I have been divorced for 3 years and have done no dating until now. I go out with the guy about once a week but i want to go start seeing him more. Its just my daughter and i. her father left us when she was a baby so i don't get any free weekends. Would it be selfish of me to see this guy more than just once a week?
2006-09-29 04:58:22 · 16 answers · asked by kit-cat 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are getting serious about this guy, maybe you can schedule some time when you all 3 do something together - or have him come over once your child is asleep or after dinner, when she settles down to homework and tv or something. It is not selfish to want to see him more - you just need to be creative about how you do it, so your daughter doesn't feel bad about it.
Peace!
2006-09-29 05:02:43 · answer #1 · answered by carole 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course you can and i commend you on your long wait to renter the single life . i see nothing wrong with going out more then once a week, as long as you have a great babysitter and it's at night and not taking time from your daughter is just fine. good luck in the dating game and just be careful there are a lot of fake man so take your time and have lots of fun but keep your eyes and ears open lol
2006-09-29 05:18:17 · answer #2 · answered by sexyswells42 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I also am a single mom of two,divorced. I go out maybe once a weekend. I understand your dilemma. I believe that just because
we are moms does'nt mean we are dead. and sometimes we need a pick me up just like anyone else if not more.everyone deserves me time.Although my children are 13 and 10.I would wait until my baby was older before leaving them to often. maybe invite him over sometimes. after the baby is sleep. A happy mom is a better mom. trust me on that
2006-09-29 05:07:13 · answer #3 · answered by Nicnak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well how old is your daughter? She sounds like she is only 3 or 4 so I don't think she would miss you if you are not around for a few hours. Make sure you have a good babysitter for her though so you are not worried while you are out. Good luck
2006-09-29 05:02:16 · answer #4 · answered by cramcram62 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It wouldn't be selfish, go ahead. But just remember who's more important, and don't make it a habit. Two maybe three times should be fine.
2006-09-29 05:03:17 · answer #5 · answered by a7xrios 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being a single father myself hell i say go out with him more then once a week hell as long as you still spend time with her threw out the week and what not i dont see any problem hell and if he wants the responcibility of being thechilds father dont let him slip away hell not to many guys are going to want that responcibility
2006-09-29 05:06:38 · answer #6 · answered by aaron b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all! Go for it girl!
As long as your daughter is looked after properly while you're out. Go have a good time. You deserve it!
2006-09-29 05:00:13 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Sammi♥ 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no,but just don't put him over you child. do like i do, company comes over when my kids are sleep. now no one will be in your business because you don't need a baby sitter as much.and when your child wakes up,he will not be there. depends on the age of the child when you want them to meet ya friend. my rules mama always in the bed by herself. never let them see another man in the bed unless you are ready for the talk. I guess thats why my kids always ask me, "mama you not sad by yourself?"
2006-09-29 05:06:30 · answer #8 · answered by funoburgmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not selfish at all, make sure your daughter is in good hands and go out with your new man, you gotta live too
2006-09-29 05:02:31 · answer #9 · answered by hermosa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be very careful that you don't get sexual with him. I know that is what a lot of single moms do, even on the 1st date ! Don't get desperate!
2006-09-29 06:46:26 · answer #10 · answered by Kendra H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋