Going to break up with my girlfriend of 5 years...Need advice about dating, please?

Question

Well, a few days ago was the last straw in the 5 year relationship when I found a used condom in the house, and asked her about it and she then accused me of having gay sex. I've decided to take a stand right now with her abusive behaviour: both physical and verbally.

Its going to be a hard to break up because she is pregnant, and she saved my life when I almost drowned at the community swimming pool(thats how we met), I am tired of this relationship and her heavy eating ways, shes 6ft and weighs over 275 with a frick'in moustache. Im only 5'4 and 98lbs who works 68 hours a week at the post office, and weekends delivering newspapers.

I am going to stand up and change my life. I just want to know, whats the best way to get back in the dating scene? Should I workout and get muscles first? Any cologne ideas?

Answer 1

Do not rush into the dating right away, first of all you need to get yourself together, and deal with all of your issues. The next time you do find someone, be friends for a while, so you can get to know her, that way no surprise will come later. It is a good idea to stay fit! Muscles is less important, Any woman likes a men clean, and with nice cologne.
If their is too much drama with your girlfriend, then you do need to deal with the problem. for yourself, and the baby, it may be also a good idea to tell your girlfriend she need to go for help, in dealing with her anger.

Answer 2

Whew, where to begin.
First of all, as you men like hear, Size doesn't matter. If you loved this woman and her mustache, you'd be OK with her weight. There is obviously other issues going on here.
Was she this big when you met her? Did she have the mustache the day she fished you out of the pool? Is this your child?
If this is your child, you are now bound to this woman with the shared responsibilities you have created together. If you think she is and has been cheating on you, you must have a DNA done to see if you are in fact this baby's father. I'd hate to see you get screwed financially for another 18 years.
It sounds like there has been some abuse in this relationship and if you don't deal with that before looking for someone else, you are going to find someone to take over her domineering ways and be just as miserable later on.
Working out and having muscles only attracts a certain type of woman in the dating game, but for yourself, it may help you to gain some confidence in who you are. Cologne advice doesn't help, as all scents are different on all people.
I'd suggest you start hanging out with a crowd of single guys your own age and enjoy guys nights out for a while. SHE will find you when the time is right.
I wish you luck with this whole situation.

Answer 3

Maybe you should take some time off and get yourself together before you get back into the dating pool. Evaluate why you chose this girl in the first place. Otherwise, you will keep choosing the same type of woman and will never be happy. Happiness attracts happiness.

Answer 4

Um, I dont usually say this, but she's huge. Start by dating someone your own size. Be yourself...always. Working out is good to do for yourself but its passe to say you need to work out to get girls. Make yourself whole first and then go from there. YOu cant love somebody eles, until you love yourself right? And don't use AXE, ugh. Curve is always nice.

Answer 5

Way to get a back bone!!!!!!!!

You are right to break up with her.......do you think the baby is yours?

Once she is out of the picture your dating life will get underway again.......be yourself and you will be a winner!

Good Luck

Answer 6

If she looks like that, no wonder you are having gay sex.

Answer 7

damn shes fat, good idea ur breaking up with, all i can say is just be yourself, its godo enough

Answer 8

jus dead that b*tch