he works in new orleans i think its another woman this is so heart breaking
2006-09-29 02:40:09 · 17 answers · asked by hottieboo 1 in Beauty & Style ➔ Hair
OUCH! There are a couple of ways to view this.
Be thankful you found this out and can annul the marriage. Have a good cry and take time to heal the hurt.
Or 30 years from now you can still be clinging onto someone who gave up 3 weeks into the marriage. Looking back and wondering where did things go wrong.
At least he's being honest and upfront about wanting out of the marriage. He may be doing you more of a favor than you realize.
Remember also that this is not a reflection of you but a decision he has made on his own whatever the reason.
I wish you all the best...
2006-09-29 02:55:14 · answer #1 · answered by easinclair 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Cant say" has the best answer. Lets think about the long term here... so lets say you guys go to marriage counseling. Lets say you ask him why he wants to call it quits... what would be the point? To try and CONVINCE him that he should be with you??? No woman deserves that. Who wants to be with a man that we have to convince to be with us. If he is telling you this now, less than a month afer you got married, he is probably trying to do what he see's as the most responsible thing.. not to drag this out and end up on cheating on you. Which, sorry to say, is the best option for you too. If 5 years from now, you guys end up staying together, having kids, etc , and then you find out he cheats on you, you would be more angry at yourself and blaming yourself than anythin because he TOLD you he didnt want to be with you when you FIRST got married. Cut your losses, and save your heart. Im sorry if anything i said was harsh, but Ive been thru heart break and please trust me, it is so miserable when you see the writing on the wall and you just ignore it! He told you what he wants, then let him go and find someone else. I dont know you, but NOONE deserves this. There is someone else that will cherish and love you and respect you. You just havent found him... yet! Get it anulled and make this as stressless and drama-free as possible. Please let us know your decision! Best wishes!
2006-09-29 02:57:44 · answer #2 · answered by ericasj22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey look I may not be married but I can tell you something to do. Find out exactly why he is wanting to call it quits. If you talk about it ya'll might be able to resolve the problem. Also, don't chase him. Make him chase you. If you feel as though he doesn't love you like he used to, make him chase you and things might get better. Then he might know that you are upset about what he is doing. Anyway hope what I have said will help you. If it does, e-mail me at Thomasesgurl14@yahoo.com or even if you need help with anything else. I will be glad to help.
2006-09-29 02:47:02 · answer #3 · answered by Maria 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make him love you. Let him go and find someone who loves you as much as you love them. Don't waste your time and energy on someone who doesn't care. You will be fighting for your marriage all alone, but a marriage involves 2 people.
Marriage is hard even when both people want to be in the relationship.
2006-09-29 02:43:25 · answer #4 · answered by hello 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why did he marry you to begin with if it was another woman?and why aren't you with your husband in new orleans? and if it is because of another woman let him go what comes around goes around and a new door will open for you
2006-09-29 02:51:13 · answer #5 · answered by barbara b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really both of you have to want it. Go to New Orleans be with him let him know how much he means to you.
2006-09-29 02:44:56 · answer #6 · answered by khaines_98 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find out why he wants out and don't be so sure that it is another woman. Talk to him and find out whats on his mind and. If he wants out already that just means that he never really wanted to get married.
2006-09-29 02:46:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it. Find out why he wants to call it quits. But in the end, if he really wants out, there's nothing you can do about it. Good luck and may you find someone better.
2006-09-29 02:52:14 · answer #8 · answered by beetee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seek marriage counseling quick. And ask him why he want out already before even giving it a chance.. They always say the first year of marriage is the toughest..
2006-09-29 02:42:43 · answer #9 · answered by yournotalone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you put this in the hair category, I guess he doesn't like your new hairstyle?
JK!
Sit down with him and tell him you need the straight facts as to why he wants out. Go to marital counseling.
2006-09-29 02:45:00 · answer #10 · answered by lofolulu 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋