Last summer at work I met this girl and things went great for a while but nothing last forever.I am hung up on this girl even though in November it will be a year since we broke up.She had moved on with this other guy and being that we worked together I was always hearing her talk with the girls around(close quarters) about how he never returns her calls or always cancels their plans and this bothered me because of how I felt and how much I knew she liked this guy. Its true when guys say that they want their ex to just be happy.I know its childish but I wrote her a letter to explain to her how I felt.I stressed the fact that I didnt want to get back with her,I just needed her to know how I felt because I couldnt keep it inside anymore.Since then we have gone out (just as friends) and we have talked about people we have seen since then and she says she knows how I feel about her.I guess my question is what do I do now? All my cards on on the table.Should I wait for her to come?
2006-09-29 05:47:44 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Give her a call sometime but you know what that will get you.
2006-09-29 05:49:47 · answer #1 · answered by Akkakk the befuddled 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should keep being her friend and be blessed. She will not come around to your way of thinking more than likely or she would have already BUT there is nothing better than a good friend of the opposite sex. So hang in there and over time you may find that your feelings change and you see her as a friend or sister and not a girlfriend anymore.
2006-09-29 05:50:58 · answer #2 · answered by bootsjeansnpearls 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she acknowledges your feelings, and is going out with you, why don't you ask her how she feels about things? Since you have been so honest and up front with her, I feel its only fair she do the same. If you are afraid to ask her in person, send her an email, or talk about it on the phone. Knowing is always better than not knowing whatever the outcome. Good luck to you!
2006-09-29 05:51:14 · answer #3 · answered by kihteacher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you love her? If you do and you want to be with her and you see a guy is not making her happy. I think that you should go for it give your relationship another chance i bet she feels the same about you but doesn't say anything. I think you should take a chance because it is standing right in front of you, go for it.
2006-09-29 05:53:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to wait for this girl to come to you then you don't deserve her. If you wait too long she'll just find someone else.
If you want to date her for real, ask her out.
Either she'll say yes or no. Get over it and decide.
Sorry for being so blunt but you dont make or keep relationships by keeping secrets from eachother.
2006-09-29 05:52:50 · answer #5 · answered by steelydawn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for your situation. I carried a torch for someone for several years before I realized it just wasn't good for my mental state and I deserved someone who returned my feelings. I think if it was meant to be and she loved you the way you deserve to be loved, it would have happened by now.
Once again, I'm sorry. There isn't much more painful than loving someone and them not feeling the same way.
2006-09-29 05:50:43 · answer #6 · answered by WiserAngel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's meant to be it'll happen in it's own time. I wouldn't "bug" (and I say that lightly) her about it. You did a smart thing. Letters are always a GREAT idea! Good luck hun! I hope you get the girl!
2006-09-29 05:51:43 · answer #7 · answered by gijenni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she talks with you certainly she wants you back , if she would be happy without you she'll even think at you , now it's your chance to openly say to her how much you cherish her and show it to her like a man with the woman he loves.
2006-09-29 06:00:52 · answer #8 · answered by Paul Alexandru Cazacliu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You stressed the fact that you do not want to get back together and that you only want her to know how you feel. Mission accomplished. Time to move on.
2006-09-29 05:50:47 · answer #9 · answered by Cary Grant 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should let it go. Don't call her. If it was meant to be something would have happened by now. I'd say, if you can't stop thinking of here in a loving way you should stop see her or at least stop approach her.
It was brave of you to write to her.
2006-09-29 06:02:34 · answer #10 · answered by Coolguy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋