my boyfriend and i fight all the time we fight about everything from sex to football i hate to fight but he seems to always pick them with me. i tried to talk things out but it only makes them worse. he has hit me once or twice but i don't want to break up.. is there anyway to make thing work. we do love each other.. and he wants to have sex but im a virgin. what do i do i dont want to break up because we are perfect when we dont fight
2006-09-29 05:12:31 · 23 answers · asked by Kay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
break up with him....especially if he hits you.....
2006-09-29 05:14:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in a perfect world i would tell u stay with him, ummmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm not the perfect world first off if u sleep with him that would calm him down , but thats not what u want 2 do , what u want 2 domis leave him, because if u dont u will realize that life will be like your virginity , closed up and not open 2 the public , then i would say well dont argue with him ummmmmmmm that makes no sense u should be able 2 discuss things like adults and as far as hitting goes u have 2 be as bright as a dark crayon not 2 realize that , thats not gonna stop until YOU PUT A STOP 2 IT. u r a virgin so u r not missing out on the passion of your love just the emotinal break up and find someone that deserves u and appreciates u for who and what u r.
2006-09-29 12:20:17 · answer #2 · answered by q45dip 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When you talked about fighting all the time I was going to suggest you go to a couples' therapist. But when I got to the part where he hit you "once or twice," the answer is clear. DUMP HIM. "We're perfect when we don't fight" is like saying "he's great except for the people he murders on the weekends." Get rid of this guy before he really causes you physical injury - it WILL happen.
2006-09-29 12:17:26 · answer #3 · answered by LisaT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm very sorry to tell you this but if he hit you, leave him as soon as possible. When I was reading you question I thought o.k, o.k o.k and suddenly I came to the part of him hitting you and I have it clear. The man who hits a woman (or other way around) a woman he says he loves....How can you hit somebody you love? Break-up with him and find a man who deserves you. A man who would never hit you but would take care about you and appreciate you.
Be careful and do not wait, statistically the men who hit a women can hurt them seriously or even kill the later.
2006-09-29 12:18:12 · answer #4 · answered by Monika H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tink, if he's hitting you, he an abuser, ok. And it won't get any better. It doesn't sound like thats a very healthy relationship to be in. Fighting all the time is stressfull and stupid. I think you will regret giving up your virginity to this guy. Think about that ok. You only have one chance to lose your virginity, so make it special dear.
2006-09-29 12:18:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's obvious to me that you two fight too much and I'd say it is because he wants sex and you don't.
Hold your ground on the sex part and go find some guy who'll respect your wishes, ideals and won't hit you. Sex WILL NOT change the hitting aspect.
2006-09-29 12:18:35 · answer #6 · answered by usaf.primebeef 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has hit before than that is not real love; it's a sign of disrespect and it is abuse. I honestly feel you should break up before it gets worse. Don't let him pressure you into having sex. You are the only one who can decided when you are ready to do that so don't let anyone else's desire pressure you into it. Please get of this relationship while you can. You will be much better off.
2006-09-29 12:23:45 · answer #7 · answered by S&M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hitting you is a deal breaker! That's not the meaning when they say "Love hurts" Dump him. By the way, what football teams are you fighting over?
2006-09-29 12:18:09 · answer #8 · answered by Steve G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want someone who treats you abusively (even if he loves you) to take something from you, like your virginity, that no-one can replace? In my experience, men who are physically violent (it doesn't matter how hard or how often it happens, it's still violence and abuse) only escalate to more violence. If you allow him to treat you like that, how will he ever respect you. Respect and love go hand in hand. If he doesn't respect you, he doesn't love you enough. There are better, kinder, real men out there. There is one for you and this guy isn't it. The fights aren't the problem. He is.
2006-09-29 12:17:34 · answer #9 · answered by Luckiest_Wife_EVER 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you wait and ask him, God has the perfect man waiting for you. Do you know God? He loves you, and really wants the best for you.. Don't loose your verginity just because your boy friend wants you to, its not worth it. Hold strong and pray about it, God will give you peace. You can e-mail me if you want some one to talk to, I'm rissasaurus@yahoo.com
1 I waited patiently for the Lord; he turned to me and heard my cry. 2 He lifted me out of the slimy pit, out of the mud and mire; he set my feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand. 3 He put a new song in my mouth, a hymn of praise to our God. Many will see and fear and put their trust in the Lord. Psalm 40:1-3
2006-09-29 12:42:02 · answer #10 · answered by Amber 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perfect? Girl, pleaseee he hits you!!! Dump him and move on... like what you said you two fight all the time, so I guess the perfect moments are very rare.
2006-09-29 12:18:44 · answer #11 · answered by Dawn Treader 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋