...the difference between a guy who's keen on you and a potential stalker?? Met a guy a week ago and he's already 1. Asked to meet my parents 2. Said we have a bright future together and knows he's met the "right one" 3. Taken me to meet his dad 4. Needs to know where I am whenever I'm not working 5. Has admitted he wants to see me ALL the time 6. Has hung around my flat for when I get home from work so he can see me 7. Gets pushy when I say I can't or don't want to see him 8. Sends early "good morning" text messages every sodding day 9. Told his children the day after we met that I'm "daddy's new girlfriend"......am I right to be completely freaked out?
2006-09-29 02:07:01 · 24 answers · asked by long_luscious_lashes 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have actually dumped him today by text. We were going for a meal on Saturday night and he still wants to go as friends and talk about things...what's there to talk about, we met a week ago and I don't want to see him again! I'm actually quite scared now.
2006-09-29 02:17:24 · update #1
Yes you are right to be freaked out.
But you already knew that.
Dump his as fast as your little fingers can text!
2006-09-29 02:11:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I'd feel a bit rushed and scared too! By the sounds of it he'd have proposed within a month! Think you've done the right thing, probably best to avoid as it'll be too difficult. By cutting off completely you are definitely making it clear that you don't want anything with him and there's no chance of misunderstanding. If you were to try to be friends he could still be wanting more, and thinking things could get back to how they were. You would also keep wondering what he wants.
If he pesters just give one warning and if he continues I'd take it further and get advice about what can be done. Not sure if citizens advice would be able to offer advice or if it's best to go to the police. Solicitors also give 30 mins free consultation so that could be a way to discuss and find options.
Hope all goes ok and he disappears soon!
2006-09-29 02:30:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG. This guy is a total stalker. He scaring me and im not even the one hes stalking. Seriously get rid of him. If you dont do it now it may only get worse. People like this can become agressive and very controlling. He'll have you walking down the aisle next week if he could.!
2006-09-29 02:11:31 · answer #3 · answered by Jo. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lol I have been here done that. Same stuff too!!
I freaked out,especially when he would call all hours just to see if I was home. This was BEFORE we even met,and were justtalking on the phone and online. Thank GOD he lived in Tennesee,and I in Tx. He flew down here looking for me when I told him I couldn't talk to him anymore,haha! Scared me to death,he called my cell leaving messages and stuff. I left a police report and gave them all his info....you do the same!
2006-09-29 02:52:29 · answer #4 · answered by Holly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if they are really keen on you they would be sensitive and considerate to your feelings. Rushing is not being considerate. It speaks more of wanting a substitute, or a girlfriend fast, and fast means NOW!
Impulse buying is done without any thinking. Sure, you're a good catch, but did he allow you time and space to think if HE'S a good catch? If you're meant to be with him you'd feel happy and not like a commodity.
2006-09-29 02:13:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I can see why you're freaked out! Whilst we all love attention - this guy is definately bordering on psychotic!
I think you may be safer to get away from this one - if you dont want to leave him though make it clear to him that hes moving waaaaaay to fast and that if he doesnt cool it down that you'll have no option but to end it prematurely. Fingers crossed for you xx
2006-09-29 02:11:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds a little freakish to me. BUT giving him the benifit of the doubt maybe he has been alone for a while and enjoys having someone in his life. I'd try to talk to him and tell him that things are moving a little to fast for you. If that doesnt work, a restraining order may be your next step...good luck!
2006-09-29 02:11:25 · answer #7 · answered by BiancaVee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think you have answered your own question,hanging around your house waiting for you to get home 1 week after you have met,that sounds scary! I would tell him you would like to cool things before things get worse.
2006-09-29 02:11:24 · answer #8 · answered by Monkeyy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to him about his past relationships if he tells you his ex has a restrainning order out RUN but if you find out someone has hurt then it could explain the behaviour just try talking to him if you don't get the out come you want tell him he is to sufficating and its over and when you have come to this decision stick to it
2006-09-29 02:17:16 · answer #9 · answered by natl7788 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES! Thank God you're freaked out. Some women really like the flattery! RED FLAG! Run away smart girl, run away!
2006-09-29 02:10:16 · answer #10 · answered by steelypen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋