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my toddler is described as chuckie only difference he doesnt murder ppl. he terrorizes everything, he climbs and gets into things he shouldnt,he hits other kids for no apparent reasons,he put magic marker all over my tv,he flushes my things down the toilet stopping it up,he goes in the refrig and pours milk all in the refrig and wasting other foods,when we go into a store and someone speaks to him out of kindness he hits them,he keeps turning the stove knobs on,he throws things and hits people with things and a whole lot more he does i have tried talking to him ALOT of times explaining to him its not nice to do those things,i have put him in time out but he will not stay there and i discipline him when he doesnt do his time out, i take away things that he likes to play with he just laughs,i discipline him and nothing has worked. he is 5 he just started to act like this recently

Answer 1

He may have a medical condition, have you sought professional advice? You should, before he drives you insane, it may not be his fault.

Answer 2

WHOA hunny!!! Your five year old DEFINITELY shouldnt be doing these things. If you have been firm and CONSISTENT in your discipline and he is still doing all these things, you may want to consult his physician. He could be hyperactive and just has an internal need to always want to touch or be involved in something. There are numerous prescriptions out there that can help, and even though lots of parents dont like the thought of giving their kids drugs, think about the alternative.... THIS. You certainly dont want him to continue this behavior when he starts school and Im sure this is impacting your life as your friends probably dont like being around when your son acts like this. The key is that you stop this behavior when he's young. There are child psychologists and behavior specialists out there. If you really cant handle this problem on your own, get help asap! Look on the internet for specialist in your area or ask your doctor for references! Good Luck... and remember, he's just a child and he will only do what you allow him to do!

One more thing...the fact that you refer to your 5 year old as a toddler is a problem in itself. Toddlers are still learning how to behave... a five year old needs a whole 'nother level of disciplining. If youre doing the same thing when he was 3 as you are now when he is 5, you need a diciplining overhaul! He's a big boy now, not a baby, you MUST treat him as such. He know what you mean when you say something, dont blow his ignoring you off as "just something that kids do" and that he really doesnt comprehend directions! He knows... right now he is testing you. If you are harsh and firm with him, it will not stop him from loving you. Do it now so the police dont do it later!

Answer 3

"he starts to laugh" he is laughing because you are not hard enough with your discipline of him. - you haven't taken away what he really likes to play with, and not for long enough. You haven't been consistent with him. Get him under control. What is he doing on the stove top?

How does he get his hands on magic erasor? And what is he doing in the toilet? You really have to be the person in control here, be the parent. He is running the show, and you better get control of him; he is only a toddler! Like he knows the difference! It's up to you to teach him limits, and teach him what respect is. He doesn't have it now. You have to talk to him sternly, often; and probably a spank or two would help.

He needs to learn, you are in control and certain behaviours will not be tolerated. he needs help, and fast. because the longer you let him run this show, the worst it will get. What is he doing in the refrigerator? These are priveleges for my toddlers, not something that is abused. Hang on to your seat, and teach him right from wrong. 1-2-3 Magic a book on discipline might help you get there. But, you should make this your purpose. Get it under control.

Yikes, I just realized he is 5 - not a todder. You can do it, just read all you can on discipline. All the best to you.

Answer 4

There is alot of things here to address, but the main thing is... if he is old enough to decide to destroy stuff and hit people, then hes old enough to take responsibility for his actions.

Magic Markers from now on should be off limits and put them away so he can't get them anymore.

Put child-proof doorknobs on all the doors in the house preventing the little guy from entering into places you don't want him to go. This also tells him that at any given time if he misbehaves he might just be sent to his room with no interaction from you for an hour or so (punishment). Also, always accompany him to the bathroom.

As far as the fridge, if he pours milk in the fridge or dumps food over or whatever he needs to clean it up (or at least help). Obviously he's going to throw a tantrum in you suggesting this, but that's because you're taking charge of the matter not letting him do what he wants. If he starts crying and making a scene (even in your own house) immediately grab him up and take him to his room (you know the one that has the childproof knobs on it) and let him cry it out. When he is done, come in there and ask him if he's ready to help clean the fridge. This may take several times before he gives in, but he will.

When you're out with him somewhere if he acts up take him home immediately (if possible). Even if you're grocery shopping, leave the stuff and go. If he hits someone ask him to apologize (of course he won't) and you apologize for his actions and remove yourself from the situation. The only thing you need to say to him is what he did is wrong in some fashion, to apologize, and let him throw his fit.

You say you've tried talking to him alot, well my guess is you do way too much. It shows him he can misbehave and get even more attention from you than he does normally. Think of ways to stop the situation right when he does it and give him less interaction/communication with you than he has normally. If you have a designated time-out spot that he gets up from grab his arm and firmly bring him back and sit him there WITHOUT making eye contact or saying anything. He'll probably get up and you'll have to drag him back there at least 5 times before you get a reaction out of him, being him crying and wallering on the ground. But make sure you don't give in regardless if he's crying out MOMMY MOMMY MOMMY. Keep him there for however long you said and start the clock over each time he gets up. I wouldn't recommend taking his toys away as added punishment because I think it overwhelms him. Only take away his toys if he is abusing them.

I think the cause of his misbehavior is because he wants more time spent with you. Try to set an extra hour out a day for you both to bond. I'm not saying sit there for an hour to talk, but maybe throw a ball around or build something with his legos or play nintendo together, read a book.

Ok I know this was really long, but I wanted to address each item individually and descriptively and I hope this helps you out very much. Hang in there girl, you seem to be on the right track just stay strong!!!

Answer 5

I think you take him to a psychiatrist, and talk to him/her about it. He may have A.D.H.D, or A.D.D. You can tell the psychiatrist what is going on, and when it started. He may be picked on in school (if he is in school) and it is causing him to do this. Sometimes when kids get picked on, they have the tendency to act this way. One way to discipline him if the time-out is not working, and taking away his toy(s) Give him a good spanking, and hopefully that will help out, because usually a spanking will help, since it could teach him not to act that way. If you are not to comfortable with a spanking, put him in time-out, and use the time-out by making him stand in the corner by having his nose touch the wall for 5 minutes, and if he leaves the time out, extend the time by 5 minutes each time he leaves the time-out. I recommend that you get help ASAP before things get worse.

Answer 6

you said you discipline him and the others are telling you to discipline him as if you didn't already stated that you do discipline him they are telling you to discipline your child as if they want you to literally beat your child., but like some one previously said it is not always the childs fault there could indeed be a medical problem such as adhd because it does sound as if he is Very hyper active. trust me your not the only one out there with this issue.take him to the dr and see if he has that disorder or just to find out what is going on period. i hope everything turns out for the better. Good luck and God bless you and your son.

Answer 7

He needs strong disclipine. You must ensure his bad behaviour does not gain any attention from you apart from you putting him in a room away from you. The experts recommend 1 minute for each year of your child`s life so if he is 3 yrs old then 3 minutes on his own and for a 5 yr old you could do it for 5 mins. It does work but you have to be firm and stick with it. No matter how much they scream you must keep doing it. Its a safe way of ensuring your child is disclipined. Good luck please try it.

Answer 8

Well there is a saying spare the rod and spoil the child. I was told that once to and it upset me. But it's the truth if I was you I would put him in time out and if I had to I would hold him there and if that didn't work I would spank him and let him know that they are consciences with acting like that. He is 5 he know allot more than he puts onto. I would make sure he knows who is boss. Kids usually will mind a male figure like dad or even grandpa. Good luck I would correct this know because it will get worse. I wish the best for you and your child

Answer 9

He's a toddler or 5? As a toddler, I would say he's unsupervised and needs better guidance. If he's 5, he has a real problem like ADHD or something else. Get help.

Answer 10

I read that kids will test you every 3 to6 mo.
stay on top of it . whatever you do dont back down.
I know you want to beat them at times like this but time out
dose work if you stay with it. DONT BACK DOWN!
my oldest was the same way, everybody told me that I wasnt
hard enough on her. If I was any harder on her she wouldnt be
alowd to move.and didnt at friends house.
There just teasting you though.
we will laugh about this when we get older.

Answer 11

im not trying to sound rude but you need to do two things one is spank his behind. 2 is get some parenting classes and behavior modification classes. he also may need anger mamangement classes. he is way to aggressive and it sounds like you let him. be consistent. you are the parent act like and by the way 5 years old is neither toddle or preschooler thats a kindergartener. you need to get some parenting classes and soon. spank him. and make him sit or stand in the corner for the time outs.