I need to know, If I dump her will she make out that she was the Victim?
By the way I have done nothing wrong and love her to bits but she is not good for my health, by health I mean that I can feel my heart being ripped apart and I dont like it.
We share the same group of firends and I dont want them to take sides, Will this divide the group if I dump her?
2006-09-29 05:50:28 · 17 answers · asked by Fox Hunter 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If your heart is being "ripped apart," surely she did something to cause that feeling. Perhaps she cheated on you or lied to you about something very important. If that is the case, then you are justified in your desire to end the relationship and, despite the fact that you are male, you are the victim. Have an honest face to face chat with her. Tell her exactly why you are ending the relationship. She will probably be angry and your mutual friends will probably "take sides." Still, if you are truly the victim and not just looking for an excuse to move on to the next tempting girl, the majority of those friends will eventually come to terms with the situation. When I was a girl, I was very rarely the victim, and most of my friends were well aware of that fact. Boys aren't always the "bad guys." :-)
2006-09-29 06:08:54 · answer #1 · answered by ConfusedWife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The girl isn't always the victim. The way you describe her she sounds at best insecure and at worst, well let's not go there. But your joint friends must know what she's like, and if you have 'loved her to bits' and she's 'ripping you apart' that will be obvious to everyone. If all the group are adults, they will probably be able to see the grey areas, and see that this relationship had just run it's course with no blame attched. They will probably know that it's for the best and whilst it might be awkward for them for a while, things have a habit of going back to normal in time.
Course, all this is different if you have already cheated on her (your last q). In that case, if they find out, she's the victim and you're drinking on your own!
2006-09-29 13:11:54 · answer #2 · answered by Fifi L'amour 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will definitely divide the group that's a given. will she be the victim, probably at first but if you are unhappy in the relationship then its better that you end things before you two really start hurting each other more than you already are.
2006-09-29 12:55:16 · answer #3 · answered by l.rahn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not sure why u keep asking these questions .. U seem to know the answers ...
do her a favour & dump her... Then she can act the victim ... its what all girls want really ... they never wanna be the bad guy.
Even if they r not interested anymore .
2006-09-29 13:02:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on how you dump her
but if you are really afraid it will affect your group of friends then get her do dump you
although you might feel bad when she dumps you
the feeling wont last long coz you wan to break up
without hurting her
setting up a break up like this isn't that hard anyway
2006-09-29 12:57:30 · answer #5 · answered by x040493t 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either way it's gonna b messy all break ups are. I have just been dumped. He wanted his ex a glamor model and well this time Iam hurt but I have dumped in my turn we all get to play the villain live with it.
2006-09-29 12:54:41 · answer #6 · answered by charlotte e 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why are you thinking anyone is a victim? life is just life. your friends aren't true if they take sides but if they do they'll get over it. staying with someone you want to leave because you fear what other's will do sounds very victimy so does trying to control someone else's feelings. if your friends don't like it..get new friends.
2006-09-29 15:38:13 · answer #7 · answered by minerva 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm always astounded that people use these forums to ask strangers for their opinions on matters when they know so little about the personal situation. I've absolutely no idea what you should do, speak to your friends
2006-09-29 13:06:19 · answer #8 · answered by eggy74uk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont just dump her sit down together an talk about it an tell her how you feel. honesty is the best pollicy good luck pal for the future !!!
2006-09-29 13:10:00 · answer #9 · answered by yorkshire_lad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummmmm seee darlin ur quess ask will the girl alwayz be the victim....yes and even if sheez nt she will b taken as the victim....u share same grp of frnds.....ur frndship must b strong....u guyz wud hve probs fr sme time....if u handle with care as relations shud b then u'll rock!!
2006-09-29 12:54:36 · answer #10 · answered by Nat$ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋