I'm 28 years old and I have never had a boyfriend. I dont drink and I have a disease that makes me walk funny. I dont really have any friends and I like to stay in at night and watch the telly. My life is based on fantasies in my head, I dont know what to to. Ive been on a couple of dates that my friend set me up on but i started getting obsessed with them and they got scared. Do you think I have a problem? And is there anyone else out there like me?
2006-09-29 01:56:26 · 38 answers · asked by jackie t 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
well I'm glad you have a couple o f mates. so that is one great thing when i was younger about 19/20, my life was unbearable i didn't realise it then but i had bi-polar so i could very easily sit there ALL day fantasising of a different life. Unlike you i did drink alcohol (big mistake!!) now I'm not saying you have bi-polar (its manic depression case you don;t know what that means) when i first went to see a psychiatrist i was told although people "day-dream" living in a fantasy world is very dangerous so try not to sit back and enjoy your fantasy world because coming back down to earth can hit you right between the eyes you must see your G.P forget about boyfriends at the moment you know you are fixating all your problems on not having one you sound to unstable to have a relationship . your first needs are to get help learning to live with yourself and liking yourself forget your "strange walk" you cant change that can you? please make a refferal today and the very best of luck and happiness let us all know how you get on i now am a very happy person with an active life and a great bunch of kids so life does change for every one its called growing up. you are just a late "developer" im quite happy "taking the tablets" to stay stable
2006-09-29 02:28:31 · answer #1 · answered by no nonsence 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The fact that you are 28 and never had a boyfriend or that you are generally a loner is not problematic as such.
It could be a problem though if some of your behaviours stem from extremely low self esteem or other issues.
The fact that you "walk funny" I take it to mean that you don't feel comfortable with. Have you received any counselling or support on this issue? Have you examined how you feel about it and then decide how you want other people to relate to you?
Because of your age, life so far and funny walk it would perhaps be beneficial to talk to an independent specialist, someone who could perhaps help you explore all these issues.
Do not look at this as 'therapy for crazy people' or some sort of problem on your behalf. Do not be embarrassed to ask for help because all you will be doing is taking your life into your own hands and finding the best ways to get to a stage where you will be happy.
On the practical side of things, make an appointment with your GP and talk to him/her about referring you to a specialist.
Good luck.
2006-09-29 02:10:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, Love yourself----the inside is all that matters, no matter if u do walk funny. When we get old, we all will walk funny.
When u aint thinkin about finding a boyfriend, one will hit u right in the face and chill u all over.
Its all a chemistry thing.
U seem normal, but u need to get out into the world, go to a local bar, or theater,or find a boyfriend on the internet.
Fantasies in the head are good, but u cant let them rule your life.
It is best to turn the tube off and do some serious positive reading even if u got to go to a local library where u may meet Mr. Right.
Pray to God above and he will answer u and find u the right man.
2006-09-29 02:02:31 · answer #3 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not sure if you have problems but most people do. You seem to be a bit unsure of yourself eg you say you have no friends but then say your friends set you up on dates. You say your life is based on fantasies in your head - does that matter? - NO!!! What's wrong with day dreaming. You say you get obsessive - all you need to do is find someone who is obsissive about you and you got it made. I was obsessive about a women about 12 years ago. We are now married with a son. Just cos your different to others doesn't mean you need to change to be like them. All the post that say this, that or the other is wrong with you will just worry you. Ignore them and try to make the most of your life.
2006-09-29 02:43:51 · answer #4 · answered by Dominic_Arnett 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes there are people out there who are like you but you'll never meet them because you are busy watching telly at home. You are becoming an introvert person.
The problem doesn't lie in the fact that you got disease. It lies in the fact that you are LETTING IT rule your life. There are plenty people out there who got disease, disability and what not, but they still accept it and get on with their life. What you have to do is to STOP feeling sorry for yourself. Its only gonna get worse if you don't do something about it.
You have a disease it wasn't you choice. Life is a b i t c h. Accept it.
Try to join some clubs, find a hobby, charity work whatever it takes to get you out of the house and working with and meeting people.
You are ruining your social life because of this and just gonna end up in vicious cirle.
Get out there. Start meeting people. Forget about getting a boyfriend for now. Build a social life. Start living outside your head. Improve on your confidence and self esteem then think about your love life.
You can't run, if you don't know how to walk. Start learning to walk. Simple as that.
2006-09-29 02:22:01 · answer #5 · answered by Zed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you ever considered the possibility that you may be bipolar?
Recognizing Bipolar Disorder
Bipolar disorder can be hard to detect. Some people may go 10 years or more before being diagnosed. There are many reasons that make diagnosing bipolar disorder difficult, such as how patients describe symptoms and what types of symptoms they experience first.
When people are feeling manic or hypomanic, they are full of energy. They can feel good. They may feel "high on life" and don't always seek help. But they may seek help when they fall into depression. At that time, they may describe only symptoms of depression to their healthcare provider. Therefore, it's common for a person to be incorrectly diagnosed with depression instead of bipolar disorder.
Bipolar disorder also shares many of the signs and symptoms associated with other illnesses, such as anxiety disorders and schizophrenia. This can complicate the diagnosis even more.
This questionaire may help you find out
http://www.bipolar.com/questionnaire.html
2006-09-29 02:01:34 · answer #6 · answered by leicestertroy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh you poor thing, try to get some advice from friends or a trusted relation. What I would do, is contact a G.P. as maybe you are clinically depressed. Even if not, you are missing so much fun which takes practice. It is easy to live in a fantasy world as it is easier than making real relationships which make you scared. Obsessing, is just another symptom and believe me we have all done it - its part of growing up and becoming mature. Try to sort it out and GET OUT even if its scary. good luck
2006-09-29 02:01:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 21 and I've never had a boyfriend. Although my problem is more of a trust thing, I understand what you're going thru- sometimes you really feel like there is a void in your life that could be filled by someone else. I'm comfortable with me being single, but sometimes I do feel the loneliness. But its not problem-there are a lot of girls out there who have never had boyfriends. Instead, learn to enjoy other things in life- the company of your friends, movies, theatre, concerts. Don't pine for a guy, when the right one comes along he will accept you- faults and all. Wait for him- till then go on dates, learn to enjoy them one night at a time and then wait for them to call you. It might work.
2006-09-29 02:02:30 · answer #8 · answered by Bookworm 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you have a problem, i think maybe you lack confidence which is why when you do find a man you think you need to hold on to him tightly to stop him from going anywhere as you do not think you are good enough for him or whatever, but i think you would be better off meeting people who are interested in the same thing's as you whether that involves going out and joining new clubs or just on the internet, you need to get to know people so they can see the real you and fall in love with you for who you are, if you are looking for a relationship they never seem to happen because you are focusing too much on it, most of the times relationships occur when you least expect them to, so get rid of your expectations and just look for somebody who enjoys the same interests as you to become friends with and take it from there, most men become frightened when a woman is to clingy especially when they have only been out a few times, i think you just need to chill out and stop looking for it and i'm sure it will happen for you. Good luck.
2006-09-29 02:13:28 · answer #9 · answered by sugarbabe180 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow I'm sorry to hear your shy, i am too, i don't go out to bars or parties, so i know how hard it is to meet some one. I don't have many friends either, I did meet a guy about 2 years ago on a dating chat line. We chated for a while and sent pics to each other and i could not be happier. Maybe it would work for you, just remember to be picky.....
2006-09-29 02:11:48 · answer #10 · answered by lisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋