after being single for 4 years iv recently met a man i really like, but my friends are telling me to have fun and date lots of men!
what would you do?
2006-09-29 03:41:16 · 23 answers · asked by Mrs Chicagosgirl!! 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im 36 and i was single for 4 years because i was really hurt when my fella of many many years went off with my brothers wife!!
it took a long time for me to start trusting men again
2006-09-29 03:52:36 · update #1
im 36 and i was single for 4 years because i was really hurt when my fella of many many years went off with my brothers wife!!
it took a long time for me to start trusting men again
2006-09-29 03:52:37 · update #2
if you havnt dated lots of men the past 4 years why would you think youll magically start doing it now. However dont just settle down with a guy for the sake of doing it. If hes right for you fine if not move on . Only you know in your heart if hes the one.
2006-09-29 03:45:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart. That's all you can do in this situation. If you don't give it a go you'll always wonder 'what might have been' with this man. On the other hand if you settle down you might envy the fun you're friends are having. So do what feels right for you, right now. Contrary to what many people say there will be other opportunities, other men will come along or if it doesn't work out then you can always go back to having fun (I know, I've done it), either decision is not the end.
2006-09-29 03:45:55 · answer #2 · answered by Leapling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you, and how many relationships have you had before this?
I was the first serious girlfriend my husband ever had, and even when you subtract my mental/emotional issues that make everything worse than it really is, that thought *still* makes me nervous. I have every intention of proving I was a worthwhile catch, but it's still hard sometimes for me to believe that he really knew what he wanted in a woman when he found me, since he never really had a chance to figure out what he *didn't* want (by dint of a few failed relationships before).
You said you've been single for 4 years. If in your past you have dated lots, or at the very least interacted with lots of guy friends, then it's probably safe to settle down with this one for as long as it lasts. But if you've tended to hang with the girls and not really deal with the other half of the species, then definitely don't make any plans to cohabitate.
2006-09-29 03:48:58 · answer #3 · answered by Katie S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My personal observation of women and the difference their age makes.
I find young woman(18-29) like to play the field,have many boyfriends etc etc
Once they reach 30 + its a different story-They seem scared they'll be lonley old husks and then accept just about anything thats going that will marry them and give them a baby.
This only applies to average to ugly looking girls as the good lookers always know someone will pick them up.
2006-09-29 03:51:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Answer your own question. If you were single for 4 years what did you do? Play the field? Are your friends afraid of losing contact if you see more of this guy? Did they form relationships when you were single? Live your life as you see fit.
2006-09-29 04:14:21 · answer #5 · answered by edwards889@btinternet.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats entirely up to you hun! If you like this guy then I think you should persue it!
Dating lots of men is fun too - but if you've been single for four years then you've had lots of fun!
I think if you like him and he likes you then you should give it a go - good luck xx
2006-09-29 03:50:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live my own life if you want to settle then do it you never know what it will lead to if you don't and if it doesn't work out then the field will still be there believe me
2006-09-29 03:44:34 · answer #7 · answered by K C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont listen to your friends listen to your heart life will pass your friends by and they will be left wondering why they live alone with 8 cats the main thing is you have learnt to trust just be careful not to get stung again good luck
2006-09-29 05:53:38 · answer #8 · answered by browntbath 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need 2 figure tht 1 out 4 urself
2006-09-29 04:17:27 · answer #9 · answered by jellyfairy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what's in your heart to do. Don't listen to your friends. Friends can often be wrong as well as right. Go with what you feel is comfortable, and which ever way that is, will be the right way for you.
2006-09-29 03:44:16 · answer #10 · answered by Charlie Brigante 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋