So I started dating this boy right when college started. I didn't even want to get into a relationship so fast but he is one of those guys who was just 2 good to pass up on.
The last 7 weeks have been unreal. He is the nicest sweetest cutest guy who dsn't knw how adorable he is and it would get to the point of him texting or visiting or calling was almost 2 much with him only living a lfoor above me.
Over the last 4 days he has just like made absoutly no contact with me. I text him and he won't respond and if he does it's a yes or no. I'll text him and tell him to call me when he gets back, i'll see him get back in the building and he won't call me and his sn is never online. This isn't him and my gut tells me something wrong. I talked to him 2 days ago by waiting for him and he sayed things where fine and started to ignore me.
I cryed myself to sleep last night. he is always in the back of my mind jabbing my heart everyday. I never knew I cared for him so much.
2006-09-29 04:36:00 · 12 answers · asked by Coxie Megan 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I’m going to go 2 his room to talk to him today after classes. I know something is wrong and if he wants to end things (he has never really dated too much) I need closure, because this is affecting me trying to work my hardest at school without all this stress. I adore him and really don’t want to loose him.
When I go to his room what am I going to say. Please Help.
(Please don’t be mean I just want opinions if your going to write something mean just don’t write it at all)
2006-09-29 04:36:07 · update #1
Simply tell him you need to talk... if he says no tell him that is a bunch of crock. He is acting differently- give some examples. You believe you have done nothing wrong so the least he can do is give you an explanation.
Life is full of heartbreaks. You will be fine if it doesnt work out. Take it as a learning experience- next time you will know that know matter how good it seems it will be worth the time to wait and get to know the guy.
2006-09-29 04:47:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely go with your gut. Years ago I had a similar situation and when I was very blunt in saying 'look, something's going on and I need to know. If you want to break up with me now, do it. If it's something else, please tell me...' He didn't break up with me, things were OK for a bit, then it started all over again. I found out years later he was messing around with two of my close friends. Not saying that's what's happening here but I should've trusted my gut and even though he said everything was OK, he was never the same.
So, when you talk to him just say that there is a difference in the way he's been acting with you and you'd like to know if something else is going on or is it something else. Say that it's a lot easier to be open and honest now then to prolong anything or not get stuff out in the open.
I think some people use the cold shoulder as a way to get YOU to break up with them, rather than do it themselves. You know, ignore and treat you badly enough for you to get frustrated and say "fine, I can't take this anymore." Just because they don't have the nerve to do it themselves.
So talk as openly and honestly as possible. It definitely sounds like he has some reservations whether it's because someone else has caught his eye or he's not comfortable with his relationship with you. You never know, maybe he saw you flirting with someone else or saw you do something and misconstrued it or perhaps a friend of his thinks they saw something...
Best thing is to try to get him to be open and honest. You know something is wrong, don't accept "no, everything is fine" as an answer. If that's his story, you might be better off saying "look, you and I both know you're acting different whether you want to admit it to me or not. I like you but I'm not going to play around like this so if you can't be open and honest with me, than you can't be with me at all. "
Hope all goes well.
I know it doesn't seem like it now but even if this is the end of the relationship, it won't be the end of your life or heart. College is an exciting time and you have the opportunity to meet a lot of people and explore new friendships. Don't let this get to you too much. You'll move past it!
2006-09-29 05:06:22 · answer #2 · answered by stimply 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is a jerk. he's chatting with somebody else or possibly even doing issues with distinctive females. He needs the time aside to do what he has to do and that's sleep around then whilst he's accomplished he can fall decrease back on you. If he did no longer desire to show you his telephone no count what he replace into speaking approximately then he's hiding something from you. do no longer fall into his take time without work to think of roughly his destiny. the two you re going to keep in touch or no longer. If he chooses to go away then you definately progression on and don't seem decrease back simply by fact he will use you. Im sorry to sound so harsh yet I quite have been in many relationships and im in simple terms attempting to make it easier to recognize do no longer waste a while there are a lot reliable adult men available to be waiting on one that would not have a clue what they desire in life. Take care.
2016-12-12 17:22:53 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he had a girlfriend all along hun, get over him. You can go confront him just tell him that you don't like this new state of affairs and if he wants to follow that up well he knows where to find you. If you keep chasing after him you'll only make yourself less attractive to him.
Move on, believe that sweet as he is, you can do without him, and in the end if anyone loses out, let it be him. No need to make your grades suffer.
If he's that unpredictable now, even if u patched things up, it could happen again when you have fallen even deeper for him and its harder to recover.
It's still too early to let love ruin your life. Just be content to have him as a friend, and not one that you are always pursuing.
2006-09-29 04:51:29 · answer #4 · answered by stj 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just tell him exactly what you have stated above, that you did not intend on getting in to a relationship, that he won your heart over and that you care for him very much, you feel that something has changed, and you were wondering where you stand with him,.. you may have nothing to worry about at all, your relationship may have just reached a Plato stage, and will move along later ( you did say things went pretty fast at first) maybe now time is catching up with the relationship.
2006-09-29 04:47:29 · answer #5 · answered by hailey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you say, it does sound like it is over, unfortunately. My advice would be to just tell him what you talked about in your question, he will either want to talk about it, and work it out, or let you know that it is over. But I wouldn't go any further than this, because you don't want to come across as some sort of psycho. Good luck!
2006-09-29 04:49:16 · answer #6 · answered by CJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your guy gets p**sed off in any of these cases. Look where you stand.
1. Not enough space. OK, so all guys enjoy being LOVED by girls, but too much of it makes them take her for granted, same is true even for girls to be fair. It;s just that he needs more space, and wants to concentrate on other things, maybe his studies, maybe something in his family, maybe something that he doesn't want to share with you now. So, respect his decision, and give him space. Just forget him for even a month, and by that I mean, just don't think of him. Try to concentrate in your own things, and one day call up, I'm sure he would be missing you.
2. Found a better sweetheart--This is every girl's nightmare. Well, if he thinks he doesn't need you, he really doesn't. Just forget him, you DESERVED better. Whatever happens, don't let him take you for granted. You're precious, and if he doesn't realize it, SCREW him.
2006-09-29 04:44:30 · answer #7 · answered by quilm 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He sounds like a you like him a lot but you need to like your self a whole lot more. If a guy doesn't want to be with you then that's his loss. When you go to his room Tell him your sick of his sh*t and that your breaking up with him and when he grows up, then if your free, maybe you can talk about it. And go on with your life, I know it hurts but you can't give a guy that kind of power over you.
2006-09-29 06:37:27 · answer #8 · answered by mschrissy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He played you like a fiddle and now he is moving on to the next instrument - or wants to tune you to the melody of HIS desires. Stop slobbering all over him and move on. You have an education to think about.
2006-09-29 04:51:33 · answer #9 · answered by north79004487 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he is the nicest, sweetest dude, he probably already had a girl.
2006-09-29 04:45:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋