frustration?

Question

all the boys want to seduce me...they try it all the time....they want to make me as uncomfortable as possible...it is non-verbal...i need suggestions ...they sit next to me..or in front of me and i can feel their presence...i am under lot of strain....i want this to stop...

Answer 1

If they have a problem with you it is their problem, not yours. The problem stops when it stops in your head.

Answer 2

What on earth makes you think they're even interested in seducing you? Get real girl!. Maybe they just need some place to sit where the scenery isn't too bad.
If you're afraid of them, best to take charge of the situation by taking the lead. Try something non-verbal, like a smile & see if they even notice you. If so, try something pleasant & verbal. Remember you're in charge & you can close the contact pleasantly whenever you like. Practice this. As your confidence with this sort of contact increases, you'll find you can begin to distinguish between the ones who are OK and the odd creep or two who you really don't want around. But you'll know how to get rid of them too. In fact, by learning to take the lead, you'll soon discover you don't even need to react if you don't want to. Yeah! You can learn to out-cool them! Pick & choose. but you've got to start learning basic social skills by initiating the contact, keeping in charge & being pleasant. This will stop the strain - unless of course it is caused by something entirely unrelated. Give yourself a pat on the back for every time you a) initiate b) take charge c) end the contact without being unpleasant.

Answer 3

I have the same problem! A lot of girls do! There are a few solutions.....I don't have to be around a lot of guys, but when I am, and they put me in an uncomfortable situation, I will try to say something to make them look really stupid, or just plain out ignore them, because they're really just trying to get a reaction out of you. Or REPORT IT. Why are us women so afraid to do that? Well hope I helped you out some.

Answer 4

You think boys are seducing you because they sit in front of you? boy sit next to me all the time, if they need to sit down they sit next to me! You should really see a doc. about this problem of yours.

Answer 5

We teach people how to treat us. Verbal and nonverbal language either permits or prohibits behavior. You need to decide how you want to be treated and behave in that manner. Could it be that a part of you really is enjoying the attention and their behavior. I think so. You are getting something from it or you would not tolerate it. Soul search and stand up for who you are. The way you dress, talk, act sends signals to others telling them how you want to be treated.

Answer 6

A man goes to a shop, picks up a beautiful cup and says "my god this cup is so beautiful" and suddenly the cup starts talking to the man. The cup starts saying "O man, I am beautiful right now, but what was the state of my being before the pot-maker made me a beautiful pot?

Before I was sheer mud and the pot-maker pulled me out of the mud from the mother earth and I felt why that pot-maker is so cruel, he has separated me from mother earth. I felt a tremendous pain. And the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then he put me and churned me, when I was churned I felt so giddy, so painful, so stressful, I asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then he put me into a oven and heated me up, I felt completely burnt. There was tremendous pain and I asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" and the pot-maker said, "Just wait."

Then he poured hot paint on me and I felt the fume and the pain, I again asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" and the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then again he put me into an oven and heated it to make me more strong, I felt life is so painful hence pleaded the pot-maker and the pot-maker said, "Just wait." And after that the pot-maker took me to the mirror and said, "Now look at yourself". And surprisingly I found myself so beautiful.

When god gives us lot of trouble, it appears god is very cruel but we need patience and we have to wait. When bad things happen to good people, they become better and not bitter.

So all difficulties are part of a cosmic design to make us really beautiful. We need patience, we need understanding, we need the commitment to go through in a very calm and wise way. So all difficulties are not to tumble us but to humble us.

With this understanding, let us not be against difficulty. Understand difficulty is a part of a purifying process. A purifying process at present which we cannot understand and hence we need faith and we need trust.

Let us understand how to handle stress with this background. You can be affected by stress from two angles. There is an internal stress and there is an external stress. Nobody can avoid stress; one has to only manage stress. Managing stress can be internal and also external.

The internal stress is; your thoughts can create stress, your values can create stress, and your beliefs can create stress, meaning thereby your stress is coming from your mind more from the outer world. Many people suffer not from heart attack - they suffer from thought-attack.

For example, when somebody says you are an idiot, we get so hurt, we get so victimised. My boss has called me an idiot and I am feeling tremendous pain. Now where does this stress come from? If my boss has called me an idiot, I have to ask myself "am I an idiot"?

If I am an idiot nothing to be upset about; and if I am not an idiot, then also nothing to be upset about! It is the perception of the boss. But why do we suffer from that stress? I suffer not because my boss has called me an idiot but because of the thought-attack.

I may say the boss has called me an idiot; therefore I am suffering? It is true that the words are unpleasant. But what hurts is the interpretation of the unpleasant word. The thought in me interprets. That is pain and therefore it becomes pain. Much of our stress is our mind interpreting it as pain. So we suffer from thought-attack more than heart attack.

Answer 7

You need to tell some body- any body- get ya a big brother that will kick their butt if you have to- take control and make this stop- OR tell your mom or dad- DO IT!

Answer 8

Have you told to stop have you told the teacher anything. let me know what happens email me at [e-mail]

Answer 9

Are the boys all gay then?