Just wondering why gurls feel often insulted if a guy finds you very attractive and wants to be with you quickly, and you HAVE a good chemestry, etc. It does not have to mean he thinks youre "easy" or such.... Why is it not a compliment that he really finds you attractive and wants to be with you!
2006-09-29 02:18:52 · 21 answers · asked by tommy w 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow.... people! Im not trying to get anyone in the sack. Just wondering why women think the way they do.
2006-09-29 02:30:53 · update #1
because all you want them for is sex. Thats what we think. Why can't you just wait a little longer?
2006-09-29 02:21:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is a compliment. It's just a bit ridiculous to act on it. Most women become emotionally attached to their sexual partners and invest quite a bit in them. Dating is fine, but I think Americans forget the purpose, it's to find a lifelong partner, not to put oneself at risk for social diseases, emotional turmoil, expensive outings, and then the inevitable let-down after a purely sexual relationship fails.
Can you say that if the girl says yes (in the scenario that you've described), that after the thrill wears off (1 month, 1 year) and you realize that you don't actually know or like her? Also, what if you find 2 such partners that you have GREAT chemistry with at the same time? Do you act on it? What if the lady has 4 such people? Do you want to be part of that? What if the lady is not doing it with you, but is someone that you really care for, say your best friend, what advice would you give her.
I think instant gratification is great, but it generally works out poorly in the end, whether it's cake or sex.
2006-09-29 02:26:24 · answer #2 · answered by xamayca.com 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
B/c as girls we are taught that proper women dont' behave like that and probably b/c experience has taught a lot of us that no matter how forward thinking a man might be at the time if there ever is a lasting realtionship it will come up that "hey you slept with me on the first night" how do I know you didnt' do that with every guy you met or some other such nonsense. Unfortunately we still live in a society that says women should be pure and men experienced. The double standard crap.
2006-09-29 02:23:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anjanette A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all your innovations ought to be in the physique of a girl at 14, besides the undeniable fact that it somewhat is a universal certainty that your innovations hasn't progressed that an prolonged way... So it somewhat is like a baby having intercourse, it somewhat is not a sturdy element for my area. can not you wait? do not you think of 14 is in basic terms somewhat too youthful? you have have been given extra appropriate issues to do alongside with your existence then enable boys understand your elementary? it somewhat is talked approximately as making love... Boys a re boys, not adult males, whom at the instant are not likely to love you and that's the clarification why you're doing it for the exhilaration that's short-term, and to attempt to discover love that's unhappy. you are able to desire to attend... it somewhat is in basic terms a short-term element to attend, your very immature mentally appropriate now. Then while he dumps you your college grades will flow down, you will possibly have 0 self self belief, and additionally you will unlike your self anymore. while boys try this with you, they're getting what they want...yet you at the instant are not.
2016-12-15 16:43:42 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because when guys get excited the blood in their body rushes to the wrong head. You should have more control- chemistry or not, you can really insult someone you hardly know by tring to nail them when you don't know them. I don't see how a relationship can last or work if you become sexual before sensual.
2006-09-29 02:27:59 · answer #5 · answered by Fuel632 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a girl lets every guy that wants her , have her right away.... she would be a sl*t.
Ladies like to date and see if that chemistry is going to last. If u cant respect a girl for saying no, than your not worth it.
Waiting makes the sex better!
2006-09-29 02:23:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because most guys are attracted to alot and i mean alot of girls.Okay once you start having sex with her,are you not ever gonna lust after another girl ever??Cmon if every girl slept with a guy that said Im attracted to you we would be having sex immediatley and constantly.Personally for me it is a compliment,but how about her mind,her heart,her personality,etc.girls like to know you like us not just for whats between our legs too you know.
2006-09-29 02:27:32 · answer #7 · answered by maryann c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sometimes looks can be decieving. She doesn't want you to answer her with that stuff. She'll probably think you want her just for her body, but find something else you like about her. like her smile, personality, and so on.
2006-09-29 02:24:15 · answer #8 · answered by nisha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really find a girl pretty and want to be with her than you should be willing to wait until she is ready to move to that level.
2006-09-29 02:26:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
usually though if a girl jumps stright into bed with a guy shes only just met it dont look very good does it? what about STD's and stuff, does that not matter??!!
2006-09-29 02:21:13 · answer #10 · answered by cleo the pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋