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It's not something ive EVER been interested in doing personally but i knew coming into this relationship that he has done it himself in the past. I am almost disguisted at the idea of doing it, but semi-curious to try--just to say i've done it. are there rules to this sort of thing? will i just end up hurt in the end? how can i do this without it being too weird? i don't know anyone bi or les. so how can i arrange this?
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Curious and confused

2006-09-29 05:49:32 · 24 answers · asked by AudioPhilia 4 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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Well, this is the 21 centry, and things are diff now. Personally I dont see the negitive answers you received being any help in your decisson. First off, this usually is fantasy of some sort come true. I believe is not something that is sick and discusting. The partner you choose will make all the difference in the world. You do not want someone with a big mouth. This is a very personal and intimit thing. Its usually best to have someone you know very very well, or even a complete stranger. Just be protected. If your fiance likes this sort of thing, its best to do it now. You may enjoy it. I wouldn't let it become a habit, but save it for very speciel occations. Alot of folks are into this on occations. You are not unusual. Just surprised. Always remember, threesomes work with 2 males at times as well as 2 females. Be sure your partner understands that before the maiden voyage. You will either injoy or tolorate it. Good luck on your maiden voyage.

2006-09-29 06:47:32 · answer #1 · answered by megofish2day 3 · 0 0

If this man is truly in love with you then he will not push the issue of a 3some on you. Since this is something that don't seem to actually desire but, are a little curious about then keep an open mind to it if the opportunity shows itself and you are willing then I say "Go for it". However try to make sure that if it does happen that it is before you marry him not after. Also make sure that it would be a one time deal, if he is not happy with that then you might have some thinking to do.

2006-09-29 06:03:40 · answer #2 · answered by kbrearley2001 2 · 0 0

If he wants a 3some then why is it up to you to try to set it up?? I can't imagine ever being comfortable with such a situation myself. There is a huge difference in being curious about something and actually following through with it. Know yourself ... if things don't turn out the way you envision how will you react? To me its only playing with fire ... one never knows what other things will be suggested after you agree to do such a thing.

I would guess there would have to be rules if you choose to enter into that sort of life style. I myself can't imagine sharing the man that I love with any other person.

Stay true to yourself ... stand strong if you don't think you can do such a thing ... and walk away if you have too. In the end you are the one that has to live with any decision that you made.

Good luck.

2006-09-29 05:59:54 · answer #3 · answered by J 3 · 0 0

If you dont wantto but yet you will do it just because of him, let me tell you something: YOU ARE AWESOME! There are not many like you left. He is a lucky man!
You should do it before youget married and kids or other broing tasks come along. And just put and add in a dating site craiglist.org and if you are not that bad looking, I think any gilr would want to join you guys.
If its all about the fun of it and its a one time thing, no one will get hurt. The best way to do it is with some alcohol. Go out dancing or some other night activity. That should get you all in the mood.

2006-09-29 05:55:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Well, i think you need to decide, what sex is to you and your relationship. For me, sex is sex is sex. It is all the same, whether 1 person, 2 people, whether on top, bottom or the side. How much does sex coexist with your thoughts of your partner. Know that if you do it before you get married he will ask when you are married. Experimenting if fun. Relationships are loooonng, you will need to constantly trying new things and one upping what you did last nite, last week, last year. If you don't mind and the other people don't mind then it isn't disgusting it is just different from the norm. Don't let people make you feel bad about your choices.

2006-09-29 06:08:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

If you feel that it's disgusting, then why venture into it?
Why not quell you curiosity in another form. But if you must, I'd suggest that you set this up with people that you dont have strong feeling for.........Because in my opinion, it will not far well, if you have any form of conscience and/or morals. The image that stares back at you thru the mirror may not look quite as nice as it did prior. And reversing a situation doesnt usually work well.

2006-09-29 05:56:51 · answer #6 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0 0

If youv'e never been interested in it personally,I can't imagine the curiosity outweighing the hurt as you watch your partner enjoying another woman,especially if you are to marry.It can potentially open up a pandoras box (unless you are really OK with it)-did he like her more?will he do it again?And it hurts to share someone you love in such a serious way unless thats what your'e both into.

2006-09-29 05:59:13 · answer #7 · answered by lotsalovetanya 2 · 0 0

If wants a three=some then he doesn't want you,you sound like you have too much respect for yourself and your body tell him to either get a life or you just don't want to it.Because if h gets upset that ur not doing it then he didn't want you from the beginning he might just want to experiment.Ask him are you pleasing him enough because my husband thinks it's so disgusting because it makes a men feel like hes not doing his job.If he loves you he'll leave it alone and wont bring it up to you no more.

2006-09-29 06:01:04 · answer #8 · answered by Sister Queen Mama 3 · 0 0

Well first off if you dont' wont to really do it then don't do it just to please your man. He should understand that you don't wont to and he should be cool with it if he loves you. And think about it this way. Ok I've never had a 3 some but you would just assume and figure that I dunno it's gonna be u another chick and ur man. Can you really sit there and watch your man **** some other chick. That's pure crazyness I'll be damned if my man gonna **** some chick.. But hey more power to ya!!! But dont' let him talk u into doing something you really don't wont to do. He doesn't love you if he says you should do it for me.. Cuz that bs. If he loved and cared for you he'd be like ok no problem..

2006-09-29 05:57:05 · answer #9 · answered by Kimberly 2 · 0 0

If your gonna do it do it before your married unless you want it to be apart of your life after you get married. Me and my wife do it every once and a while and for some people it works and keeps a little spice in your relationship. and who knows you might think its fun.

2006-09-29 05:54:19 · answer #10 · answered by chuck 1 · 1 0

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