I'm getting married 3 weeks today, and I am a woman on the edge.
I know that I want to marry my partner that bit of it doesn't scare me, but I'm terrified that something will go wrong, I'm having nightmares that the cake won't arrive, or my dress will get torn, or that I've forgotten to order the flowers (i know i haven't)
Id there anything anyone can suggest - other than getting drunk!
2006-09-29 05:19:28 · 31 answers · asked by Sarah 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Ask anybody that's been in the wedding business for any amount of time,(photographer, planner, etc.) and they will tell you it's inevitable something's not going to be quite right. A car that won't start, a cake that didn't show, a torn dress, a photographer whose camera fails him, whatever. I went to a wedding once where the planner was fit to be tied upset because the cars that showed up for the bride and groom were mere Bentley's instead of Rolls Royces. I went to another one as a guest, and took pictures for my own use, only to find out later that the photographer's equipment, and all of his film was stolen during the reception, and my pictures became the defacto "official" pictures of the wedding.
Don't sweat the small stuff. With all the details surrounding a nice wedding some glitch is probable at least! Focus on the love you feel for your soon to be mate. Focus on how happy you'll be together. Focus on your futures together. If the cake doesn't show up, go to 7-11 and buy a box of twinkies or two. If the dress gets torn, keep a sewing kit pinned inside the dress or in your purse. If the flowers don't show, carry a bible or other scripture down the isle, and tell everyone you're allergic, or someone else is.
These glitches, 10,20,30 years down the line are what makes the ceremony memorable. A perfect ceremony that's straight out of a can will be forgotten in a month.
When my wife and I got married 29+ years ago, her dress did get torn, and her veil wouldn't stay on right. Then we got lost on the way to our honeymoon destination. (A cabin in the woods). We had to flag down a cop, and ask directions. Still we couldn't find the place, and were about to give up and spend the night in the car, when we finally found it. We even had to cut the honeymoon short because my wife got sick!
These things don't amount to a hill of beans compared to all the love and togetherness the two of you will enjoy hopefully for the rest of your lives. If we had focused on the glitches that day we wouldn't have had almost 30 years and 5 kids together. (1 Adopted) And we wouldn't have 3 grandkids now. (the youngest one is only a week old, what a cutie!)
Focus on the things that truly matter you, him, togetherness. Ignore the glitches they just don't matter.
2006-09-30 06:14:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hi honey im getting married next year and im having them now. Im also worried i will tear my dress and that something will go wrong, but i am also very excited and keep telling my self that everything will be fine. How i think of it is you and your partener getting married and no matter what this will happen. Even if the flowers dont turn up, who needs flowers there not important to get married with, even if you dress does get torn, will still get married, and even if the cake doesnt arrive, you can always get another on in a quick fix. The important thing is getting married all the little details matter but the marraige wont stop for them. So stop panicking and relax . It will be the best day of your life no matter what happens.
Getting drunk wont help the matters you have with getting marrid it will work for the time you are drunk but it will all come back to you when you are sober. The best thing is to get something to relax your nerves. I take a herbal suppliment called Passiflora which is brilliant, if you dont have a herbal shop near you that sells it you can buy it on line.. There are no side effects and work brilliantly i recommend them whenever you feel stressed out and anxious.
So get some Passiflora and relax and let the wedding come to you with no worrys.
2006-09-30 03:36:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have some time. Just breathe. Call around now and find a spa that has openings the morning of your wedding. Get a massage and some pre-wedding pampering.
If it makes you feel better, call the people. Call the caterer and confirm one more time everything is set. Go to the florist and review the plans and delivery schedule one last time. Conference with your bridesmaid and mom that everything is set. Assign someone to each aspect of your big day. One to ensure the cake is there and set up properly. One to work with the florist to get everything in place. Even if they aren't your bridesmaids, some people you trust to do this stuff.
And finally start reminding yourself this one very important thing.
The wedding is the first day of the rest of your new life. And the first day is only ONE day. You're getting married honey! To a wonderful and loving man! And he is going to be right there at the end of that aisle waiting for you. He won't care if the flowers are off center or the cake is lopsided. He just wants you to stand beside him at that moment and for every moment thereafter. And you should want the same. The wedding will be beautiful no matter what happens.
It seems like a big deal and there has been so much building up to this one day. It will be perfect no matter what may go wrong. Because it will be the day you become someone's wife. And the day you walk away with a husband at your side. Congratulations!
2006-09-29 05:28:38 · answer #3 · answered by bubb1e_gir1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relax and enjoy this time! Don't worry if something goes wrong, usually something somehow will at most weddings and it's never a big deal, and often just adds more good memories or something to laugh about later. What is important is that you are getting married to the man you love and your lives will become one and take on a new meaning. Remember it's the ceremony and vows that are the marriage, not the wedding and reception.. those last for a day, and your marriage is forever. Say a prayer, then let all your worries go .. you've done all you can do, now enjoy it. Blessings!
2006-09-29 05:42:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, every day all over the world people are getting married, in the grand scheme I am sure that most wedding go along perfectly. Mine was a wonderful day, I am sure there were hiccups along the way but as long as they are minor they go by unnoticed. Don't forget the main purpose of the day is to focus on the fact that you will be marrying the man of your dreams and that you will have a fantastic time.
All the worrying and pre wedding jitters are just your body's way of letting you know how excited you are about all of this! Try to take some time out from preparations and pamper yourself, maybe try a quiet romantic evening for you and your beloved, promise not to talk weddings, think beyond it, honeymoon etc.
Have a fantastic day and best wishes for a happy marriage.
2006-09-29 05:33:56 · answer #5 · answered by bty180083 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what happens it will still be your day. You will still be married at the end of the day and you will have a great time.
If something goes wrong it won't ruin your day it will just add a memory that you and your partner can laugh about later.
If the cake doesn't arrive or if the flowers are wrong you will still be a beautiful bride and the outcome will be the same.
Stop stressing about what might happen and enjoy these last few weeks until the wedding.
2006-09-29 05:31:37 · answer #6 · answered by nana4dakids 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
And that my dear is why I went to a Justice of the Peace to get married. :)
All brides wory about that stuff. It is perfectly normal. If you have any doubts, go over every last detail again. Make usre you talk to the caterers, the cake decorators, the DJ, everyone and make sure that everything is set. If you have your dress, inspect it over thoroughly and make sure there is nothing wrong with it, then put it into the garment bag and keep it in your closet. Then, a day or two before the wedding, pull it out, put it on, make sure it fits just right. Make sure you can walk in it and not trip (that would be my problem).
Other than that, don't worry. You will cause yourself to have an anxiety attack from it.
Congratulations on your upcoming wedding, and remember RELAX!!!!! Go to a spa one day. it will help.
2006-09-29 05:49:21 · answer #7 · answered by Genny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had pre-wedding ceremony jitters 33 years in the past and right here i'm nonetheless married. Pre-wedding ceremony jitters are actually not uncommon. lots has to do with all the hoopla surrounding weddings. Why carry out a little marriages paintings and others do not? in specific circumstances it rather is because of the fact human beings supply up too easily. Marriage isn't common paintings - so are all issues precious. No marriage is sweet. Combining human beings from 2 diverse backgrounds (no count how comparable they seem) is compromise. Heck, in simple terms residing with roomies at school is a project! maximum religions grant pre-marriage counseling in case you think of that would help. What made my jitters circulate away? whilst i discussed the undeniable fact that i wouldn't be waiting to hold a baby because of lady issues my husband to be presented to have a vasectomy earlier we've been given married if getting pregnant could be risky to my wellness. What a recent for a male to grant - earlier marriage....giving up his good to father a baby. fortuitously we've 2 appealing toddlers - one accompanied and one organic....the two presents. human beings generally think of we've a perfect marriage - heck, we've had tough situations like absolutely everyone else....yet we continually have been prepared to paintings by them. solid success - issues would be magnificent. Congratulations on your upcoming marriage!
2016-10-15 08:29:11 · answer #8 · answered by seelye 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm getting married in four weeks and I haven't had any jitters yet... That's even though I've ordered my dress from someone on ebay and it hasn't even arrived lol. My advice would be to focus on why you're doing this; because you love your partner and you want to commit to him, right? (I do hope so!) Nothing else matters. Who cares about the flowers or a torn wedding dress if it's love. And if it's not, well, then you better had get drunk!
2006-09-29 05:27:17 · answer #9 · answered by Niki M 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
just accept things will happen and let others deal with them examples of my wedding
The car broke down that was going to pick up my wife to be!
The place settings were never put out for the meal
The cake didn't get cut and passed to our guests
The photographer lost 1 reel of film from the reception
but the wedding went well because i had fantastic Ushers who
Fixed the car and wouldn't let the driver shut off the engine upon pain of death,
They escorted each guest to their setting using photocopies of the table plan which has now been copied by 4 weddings since as everyone thought it was a real y nice thing to do
we took the cake round an old peoples home after and had an impromptu party with the old folk
I sued the photographer and got all the other pictures free and a canvas thrown in and then just asked all guests for their photos for the album
Make sure you have good back up who sort out any issues that arise and just keep smiling!
Good luck!
Married 9 years now
2006-09-29 05:28:46 · answer #10 · answered by Monkeyphil 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋