15 yrs ago i was in a relationship and we had a bad argument and stopped speaking to each other. About a week went by and I thought it was over so I slept with a ex. The next day, the 1 i thought was over called me and we got back together. Did I cheat on him or not?
2006-09-29 05:59:15 · 57 answers · asked by Yum*Yum 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Nope! You were a free agent and someone else picked up you option.
2006-09-29 06:01:59 · answer #1 · answered by dirftwood22 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
It depends, you stopped speaking to each other, but did either of you actually say that you's were breaking up? If not, then yeah, I would consider it cheating because there was no official break-up. Sometimes couples need time apart, but it dosen't always mean that their broken up. You should've took it upon yourself to address the issue and ask this guy if you's were broken up or just needing some time apart before you slept with your ex. However, if you or him made it clear that you's were breaking up, then no, it wasn't cheating. But damn, a week? Maybe next time you should wait a while before you spread your legs so quick, and you won't end up in situations like this.
2006-09-29 06:07:12 · answer #2 · answered by furever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that it is cheating. You did not speak with each other for a week, and you thought that it was over.
I have to ask, though, why are you worried about something that happened 15 years ago? Why is it not being left where it should be - arguments and the like should be about present issues, not about things that happened so long ago. If this is your issue/question, fine. If it is to prove a point, the point should be that it is now a non-issue because it happened so long ago.
2006-09-29 06:04:05 · answer #3 · answered by Only_my_opinion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It's not cheating if your not together at the time. 15 yrs ago, it's time to let it go. If it's bothering you so bad talk to him about it. Are you still together? Sometimes good relationships come to an end when we get caught up in the past when we could just leave it in the past. You don't want to ruin something good over something that happened so long ago. Think about it is it worth it?
2006-09-29 06:04:54 · answer #4 · answered by Curious J. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you say here, the answer is NO. But that is only because you use the words "got back together", this implies that you were apart. If you just had a fight but were still in a relationship then you cheated, if you said Good bye i never want to see you again we are through, and then had sex you didn't cheat.
2006-09-29 06:03:48 · answer #5 · answered by mraandmisse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were "officially" broken up then no you didn't cheat. After 15 years I hope you don't focus on this too much. He should have forgotten by now. What's done is done and can't be changed. Move forward in your relationship and stop looking backwards. Look ahead to all the great memories you still have to make together.
2006-09-29 06:02:35 · answer #6 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at it this way. It was over for that week and then it started again. That one week was all yours, you most definately did not cheat on him. But I don't understand the 15-years-ago deal... are you having problems NOW? 15 years later! wow! Tell him to grow up... it was a looong time ago.
2006-09-29 06:09:10 · answer #7 · answered by **Andie** 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be fair, you can't get over a relationship in a week. You slept with your ex because you wanted it to be over, as a revenge against him and in order to make yourself feel better. You didn't have feelings for your ex, you definently weren't over your boyfriend, and you couldn't even wait a few months to find that out.
I don't think it was "cheating" but it was a terrible thing to do.
2006-09-29 06:01:44 · answer #8 · answered by QuestionWyrm 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If it is bothering you after 15 years then that is the question you should be addressing. If he couldn't ring you to resolve the issue the next day, or at least communicate he still loves you despite the argument, then he's basically got no grounds to complain.
2006-09-30 22:56:44 · answer #9 · answered by Bad bus driving wolf 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt call it cheating because you guys stopped talking. if someone stopped talking to me i would also take it as he broke up with me. so i dont think that would be called cheating. its was 15 years ago so i wouldnt worry about it now. its all over. you are both back together. thats what matters. try and not argue as much. me and my bf agrue a lot and its not healthy for a relationship. try and keep everything nice and relaxing. go out somewheres with each other and get to know each other a lot more. but dont argue to to much. its ok to have a disagreement but its not good to fight all the time. i hope everything goes well for you and your bf. try and do your best to not fight to much along with him to. dont put to much stress on yourself. good luck
-chrissy-
2006-09-29 06:18:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only reason you slept with the ex was becuase you were madd at your bf. It definetley wasn't clear that the realtionship was over because you guys still got back together. you cheated as an act of revenge
2006-09-29 06:06:48 · answer #11 · answered by 10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋