Looking for a young mom like myself to relate with?

Question

I am a 21 yrs old and a mother to a one year old little girl. I would really like to make a friend in the same situation. I live in Maryland and dont have any friends that have children. None of my friends really understand what its like. Most mothers are older than me. I am just looking for someone close to my age to talk with.

Answer 1

I'm 22 and just had my second baby 3 weeks ago, i had my oldest when I was 19, he'll be 3 in February. i completly understand the no friends thing. all of mine were busy out getting drunk and wasting their lives while i've been going to school and trying to raise my kids and help my husband. it gets really lonely when your best friends are all in their 30's. obviously i don' tmind, but the only real friends i have now are my sister in law who's got 6 kids and works all the time, my 35 year old babysitter who's got two teenagers closer to my age and my mother in law. i just don't have anything in common with my old friends anymore and it's hard to find new ones. I get so excited when someone else gets pregnant b/c then i know they'll be like me and maybe i'llg et some friend back, but very few of them have donethat, most of them are still acting like they're in high and it's not worth the time...but it does get lonely

Answer 2

I would put in a call to some local mom's groups. I was 31 when I had my first, but when I joined Mothers and More one of my first friends was a 22 or 23 (can't remember her exact age) year old new mom. Our daughters were the same age and that was what solidified our friendship. I know you want someone your age, but I think if you keep an open mind you might find a great friendship with 27, 30 or even 35 year old. As mothers, your concerns are the same -- although you probably got your body back a little more easily ;)

You could call some groups and ask about the age make up -- or attend a meeting to see if it is for you or not.

I am also a member of MOPS now, and there are, as you said, a lot of older moms (why is that) but also some younger ones -- and they just tease us older moms.

Good luck in finding someone to share experiences.

Answer 3

Well, I dont live in Maryland, but I would be willing to chat whenever Im available. I am 23 and the mother of 3 boys (8, almost 3, and just turned 1) I live in Wisconsin and have the same problem you are. All of the kids that my son goes to school with dont even acknowledge me as a mom. I kinda get ignored and looked down at, even though I am married, providing for my kids, and doing a good job at it, if I do say so myself! So, im me anytime!

Answer 4

I live a long ways away and I'm 32 but I can really identify. Check into some mom's groups in your neighborhood or at churches around town (a lot of churches have great mother's groups). I put up flyers in my neighborhood and ended up with two great friends with kids the same age as my little girl. I encourage you to be bold and get out there looking for other people. Most moms feel exactly the same as you do.

Answer 5

I am right there with you. I had my son when I was 21, I recently turned 24 (my son is almost 3). None of my freinds at the time had any children and it was really hard for them to relate to me or even for me to realte to them anymore. The good news is there are tons of us young mothers out there and we can band together and help each other through our new experience that are child related.

If you ever need to talk, have any questions, fears, concerns, great news (like a new milestone) that you want to share or talk about feel free to e-mail me or im me. I would be more then happy to talk to you and help you through whatever.

Hang in there and stay strong.

Answer 6

Hi! I know how you feel.I am now 24.I had my first child when i was 19.I was a single young mother for a while.I am now married
with a 14mth old also.I live in Virginia.Both of my kids are boys.I am a stay at home mom & don't have many friends here.My close friend here is alot older with no kids,she does'nt understand much.If you would like to talk email me.
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Answer 7

I just turned 23, have a 3 1/2 year old son and 1 month old daughter. I have a lot of friends but none of them have children...it's just not the same. They really don't care about our trip to Chuck E Cheese or my daughter's two week check up...you know? It's just harder to chat when you don't have as much in common. If you want you can email me :)

Answer 8

Well I dont live Maryland.I'm from Wisconsin.I'm 25 and have a 7yr old boy and a 3yr old girl.I'm due in April with my 3rd and yes my last.When I had my son most of my friends pretty much ran away.They just dont know whats it's like to have a child we they dont have any.Alot of older mother's pretty much dont associate with younger mother's.At least that's how it was for me.I still get looks when I drop my son off at school.Thankfully I had the support of my family and my children's father my husband.If you would like to chat sometime my e-mail is [e-mail]

Answer 9

I'm 20 and have a 2yo boy. and am in about the same situation as you. I'm trying to finish college and find that I have more in common with the older non-trads than most of the kids out there that are my age!
email if you would like, I'm from Missouri

Answer 10

Hi My name is Kimberly and I just turned 21 in july My son is 14 months old and now I'm 2 months pregnant !!! It's so crazy being so young with a child people always think your not happy but I'm always like your crazy I couldn't live without my baby !!!