This guy who had a girlfriend came straight out and asked me if I had feelings for him. I wanst gonna lie so I said yes. He said he had feelings for me too. He has a girlfriend so I wasnt going to get involved. So we talk for awhile rarely about us or whatever and then one day he asks me out. I soon find out he had broken up with his girlfriend bc she cheated? When I decided I wanted to wait awhile (my reason is obviously to avoid being the rebound) he gets back together with her? Do i have the right to be mad or no?
2006-09-29 02:39:40 · 26 answers · asked by Tina 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yeah you do, but you did the right thing for yourself.. cheers to you!!!!!Don't give that dude the time of day next time he pops up in your life. You'll stop feeling pissed soon enough.. Your a strong girl you rock..LOL
2006-09-29 02:44:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to right to be mad and at the same time no you don't. Only because you don't have the right to be mad because you knew that he wanted to be with you. Yes you avoided trying to be the rebound but in that you passed up the opportunity to be with him. There would have been a 50/50 chance that you were or weren't going to be the rebound. Guys act differently when they break-up with a girl they have found out was cheating on them. So this is one reason you have not to be mad. But you do have the right to be mad because he did come to you and ask you out. But once refused he went back to the same girl who cheated on him. This is all the reason to be upset because now you can't see why he would go back with her because she did cheat. Just remember he came to you to move on and was hoping to move on with you. Since you turned him away he maybe thinking that since I don't have a chance with her then I should give my ex another chance to try and change. Its kind of a messed up double-standard. I hope this helps to see what he maybe thinking and why or why not you should be mad.
2006-09-29 09:50:19 · answer #2 · answered by The Plague 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No ... even though you thought you were doing the right thing by waiting for him (the rebound thing), you could have gone with him earlier and avoided the possibility he would get back with his girlfriend
Maybe you should go with him anyway and break them up again if you want him that bad ... otherwise, stay away now and find another guy
2006-09-29 09:44:50 · answer #3 · answered by Marinersfan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the right to feel however you want to feel but look at it like this: Count it as a blessing, if he is willing to take back someone that cheated on him then he has a lot of feeling for this person and you shouldn't want to deal with the back and forth between the two of them that would have most likely happened had you and him hooked up.
2006-09-29 09:49:57 · answer #4 · answered by terjar4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mad- no! you knew there was a third party when you first started talking to him so I don't know why you would be mad when he went back to her. Surely you had to know that was going to happen. Move on there is a billion more jerks waiting to do the same. Have fun with all the wrong ones untill you find the right one.
2006-09-29 09:48:32 · answer #5 · answered by Fuel632 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck yeah Tina I would be mad too what a wimp and you are far better off with a guy who cant be alone for a day and now you can move on to someone that will want to be with you and not be clingy person like this guy is !!
2006-09-29 09:42:24 · answer #6 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Tina,
Dang girl. He moves heaven and earth to get with you, and you play these games? If he went back with his X, I would definitely understand why. No wonder guys don't understand girls.
You guys were talking. He probably thought that you and him were on the same page, and then when he clears up his life to get closer with you, you pull this. The poor guy has got to be confused with this.
Well, maybe he's better off. He can find someone who won't cheat on him and has their head on straight too.
--Rick
2006-09-29 09:47:34 · answer #7 · answered by rickrudge 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you do have the right to be mad, it sounds to me like the only reason he asked you out is because he knew he had to break up with his girlfriend to prove a point and he knew he had you because of your feelings for him. He could be insecure though, by telling him to wait, he didnt have the patience so he went back to his other girl.
2006-09-29 09:43:04 · answer #8 · answered by heartdeathcab 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All, I've gotta say is give it time. There's a good possiblity she'll do it again and they will not be together for long. She probably just doesn't wanna start all over and is trying to get it together but he will realize thats not the thing he should do and you guy will have something wonderful.
Believe me, it happened to me.
2006-09-29 09:58:45 · answer #9 · answered by A D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that you wanna wait awhile is normal, would've done the same thing.
yea, 'course you can be mad!
i don't know if it's gonna get you anywhere, but you have the right to be mad!!
but obviously he was not worth waiting for anyway if he acts like that...
2006-09-29 09:47:03 · answer #10 · answered by Jasmin D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋