I won’t reveal his religion will only say he’s NOT a Christian. Wife has always clearly told husband from 1st meeting that she has a loving relationship with God without questionable, 1,000+ yr old books, etc. Tho his his faith said stay within your religion he thought she wld convert. She NEVER drank but after 5 yrs of marriage she and a friend join a wine appreciation club. He goes ballistic, says she will “burn in hell” for drinking alcohol. He demands she quit the group and so, she does. She still has wine about once a week but NEVER where he would see/know. He finds out during a religious holiday that lasts for several weeks. They have custody of his 5 kids from his prior marriage and she’s a housewife. He tells her that he can no never give her money / let her use the car for his kids or herself b/c she “might buy wine and that’s against my religion”. She’s like “Huh?” Please tell who is being dogged in this situation, why and what should the dogged party do?
2006-09-29 01:58:28 · 7 answers · asked by Book Diva 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
The wife is definitely being dogged, and the husband is being a controlling, borderline abusive jackass. He's telling her she's not fit to raise the kids, controlling her economically, limiting her movements, and insulting her. He went in expecting to change her, which is always a mistake. She needs to see this. "Spiritual" and "emotional" abuse are listed as well.
2006-09-29 02:10:39 · answer #1 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 04:42:43 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Wife. The two of them should get counseling, he's being emotionally abusive and manipulative. Two people of two different faiths can live 'happily ever after' if they both respect the others right to believe differently. He isn't respecting her. If he won't go to counseling, she needs to follow in the footsteps of his previous wife and leave him. I really feel sorry for those kids.
2006-09-29 02:20:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is not much of a relationship here if there is secrecy on the part of the wife and unfulfilled expectations on the part of the hubby. It is time for a reality check. If it isn't working for either what is the point?
2006-09-29 02:05:03 · answer #4 · answered by Gone fishin' 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to go to a battered women's shelter or go home to her family. It sounds like she has been emotionally battered. She should have never married him in the first place. She should have known about his religious convictions and that he would never change. She should leave before she get pregnant with his kids.
2006-09-29 02:07:31 · answer #5 · answered by damisaunders@sbcglobal.net 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow.... can you say control issues?
Religious differences are one issue, but what you are saying here constitutes control over women that exists in the Middle East. He married you, he didn't purchase you.
Remind him that he lives in the USA, and you are not property.
2006-09-29 02:06:07 · answer #6 · answered by RHCCBonnie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I recommend she take the kids and flee to a women's shelter.
2006-09-29 02:29:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋