Even though you feel stron love to her/him, do you have a certain line of years you'd like to concider before engaging?
Or if you are definate that you will never meet someone like this person, would you go asking in half an year?
2006-09-29 03:59:25 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It has nothing to do with time but how much time of the time you have had to get to know each other. How well do you know the other person? People can date for years and not really know each other. Some people live together for years and then marry and get divorced. It all depends on how long you want to wait to have sex in regards to when you will marry. I think if you want him to ask sooner, don't have sex with him and make him wait until he is ready to marry you. Remember it's not how many years you know each other, it's how well you know each other.
2006-09-29 04:02:20 · answer #1 · answered by reallyfedup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems a little soon. I feel you need more time. If you ahve great communication and are set on the roles you will play after marriage then I guess. I married someone after 6 mnths and it didn't last. There was so much I thought I knew and didn't. When I applied for an annullment from the church to remarry they asked me questions about him that I was embarrassed that I couldn't answer.
Before I remarried we were together for 6 yrs. and had been through a lot of good and bad. We took a marriage preparation course through our church that required us take an SAT type test seperately about all the things that we should know about each other to be in a marriage. We scored higher than they had seen in the ten years of running the course. Not everyday is bliss of course and we hit speed bumps but the major things are covered.
If you're both on the same page about the big stuff then I say alright. But I beleive you should see some kind of marriage prep couselour before you take the plunge. I think it should be required for a liscense. Then maybe the divorce statistics wouldn't be so depressing.
2006-09-29 04:08:31 · answer #2 · answered by Kimberly R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 years
2006-09-29 04:03:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no set rules, it just all depends on how you and him feel, some people engage within months some wait years. Do it when it feels comfortable for both of you, not a certain time line. Some people get married within months and stay married forever, some get married after years of engagement and stay married for a couple of months. Its just all in how you feel about the other person.
Good luck, take care, and don't use guidelines to determine when you are ready, you will know....by your heart, not numbers!
2006-09-29 04:03:43 · answer #4 · answered by me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would seriously take advice from an anonymous stranger? You should give it at least sixty years just to be really sure, then have a long engagement til around seventy years. You should then have a happy marriage. A short one, but happy. Alternatively you could try just living life and see what happens instead of asking silly questions.
2006-09-29 04:07:14 · answer #5 · answered by Harv S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL my hubby asked me when we'd only been together 3 months! He was only 18 at the time (I was a cradle snatching 21) and we've now been together for 11 years. I think it depends on the couple to be honest. Some people wanna get married,some are freaked out by it. and even if you propose you don't have to rush down the aisle.
2006-09-29 04:02:12 · answer #6 · answered by Andromeda Newton™ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i knew i wanted to be with only this person forever within the first month of seeing and being with eachother every wakin moment.YOU both will feel the right time. it usually doesnt take years. there are folk who are engaged for years2-4 agreeing to finish college and get careers and home then they get married and have children. you are definate that you will never meet someone like this person, u should wait no longer. always always let this person know how you feel and that you are alwyas going to be ther for them and take care of the person.good luck!
2006-09-29 04:06:10 · answer #7 · answered by soll910 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the person is "the one", you will know. It doesn't matter how long you've been with them, whether its 5 months or 5 years. There is no set amount of years that you have to wait before you ask your mate to marry you. If you want to spend the rest of your life with this person, just ask! Good luck!
2006-09-29 04:03:54 · answer #8 · answered by fabulous diva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if your partner is right for you, you just know, and anytime would be a good time. Especially if the two of you have been through some harder times. Actually I think you should really go through something difficult before you really consider getting married, it just brings out sides of people that really nothing else can.
2006-09-29 04:03:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends upon the couple and their level of maturity. My husband asked me less than a month and a half after we met. I didn't say "Yes," but wanted to. I did agree to a month after he asked. That was January 1, 2000 and we married that December. Our meeting and courtship was unconventional in many ways, but it worked for us and we're ridiculously happy. You have to follow your instincts.
2006-09-29 04:03:42 · answer #10 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋