Since our break up my boys father has not had any contact with this family. Oh he will talk to my 18 year this oldest one of our to. But that is wrong just because he hurt me does not mean he has to take it out on the innocent ones he does nto wnat no relationship with his 16 year old or his grandchildren no his daughter (adopted) back in my home town by him. I asked him and told him he needs to keep it going but he wants everyone to feel pitty for him. this is hurting his kids real bad what can i do to try to keep them in togehter. out of 18 years he just get up and out of the picture like a coward who cannot face the fact that he hurt me in front of his kids.
2006-09-29 05:06:18 · 13 answers · asked by pooh 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
He's missing out on a great relationship with his kids, not you. So you don't worry about him. Just enjoy your children and let them know that you love them and will never leave them (until death). I just hope that he doesn't wake up when it's to late and his kids don't care about him any more.
2006-09-29 05:20:14 · answer #1 · answered by im2cute4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry this happened to you. He could be Scared of what the Future will hold, or he feels Guilty. If you want him back in your life, let him know you forgive him, you Love him and to talk about what he's feeling. And, that you and the Kids want him back. If he is worth. If you keep trying, and nothing happens, well explain to your Kids that he may not come around any more in a Gentle way. Say a Prayer for him, and then get on with your Life. Godbless!
2006-09-29 06:09:25 · answer #2 · answered by td 06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually mean are not the only ones who have done this. Case in point. A youngster who lives in my neighborhood who is now 21, had her mother get up and walk out on her when she was 13. Just didn't want to deal with children and hubby i guess.
People do this because they are afraid. Afriad of Commitment. Plane and simple.
2006-09-29 05:44:06 · answer #3 · answered by mikeae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is exactly why he won't make contact with the kids. He hurt you in front of them as you say, so now he feels embarrest. But he is wrong, the kids don't have anything to do with it, good look.
2006-09-29 05:16:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't deserve to be a father. A real parent can't bear to be apart from their child/children. A real father would go out of his way to be a good role model to his children, to provide for them financially, and to make time for them.
Accept that everything happens for a reason, be glad that your children still have you to take care of them, and move on. Leave him behind.
2006-09-29 05:08:39 · answer #5 · answered by Lanani 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a loser to me. The kids are probably better off without him. I've never understood how anyone could ignore their own flesh and blood.
2006-09-29 05:10:05 · answer #6 · answered by cramcram62 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like the WHOLE FAMILY dynamic is screwed up here, not just him. Family counseling, and quick!
2006-09-29 05:09:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some men never grow up. You can't make him see the kids, but he will regret it when he realizes what he's missed.
2006-09-29 05:08:11 · answer #8 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
F Him if he did that he was never worth anything
2006-09-29 05:09:17 · answer #9 · answered by texassweetheart254 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is a jerk let him go and move on. He isn't worth it.
2006-09-29 05:08:19 · answer #10 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋