My little boy is a terror how do i deal with trantrums??

Answer 1

As long as all obstacles are cleared out of his way leave him to get on with it
or try tickling him

Answer 2

Chose a discipline and stidk with it. I'm assuming he's two or over.

First, check with the pediatrician to verify that your child's distress is not legitimate.

Plan on using this disciplinefor the next two weeks if there is nothing physically wrong with him.

When you get your child out of bed in the morning, hold him and look him in the eye. Tell him Mommy loves him and you know he is a good boy. Tell him today we will not yell. Today we are going to be a good boy. Tell him that little boys that yell need quiet time and when he yells he is going to go in his room until he can stop.This is clear information and he will understand you. Then go about your routine.

When he reacts by throwing a tantrum CALMLY pick him up. Put him in his room. Tell him that when he yells he is going in his room. And leave. Put him back as many times as is required. When he stops yelling go to him and calmly ask him what it was that he wanted. Say, "See, Mommy can hear you when you do not yell."

Praise him any time he expresses himself without the tantrum. "You are such a good boy, you said that exactly right."

Try not to give him an opportunity the next two weeks to catch you off guard outside the house. Try not to take him to the store or any other place where you cannot take immediate action. It's tough but hopefully Dad can help you get through the next two weeks. Or leave him with whomever you have enlisted help from.

Continue this practice until he breaks the habit. Once you start, make sure you can follow through every time this behavior appears. Enlist the help of anyone else who deals with your child. Tell them what you are doing and ask them to follow through also.

Its tough when a little kid can manipulate you, the adult. They just have more stamina. Don't cave. You are establishing groundrules for your relationship with him now. Get your rest and eat right and hang in there. It will be so worth it to not live with tantrums, and to be able to enjoy your little angel.

Just a note: as he grows you will have to learn to respond to your child. Try not to just react. Whe he comes up with things that are beyond your imagination, respond to it. If you react, then he's got you.

Answer 3

i had a problem with my little boy and dealt with it like this....

Always give punishment as though it is a ladder with 3 rungs. Start at Rung 1 and if that doesnt work, try rung 2, if still not working, rung 3.

Rung 1. Ask the child nicely not to do that
Rung 2. Tell the child not to do it, if he continues to do it you will punish him and tell him what the punishment will be
Rung 3. Go ahead with the punishment

You can choose the punishment appropriate to his misbehaviour and adapt this to suit... BUT if he knows it is 3 strikes and your out EVERY TIME, he will soon begin to think twice.

ALSO.... DO NOT USE BEDROOM AS A PUNISHMENT!!!! this makes them not want to go to bed at night. A bedroom should be a safe haven where they go to be happy & safe.... instead choose a corner where they are alone and isolated from things (hence why people use the naughty step)

I really sympathise, and I hope this helps... JUST BE CONSISTENT so's not to confuse him!!!

Good luck hun xx

Answer 4

By trial and error, my son is 5 and he is the same, I have read books and taken advice but nothing works, in the end he is still an individual, and what works for one cannot work for all. You are the parent you should know your child, observe him and then begin to slowly deal with the issue, also keep in mind temper tantrums are symptomatic of unmanaged anger, or because he needs attention, you may not think so but somehow it turns out to be true.

Answer 5

my 3 year old has a woman that comes in 2 days a week because of his tantrums, bit like super nanny.... she has helped. i have learnt to not give in! have something as a punishment, put him on his bed, chair etc, or take a toy? or turn the telly off. never offer things to him to be good and the one thing i found hard was in public people watching.... don't worry bout nosey beggers because they dnt have to put up with the naughty kids as u do. there are few books on this. shop around u should find some.. they do work!!!

Answer 6

Make a naughty spot in the house and when he throws a tantrum make him sit there and explain to him why he os there, they say 1 minute on the naughty spot for every year in age. Once the time is up always let your child know that it's over and make friends

Answer 7

Well, a lot of 'new-agers' will tell you about those wonderful 'timeouts' in the corner, or withholding something he wants IE... no games, TV, etc. Won't work.
This is a respect issue. Your child has no (zero) respect for you. He loves, you but he doesn't respect you. Are you trying to be his 'buddy' or 'friend'? Were your parents somewhat cold/abusive to you, and you tell yourself that 'you don't want to make the same mistakes' your parents made? This does happen you know. If so, STOP IT! Quit trying to be a friend and start being a parent. Face it, as a parent you're the enemy. Love has nothing to do with it.
Are you wishy-washy? How often do you cave in to his demands? How often do you tell him that he'll be punished and then back down because you feel guilty for some reason or you're just to chickensh!t to meet out said punishment? This sends mixed signals. This is why most parents get no respect from their children.
There were no timeouts or such BS in my household. When I told my son that he was going to get punished, that meant only one thing... a belt on the @$$. And I didn't give him those tiny taps either. He got it and he got it good. In other words, I caused him pain. This taught my son a valuable lesson, is it worth it? Did I feel bad about having to punish him? You bet. Many times, I had to leave and shed a few tears. Have you heard the old saying "This is going to hurt me more than it's going to hurt you"?
It's true, it did hurt me more than it hurt him. But I had a duty to perform, and I did it whether I liked it or not. If I told my boy that he was going to get punished, he did. Never once did I shirk my responsibility as a parent. I 'never' told my son a lie or made a promise that I couldn't keep. I didn't put up with any whining, tantrums or any of that other BS. What I said was law and I NEVER, EVER, compromised, not once. This is why I had my son's respect (and love). Kids need boundaries and as a parent your responsibility is to set them and make sure that they're adhered to. By caving in to his demands, you're doing him no favors... and he's going to get worse as the years go by. Why do think that those parents are crying on Oprah, Dr. Phil & Murry Povich "Boo hoo hoo, my kids are terrors, they don't listen to me, they hit me,etc... etc..." Most parents are too big of a pu$$y to put their foot down and DEMAND respect, therein lies their fault.

Some people here are going to disagree with me but I can tell you this; my son loves me, he respects me, he has grown up to be an individual with fine character, he isn't mean/cruel. He's well-rounded and a law abiding, productive citizen. As a parent, it's your God given duty to raise your child to be the best he or she can be. Isn't this what your striving for?
Let him know in no uncertain terms that his behavior is unacceptable and he 'will' be punished. Once you carry through with your duties a few times, his attitude will change. And please... stop caving in to this petty little tyrant's demands. Teach him that no means 'NO'. Be firm and never lose your cool. If you lose your cool, you've just shot you crediblity to hell. Never punish out of anger, this will undo what your trying to accomplish.

This won't be easy for you, but I think you'll do fine.

Answer 8

Ignore the tantrum and initially if he doesn't get what you are doing . . . whack him. Dont let him set the tone of the parent/child dynamic or you will regret it later. You will stop everything to 'talk' to him or to make him got to his room or whatever. As he gets older his behaviour will become worse and when you have to go to his school or to the local police station they will see you for what you are . . . a fool! Nip it in the bud NOW!!!

Answer 9

Try the book Toddler Taming - has some good tips on tantrums and other tricks.
Time out works quite well as long as he knows why it's happening and not for too long, and anything you try MUST be done consistently or it won't work.

Answer 10

what i used to do is take him to his room and tell him he can come out when he stops screeching and kicking....check on him from time to time, just to make sure h's ok...but be persistant...if he comes out then take him back in until he is quieter, then reward him for his GOOD behaviour...kids have tantrums because they cant have their own way....usually between the ages of 4 to 6....he has to learn the rights and wrongs and the only way is to be firm with him...dont give into him because he is throwing a fit...be patient...the next time he ants to throw a hissy he may remember from the last time that it wont work...because he will go to his room again...

Answer 11

Take advice from this joke.


Teenage Neice

Our 13 year old niece spent last night with us.

When we dropped her off at home, my sister-in-law asked how she behaved.

"She was an angel," I informed her.

"Really?" she questioned.

"Yes, really. A perfect angel." I assured her.

"I just don't understand. Whenever she is with you she is well behaved. Whenever she is at home, she is a monster. She misbehaves for everyone else. In fact, the teachers at her school drew straws to see who would be stuck with her in their class. How come she always behaves for you?" My sister in law asked.

"I don't know. I guess I just have a way with children. I also try to educate them as well. A child is never to young to learn." I answered.

"What do you mean. What did you teach her?" She inquired.

"Well, for instance, children need to learn about death and dying so they better understand this process. I explained this concept very carefully to her." I informed my sister-in-law.

"Really? You explained this to her at 13?" She asked dumbfounded.

"Well, actually she was much younger when I explained this. She now understands death perfectly. Which is good, because it makes threatening her with it, much more effective."