I couple of months ago I fell in love with a certain person and she also with me. Well we broke up about 4 months ago and I am still very in love with her but we both have a new person with us. I promised her I would always love her and all of that stuff but I don't know what to do. I got a new gf that means so much to me but I can't let go of my ex. The reason I'm confused is my ex has already had sex but I still love/want a life with her but don't want to hurt my new gf to whom I fear I am also beginning to get very strong feelings for her.... any advice such as... Should I stay with my gf now who makes me really happy or should I still talk to my ex about getting back together... or just let things play out on there own WHAT DO I DO?
2006-09-29 05:01:19 · 39 answers · asked by ¥Captain_Random¥ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Living through a situation very close to the one your in, I can tell you that the worst thing to do is let things play out. This is a major decision in your life, and if there's confusion, you need to make it alone. There is no reason to drag someone along with you until you figure out exactly what you want, it will utlimately make things much easier for you.
Bottom line, if you feel you truely love this girl, if you can see her as the person you can grow old with, don't let it play out, you'll regret everyday that you let it go... Good luck
2006-09-29 05:19:54 · answer #1 · answered by J.H. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
none of what your saying makes sense. You said you fell in love with some a couple months ago. Then you went on to say you broke up four months ago. Did you read what you typed??? So you broke up with her and two months after you broke, you realized you loved her, is that what your saying?
Why are you confused about your ex having sex. She is your ex so what she does should not concern you. If your ex wanted you back she would have told you. She has someone new and so do you. So have you taken the hint yet?
Yes you should stay with your gf. Your ex has moved on for a reason. she does not want you. why risk loosing something right in front of you, for something that you do not have.
have you heard the song...
IF YOU CANT BE WITH THE ONE YOU LOVE, LOVE THE ONE YOUR WITH.
Love is to a game nor a pawn. You treat love as something owed to you. Your ex had a bf, let her be and be happy with the one you have. Before you have no one. Time heals all wounds ok.
IF WHAT YOU HAD WITH YOUR EX WAS REALLY LOVE AND SHE LOVED YOU, THEN THE TWO OF YOU WOULD HAVE NEVER BROKE UP.
2006-09-29 05:13:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, why did you guys break up if you're still in love? That's pretty important because if you're just in different places right now, maybe you should date other people but agree not to go exclusive because you'd still like to see if something can work in the future. If it was a compatibility issue, just let it go because people can't change their personalities.
Also, it's not fair to your new girlfriend that you have these feelings for your old one. You should tell her (the new one) that you need some time or that you really like her but you want to go slow. Then use that time to decide. While she's getting all attached to you and thinking this might be going somewhere, you're still dreaming of a life with your old girlfriend. Be honest with the new girlfriend and tell her you're still trying to figure things out.
2006-09-29 05:11:56 · answer #3 · answered by abrennan01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should try to get your ex back...if you really want her. Don't prolong things with this new girl and keep leading her on I mean if you do get back with your ex now it will save the new girl a lot of hearteache that you are ending it now than later. However, you do need to find out with your ex where her head is at about the two of you hooking back up cuz if she doesn't want that then you are wasting your time, and could possibly ruin things with the new girl.....your ex having sex with another guy shouldn't matter bcuz I'm sure you hade sex with the current one. same rules apply dude....lol anyways good luck!
just be careful you don't end up alone.
2006-09-29 05:11:15 · answer #4 · answered by Belle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex is your ex for a reason. You tried it, and for whatever reason, it just didn't work out. You can love her forever (i.e. have warm fond feelings for her and wish her all the best in life) without being together with her.
My advice is to put the past behind you and look ahead to a bright new future. The new is always better than the old - if only because we learn to choose more carefully based upon past problems. You can not live in the past and you can never go back. Enjoy your lovely new girl and count yourself lucky to have her and to have known and loved the ex.
Peace!
2006-09-29 05:08:05 · answer #5 · answered by carole 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all if you'll were so meant to be I dont think you'll would have broken up, your ex and you. So leave it alone. Sorry to burst your bubble but its dead forget about it, you will eventually see that what I'm sayig is true and you'll totally forget about these feelings and desires to remain with her. But now with your new g/f be sweet to her, never never compare her to this ex!!! Remeber everything happens for a reason and she may be the one, give this new relationship time and look at it from a unique and understanding point of view. Be happy, live the present stop haunting yourself with the past and don't you hurt this new girls feelings by draggin her along like a doll is you don't really want something serious and nice with her!!!
2006-09-29 05:06:04 · answer #6 · answered by lasugarfree 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel so strongly about your ex than you shouldn't be in a relationship with someone else. If you care about your current GF at all then let her go...you are not being fair to her. It''' be a terrible situation if she realizes that you're feelings are soo strong for your ex. I would let your new GF go...take some time for yourself to chill and figure things out in your own heart then maybe talk with your ex about getting back together.
2006-09-29 05:04:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you decide to do, you have to stick to your guns.
First off, who broke up with whom? If she broke up with you then you have to respect her feelings and leave well enough alone. If you broke up with her, then you failed the first test of sticking to your guns. The ex always seems tastier when they've found someone else. What ever happened to the reasons you broke up? Because they won't change just because time has passed.
Next, I think you're not doing anyone justice in this situation. Are you with your new girl because it was a rebound? Show some respect to her. You should have settled down your feelings within yourself before you began again with someone new.
And back to my first statement. It doesn't matter what you decide. What matters is that you don't get wishy washy about it. If you go back to the ex, don't all of a sudden yearn for the new girl you just dumped. And vice versa.
2006-09-29 05:16:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u obviously love the old one more, otherwise you wouldn't even be confused...i say follow your heart!...if you love ur ex more, then you should really be with her, and stop the new relationship before you both get too into it and really hurt...lemme ask u this, WHY did u break up with ur ex?...sometimes the fact that u love someone, does not guarantee that you two can and will always be together!..so think about WHY you both broke up and hwther the differences have been healed enough for you 2 to get back together. you dont wanna diss the new girl, only to find out though u love ur ex, u 2 just cant be together...love aint everything..be wise
2006-09-29 05:06:28 · answer #9 · answered by Luxoire 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on why you and your ex broke up. If you can both see past that and both want to get back together and work it out then work it out. I think your current girlfriend would be happier nowing that you were with someone you love, if she is understanding. If she doesn't want to get back with you, then move on, try getting ride of all the things about her or she gave to you, etc. Ask your new Girlfriend to help you get over her, ask her for suggestions.
2006-09-29 05:06:54 · answer #10 · answered by angel5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋