who have been hurt but more importantly look at yourself and know that u have alot 2 offer someone else dont deprive someone of getting 2 know and l;ove ther person u r , his loss he will realize that when he sits down 2 talk with his wife and he realizes he nas nothing in common, make someone else feel like how he made u feel , free yourself and the rest falls into place. keep me posted my add is my name at yahoo.
2006-09-29 13:08:03 · answer #4 · answered by q45dip 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to remember that he isn't for you. If you two were meant for eachother, you two would be together.
I know it hurts, and it's going to take your heart a while to heal, but go ahead and cry, let it all out. Go out with your friends, have a good time, and rebuild your self. You will be fine, and you will find the man who's going to make you feel 100 more times better than this guy!
2006-09-29 13:06:01 · answer #5 · answered by marypaz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stop hurting urself and
hey beautiful if somebody younger than you comes and expresses intrest in you means u must be really really attractive and beautiful .
well if u can feel a bit free there wud be somebody else waiting for a chance to get in touch with u ....................so u ought to be a bit easy going and give some one a chance to come closer to u ...........................gone is gone its past .........u cannot keep crying for him the one who did not undertsand how precious u were.
hey may be the one who approaches u next mey be a much better and wonderful person. u never know.
to b true .........he was trying to do a bit of time pass ....as if he did not want to hurt u he wud never have come closer to u.
so forget him and keeep movin
2006-09-29 13:43:54 · answer #6 · answered by vinodsjain2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a man who as per your statement after showing that immense love n care(which you actually got fascinated to) asked you to forget him and got married too.all that he did very easily. actually you better realise n thank god that you are being saved.such people can never be trustworthy.if his love for you can diminish due to a penny reason so easily........
god knows what kind of person he is.
jus put yourself to meditation for some time n you will overcome it soon.god bless you
2006-09-29 13:11:59 · answer #7 · answered by meenu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie, time and distance....time and distance
(are u very young is that the age problem?)my husband is 15 years older than me, so I don't see what 2 yrs has to do with anything..other than him using it as an excuse to move on...maybe you feel more than he does....
keep yourself busy....believe me there will be another.....a broken heart takes time to mead and sometimes there are no answers for what others do to us
2006-09-29 13:05:29 · answer #8 · answered by kardea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
~I know its hard to forget..time will heal that but in the mean time ..every time I think of him and start feeling the pain of not being with him any more I Ask God to ease my pain and to forget him..soon after things happen where I have no time to think of him...it works form me..~~~> ;o}
2006-09-29 13:08:09 · answer #9 · answered by dreamzzz102 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u really did love him but they so many man out they that u colud fined and u will so dont be like that be happy do have some fun
2006-09-29 13:06:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋