2006-09-29 05:08:59 · 52 answers · asked by Fox Hunter 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Is it cheating if you are not happy in a relationship ?
2006-09-29 05:09:36 · update #1
Just for the record why do people assume that you get std's from cheating. I would take the same precautions as I would with anyone that I slept with. Stupid not to!!!!
2006-09-29 05:17:07 · update #2
And I'm not married.
2006-09-29 05:19:31 · update #3
I'm not for it. Cheating is cheating. Get out of the relationship first, then start a new one.
2006-09-29 05:09:50 · answer #1 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's cheating if you're not happy in a relationship - "in a relationship" are the key words there! Cheating happens BECAUSE you're not happy in a relationship. If you're not happy, either sort it out or get out!
Too many people seem to be so scared of being on their own that they can't get out of a relationship without having another to go to, and that's really sad!
There are worse things than not being in a relationship - like cheating on someone, which by the very secrecy of it leads to that person being deceived about the state of the relationship, perhaps under the impression that everything is ok, and not therefore getting honesty and being allowed to move on and find someone who will treat them with respect, honesty and decency.
If you're thinking about cheating, do the decent thing and make up your mind what you want before you act like a cowardly little idiot and hurt people more than you need to.
2006-09-29 05:54:12 · answer #2 · answered by pomme_blanche_2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. it's cheating. Don't do it. Nothing good can come of it - for anyone.
Cheating is selfish and cowardly. You can't stand the thought of accepting responsibility for your own unhappiness or, God-forbid, the responsibility for resolving that issue on your own. Instead, you need someone else to fan your self-esteem and make you happy. That doesn't work. In the end, you use the person with whom you are having an affair; you betray the original partner; whether knowingly or not, you may expose everyone involved to STDs; and you forever relinquish the ability to trust yourself and others. Don't drag your partner, your potential partner, or yourself through such trauma merely to stroke your ego for a moment. Instead, be fair to all parties by either leaving the relationship that makes you unhappy or by working (gasp!) to resolve the issues within that relationship. Think about the others that are involved and, when you act, make sure that you can look back when it is all over and respect the person who committed those actions.
2006-09-29 05:44:30 · answer #3 · answered by ConfusedWife 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is cheating even if you are not happy in your relationship.
The only time it is not cheating is if you discuss it with your spouse and they say it is ok. Say, for example, you both are unhappy in the relationship. You might between you decide that you will stay married for the kids, but that you will date other people - one can babysit while the other is out, as it were.
Cheating means that you have made a promise or a vow to be true and then don't. Cheating = secretly breaking the rules.
Peace!
PS - to CuriousMe: Most people do not do it. There are lots of relationships that have to deal with this issue at one time or another, but most people honor their vows and promises and do not cheat.
2006-09-29 05:13:10 · answer #4 · answered by carole 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not happy in a relationship - end it honestly. Unhappiness is no excuse to cheat on another unless you put your cards on the table and give your partner the same choices! It is difficult to lie and stressful to yourself and your partner. Keep everything honest, then you will go into a new relationship with no guilt feelings, and your partners can do the same! Sometimes a weak person can fancy someone else and only then decide that the existing relationship is unhappy!!!
2006-09-29 05:15:39 · answer #5 · answered by Techno blonde 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is cheating even if you are unhappy. I know. I did it. I was unhappy and left. I was looking for love in all the wrong places. I was in a long unhappy relationship with 3 kids. I worked full time. That is what kept me going...and the kids. Then they grew up and ugh....all alone. Spouse is always gone, busy, and unattentive , and angry. Yes it is cheating and you will have a guilt complex like no other, no matter what the other person is like. You made a promise to that person. Married? You made a committment to that person. My suggestion: Leave before you cheat. Trust me
2006-09-29 05:12:19 · answer #6 · answered by lucy p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, just break up first. I didn't and still regret all the cheating I did even though I was not happy. If I would have ended the relationship before fooling around I think my conscience would be much purer. Now I have a hard time trusting too.
2006-09-29 05:11:41 · answer #7 · answered by h1joy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My past relationship i cheated... i wasn't proud of it and all party's involved got hurt including myself. I don't agree with it, if your not happy with someone just leave. After i cheated i broke up with my boyfriend because i had know for ages we weren't working or happy and cheating on him proved my point that we shouldn't be together. Married or not it's still cheating. I would never do it again and i would hate for it to be done again to me as it has. To many people get hurt just end your relationship if your thinking about it !
2006-09-29 05:40:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think just being in a relationship that you're not happy in is cheating in a way. You're not being honest with your partner about how you feel and they might be coasting along thinking everything is fine. And if they know there's a problem, why on earth as you still togther?
You're obviously looking around for a better offer. Finish your unhappy relationship now then you can sleep with who you like guilt-free.
2006-09-29 05:32:49 · answer #9 · answered by Fifi L'amour 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is so WRONG!!!!!!!!!!!! It is mean and spiteful. If you are not happy where you are in a relationship, break up and then move on. There is NO need to cheat, and there is no good excuse for it either. Break up then move on.
And yes it is cheating if you do it because you are not happy.
And Karen is a jerk!! Any sexual touch to anyone other than your husband or b/f or wife or g/f is cheating.
2006-09-29 05:12:57 · answer #10 · answered by hummingbird 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋