Law enforcement officers in here??

Question

I want to know??? Why cops have the highest divorce rate, so I heard??? B-cuz I want to find me a cop man for myself, lol, thnx guyz!

Answer 1

I'm not sure it matters if your a cop or not. I think its the marriage itself. I have been in law enforcement for the last 10 years. My first wife and I got divorced after 3 and a half years of marriage. My second wife and I are still happily married after 5 years.

I do not blame my divorce on my career. I blame it on us. I think its the same with everyone else. If you get married for the wrong reasons then the marriage will end in divorce. If you get married because you are in love, then it will last.

A lot of officers start their careers early in life. They still have a lot of soul searching and growing up to do. If they get married at this point, its not because of their career, its because they still have some change to do and that may not be compatible with their other half.

Good luck in your search, but do not marry just because he is an officer. Marry because you truly love him. Also good luck in your career choice as an officer yourself.

Answer 2

You can blame the high divorce rate of police personnel on the job. Being a police officer is not a job it is a life choice. When a person chooses to become a police officer they choose to be placed in the public eye. They choose to take a closer look at societies gross internal workings. They choose to get up close to people that nobody else would care to get close to. Going to work every day and trudging through homes while stepping on dog crap, maggots, and cockroaches to talk to a women who was beaten by her boyfriend, finding unattended deaths where there is no family to contact, seeing suicides who give up on life by putting a bullet through their skull, traffic accidents where a teenager has died, talking to suspects (pretending you understand their point of view) who have sexually molested a baby or child so you can get a good arrest and put them away for a long time, being a referee for the same families over and over again, raising children who's parents don't care, getting spit at on a regular basis, getting into physical altercations on a regular basis, and dealing with other peoples drama are all just a small part of the job. Even the hardest person can't ignore that stress for ever and honestly if you are not a police officer you can't understand... this means that cops significant others don't understand. In fact the only people that understand are his/her coworkers and that's why cops stick together and are tight like family.
A cop who works 8 hours a day 5 days a week may interact with 8 new people a day. This means that each work week 40 new people will remember that officer but that officer may only recall one of those people... maybe. Cops really have to care, or be good at pretending to care, about each of those persons problems and concern to do a good job.
Now back to the cops significant other, fighting the myth that "all cops are dogs," "all cops are drunks", "all cops are dirty", "all cops are abusers" and there are many more. I thnk that if someone plans on being with a cop that person has to have 100 times more trust in his/her cop than a normal person and it is harf for anyone to trust that much. When a cop isn't working he or she is still a cop to those he or she met while working so if you and your cop boyfriend are out renting a movie and a pretty girl says hello to your cop boyfriend and talks to him for a minute and you ask him, "honey who was that?" and he probably will say, "i don't know" or "i think I helped her last week" you may say "ok" and go about your evening.... but this is going to happen hundreds of more times and eventually you may fall back into the myths.... and the myths will tear down your trust if you let it.... and you too will leave your cop....

Answer 3

cops can be best or worst. If big city, where 2 man cars are common cops learn to "live and play with others " 8 hours a day with a regular partner so have some skills at this. And salaries almost everywhere with overtime exceed 50k so are above average in most communities. Benefits and vacation time is also usually excellent. But if you hook up with a cop you also become married to his job. Lots of work on weekends, holidays nights. Cops can become "full of themselves and too good for their families" . Nothing worse than a person who thinks now I'm educated or professional etc and I'm suddenly better than my partner. Cops do this sometimes. Luck of the draw kid when you get together with a cop.

Answer 4

Because of the inability a lot of cops have to leave the stresses and high tensions of work at work. A cop must know, and be trained if necessary, to switch roles... From a rock hard solid persona to a loving, caring and compassionate husband... and that is something that takes a lot of self work...

Answer 5

Johnny funds - Folsom reformatory Blues Bob Marley - I Shot the Sheriff Ini Kamoze - call the Police Bruce Springsteen - highway Patrolman Randy Newman - Jolly Coppers on Parade :)

Answer 6

I'm a cop with a Ph.D, as they say, a young, rouge vigilante that is a master of deception and firearms tactical training. I've had my share of police brutality cases but I've come out untouched, armed, and ready to kill

Answer 7

Stress and lack of being able to share it with their spouse.

Suicide rate in retirement is higher too.

Answer 8

Because spouces can't handle the fear of him being shot. They take a risk everytime they put that uniform on.