sometimes i feel like i am very alone. I don't really have any friends at school and i wish i could meet people that aren't so caught up in the drama. Please give me any suggestios you may have on how i can meet people that aren't likely going to be catty and superficial.
2006-09-29 05:41:29 · 11 answers · asked by prettyinpink<3<3 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
In your state of loneliness, I think you might be a little over-sensitive to other people's obnoxious tendencies.
To meet people like yourself you will need to tolerate some faults. Everyone has their little eccentricities. Sounds like you are a little shy. That could work for you and not against you. If your normal response to people is quiet and controlled then try re-inventing yourself as a really tolerant and logical person. You will draw compatible people to you.
Some people do the drama thing because they too are bored and lonely. Drama provides a relief and entertainment.
Reacting severely to the drama folks may be taken as drama itself--don't fall into this trap. Try to identify others who are not as responsive to these goings-on. Share a mild joke at the expense of the drama queen. No heavy burn, just a subtle crack to show your new friend your likes and dislikes without being overbearing about it. :)
Best of luck to you.
2006-09-29 06:11:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seeing as you don't have many friends at school, due to not wanting the drama kings/queens. I would suggest looking for others who may feel the exact same way as you do.
Look for others who do the things that you do. Those that tend to keep to themselves usually do so because they also dislike the superficial people around them. Chances are that they are also looking for friends, but have the same dificulty that you are having.
Find some people like that and say hi. A little thing like just saying hi and starting a little conversation goes a long way. You may have to build up from a small "Hey that assignment was tough, how did you do?" to more involved conversations.
2006-09-29 12:53:51 · answer #2 · answered by kclark747 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello there why not try and change your life style,by joining a gym which is a great place to start,as you need to make some new friends,if not the gym there are lots of ways to meet other people,if you don't want to join a club how about offering to do some voluntary work at you local hospital,the list really is endless,i wish you good luck
2006-09-29 13:46:15 · answer #3 · answered by amber_xx66 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HI car-car,
I'm sorry for your trouble. Unfortunately, the drama will never stop. I'm 41 years old, and people don't change a BIT after hi school and college. In fact, I think people get LESS MATURE as they age. I feel like I'm still in 7th grade with all the backstabbing and drama that goes on with my peers.
My suggestion to you is to ignore it. Just live your life as best as you can. Do great in your studies, do the activities you enjoy, and develop your talents and skillsto the utmost. While you're working hard to improve yourself, your peers will go nowhere - they will stay stuck in a teenage mentality all their lives. Leave them in the dust.
It's ok to have "no friends." Until recently, I had tons of friends - I was fabulous, everybody "loved" me. But I realized that most of them were all out for themselves, and I got really hurt by some people.
Think of some of the most successful and talented people. I doubt Bill Gates was a social and party animal, but look at him now. While his friends were out partying and sowing their wild oats, he was working hard in his garage alone. Now he's worth 50 billion bucks. I doubt he regrets that. Geeks rule!
So I have decided to work on ME now. I have very few "friends" anymore. I could have a ton of friends if I decided to, but they wouldn't really be true friends. I am now working on a new career, I want to get into the health and fitness industry, and I'm REALLY enjoying my time alone to work on my body and mind. It's very liberating.
You aren't missing a thing by having no friends. Work on yourself, and become the best person you can be. Then, you'll attract like-minded people who will be REAL friends. Let's strive for excellence, hun!
Love Jack
2006-09-29 13:06:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
usualy, when you're looking for a whole group of people like that, you'd have to hang around the "free spirited" type people. The ones that not too many of your current acuaintences would hang out with. But, u realy should'nt try that, though there's nothing wrong with it. Just keep searchin for people that u seem to have everything in common with.
2006-09-29 12:47:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This would be a good time for you to develop an interior life; prayer, meditation. Maybe God is showing you the emptiness and futility of these relationships to draw you closer to Him. I recommend some good spiritual reading, like Interior Castles (Teresa of Avila). Scripture can't be beat. Develop this relationship with your inner self and find serenity with God; then the right kind of people will be drawn to you and you to them. Should you need to unload or whatever you're welcome to e-mail me. I've been there.
2006-09-29 12:57:57 · answer #6 · answered by Babs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest going to a life-giving church. In other words a church that is all about God and seeking Him and living out the life that He promised rather than on religion and rituals. People that are a part of a life-giving church are not there to please you and me, just God, so this will make them more real.
2006-09-29 13:43:26 · answer #7 · answered by G W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried sports? Maybe you just need to make some new friends. There is always going to be people like that around,you just learn how to avoid them.
2006-09-29 12:44:53 · answer #8 · answered by Ellyn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try classes outside of school, dancing, sports, church youth clubs, things of that nature.
2006-09-29 14:39:36 · answer #9 · answered by zoe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to try low risk things. like maybe a club library internet things of that nature
2006-09-29 14:32:42 · answer #10 · answered by Special 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋