My son is nearly 8 months old and is nursed after his bath before he gets a story then laid to bed. I don't know why but I'm skeptical about not being there for his bedtime routine. It's probably more traumatizing for me then it will be for him. I would just like to know other mom's feelings and when was the first time they weren't there for bedtime. Thanks !
2006-09-29 03:18:51 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Thanks to the supportive understanding mothers who responded, and NO THANKS to the response about getting over it. I'm sorry if I'm a little more attached to my child and I'm glad you had an easier time not being there.
2006-09-29 04:05:31 · update #1
It is hard not being there for a routine that has been set up for a while. Especially if you are still nursing before bedtime. That is a special bonding time for a mommy and baby. I nursed my son until he was a year old. The first time I missed bedtime he was almost a year and a half and it broke my heart. I was so afraid that I was going to miss him doing something for the first time. It does get easier after a few times...not that you ever want to not be there.
2006-09-29 03:28:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 04:48:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
With my first child (also nursed) I started a 1 night a week job when she was 4 mos old. It, like you said, was harder for me. Although, she didn't really take bottes, despite our attempts. But, I pumped anyway, my husband tried and she had a few ounces and went right of to bed and fell asleep fine -- and slept all night despite the small feeding. By the time she was about 9 mos I actually quit the night time feeding.
My second child, I started back to the same job (one night a week), when he was 8 weeks old. He did better with the bottle, so it was less stressful (for me -- less worrying).
Of course, you have to come home and pump!
2006-09-29 03:25:12 · answer #3 · answered by Beth M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it. seriously. I think your child will be fine whoever is capable of putting your child to bed if you aren't home. I've worked late, attended work holiday parties, went out to dinner on my anniversary, had a date with my husband...etc...whoever was there usually put my child to bed before we got home. I'm not revolving my life around my childs bed time and whoever is watching them, can't keep them up late. When she woke up in the morning she came running and telling us how much she missed us. Sometimes a little time apart from your child for a few hours, and them going to sleep without you there, is good for both of you.
2006-09-29 03:26:24 · answer #4 · answered by jevic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have only been away from my three year old son twice for bedtime in his whole life the first time he was 13 months old and his daddy put him to bed no problem the second time he was three and daddy again put him to bed with no problems
2006-09-29 03:29:13 · answer #5 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i miss my baby bedtime for the 1st time at 4 months but my husband continue on as if i was there her breast milk was in a bottle instead of coming from me.
2006-09-29 03:26:55 · answer #6 · answered by besos 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is worse for you than for him. it will actually benefit him if you have other people periodically put him down for bed or you will find yourself when he is 3 years old still not be able to go out.
2006-09-29 03:28:30 · answer #7 · answered by rye252000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my oldest was 2.5 months old, it was our first anniversary and we spent the night in a hotel. Baby stayed with his grandparents. I called every hour...LOL
2006-09-29 03:44:56 · answer #8 · answered by Jessie P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldnt stop. your baby will keel more comforted and loved if you keep the routine going. he/she will know the routine when he/she is about a year old and he'll/she'll know what to do. just dont stop you have a good idea.
2006-09-29 03:29:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its alot harder when you nurse because theres such a strong bond all you can do is take it one day at a time luck
2006-09-29 03:29:26 · answer #10 · answered by suepetonquot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋