2006-09-29 05:27:39 · 18 answers · asked by angel5 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
So how old are you? Is she older or younger. Is she giving you bad advice? If you feel she is out of place, talk to her about it.
2006-09-29 05:30:23 · answer #1 · answered by BlueSea 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ah, the know-it-all little sister...
First let me say congratulations on your blessed event. Motherhood is a difficult and wonderful thing - and the transition to motherhood can be easy or hard, slow or fast, but for many of us it is a radical change in the way we live our lives (just as the pregnancy is a radical change in our bodies). And just like our bodies return to a semblance of our former selves, so do we in the course of the motherhood transition.
As much as I hate to say it - if she has been through the process, she might know more about it than you do, and it may bear listening to some of the advice she may have. (I hate to say it, because i don't want to do it with my know-it-all little sister either, but there are times when it is valuable - and if we want them to listen to us, we need to extend them the same courtesy).
Having said that, every pregnancy is different and so is every mother. You are going to be a wonderful mother - because you and your precious baby are a perfect match. Divinely brought together to travel together in life. It's a wonderful thing to kind of grow your own companions - and you will find that she (or he) changes you to suit her also. You will grow and change together in your own private relationship - and it will have nothing to do with your sister.
My advice is to try only to spend time with your sister when you are calm, happy and well rested. And don't hesitate to pull that pregnancy card. If she is harassing you, you stand up and say "I am suddenly so very tired. I must go right now and lay down".
It might would also help to explain to your sister that at this time in your life you need positive energy - good loving supportive vibes from those around you and if she can't present her advice and information in those terms, you would rather not hear it. You might even want to ask her to talk about or remember how she felt when she was pregnant.
The last thing I will say is that very often our thoughts become things - if you are certain that she will be pushy, there is no other way that she can be. Try to expect her to be supportive and helpful. If you have a cute but nasty little nickname for her, stop using it. Don't put anything out there that can validate her behavior. You might also want to take a few minutes each day to visualize her being peaceful, happy and helpful. Really see it in your mind vividly for 3-5 minutes a couple times each day of this kind of intentioning will get you results pretty quickly. While you are intentioning, visualize yourself happy, healthy, calm and peaceful through the pregnancy and motherhood. You must first nourish yourself, then there will be plenty left for others.
Peace and blessings!
2006-09-29 05:39:28 · answer #2 · answered by carole 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should consider the spirit in which that advice was given. Your sister probably cares a great deal about you and her potential neice/nephew. Any advice she gives you is because she cares. Her curiosity may be sparked by your pregnancy, as well. She may be looking at you and imagining how she would do things if she was pregnant. No one can force you to do anything, so take any advice graciously, consider it, and make up your own mind as to what is best for you.
2006-09-29 05:40:13 · answer #3 · answered by Carole 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have one of those too. No kids, but plenty of advice. If you feel the advice given to you is unfitting, then tell your sister to either have a kid or keep her unwelcome comments about your child to herself. Even though a brain surgeon doesn't necessarilly have to have survived a brain tumor to operate on someone who has a brain tumor. Raising children is quite different. Experience is the key to successful child rearing. However; no child is the same, and you will find in years to come. What works for one child, may not work for anaother.
2006-09-29 05:34:12 · answer #4 · answered by sory I offended 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's okay to listen to advice, it doesn't mean you actually have to take it. If she's being snotty about it, then maybe call her out on her age, etc. Otherwise, I see no harm in it. She cares about you and the baby.
2006-09-29 05:36:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't let it go in one ear and out the other then say something to her. Tell her she can take care of her babies like she wants to and you'll take care of yours the way you want to.
2006-09-29 05:30:39 · answer #6 · answered by myste 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stand up now or it will only get worse tell her you appreciate it but you don't need it especially from someone who has never been their in the first place you will know what to do i never even changed a dipper before my first one and now i couldn't see my life any other way we have natural instinct especially when it is your own
2006-09-29 05:35:01 · answer #7 · answered by lola 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what your doctor tells you to do, and give your sister a hug and thank her for caring so much.
2006-09-29 05:31:02 · answer #8 · answered by atomictulip 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. ask her how older her baby is.
2. remind her that it's YOUR baby
3. tell her you only remember 2 people at this child's conception (and she wasn't one of them)
4. "bugger off"
5. throw something (light) at her
REMEMBER TO ALWAYS BLAME YOUR BEHAVIOR ON HORMONES!!
It's hard to ward off unsolicited advice. You have my sympathy!
2006-09-29 05:33:13 · answer #9 · answered by Luckiest_Wife_EVER 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my in basic terms suggestion is tell her jst like u informed us she mite not be loopy approximately it yet u all sound close i think of she will have the skill to settle for u for hoo u r honesty is maximum suitable in this occasion how do think of she might sense if she found out yet in any different case different then from you i say be honest together with her sturdy success
2016-12-15 16:51:51 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋