that he wants 2 have a relationship with me. I was skeptical because we've only known each other a short time. I had buyer's remorse and got weirded out by the whole thing. We talked about it yesterday and I told him that a decision had 2 b made about because I don't want a 'relationship' to start out like this. Either we were going 2 work towards something or forget the whole thing. He says he wants us 2 b friends and get 2 know each better. He doesn't want to rush in2 a relationship right away and end up with hurt feelings. I told him that there is no such thing as being 'friends' after the sex line has been crossed, so I opted that we forget the whole thing. After that conversation, I called him (Truthfully, I was a concerned because he is the type of guy 2 get attached quickly. We also have class together.) He sounded all depressed. He asked me how I could be so cold and walk away like that. I told him that it just doesn't make sense for us to try and be friends again. Was I wrong?
2006-09-29 01:41:30 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, I think you are wrong. I think you are just feeling guilty and upset with yourself for having sex with him. Try things out slowly now in becoming friends with him again. Don't push him away. Would you want someone to do that to you? It would hurt, ya know? Good luck sweetie...just figure out why you are really feeling the way you are, and don't take it out on him. :)
2006-09-29 01:45:18 · answer #1 · answered by darcilynn83 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To have relationship just because you slept would be wrong. Anyhow he is acting like he is hurt then why he said "wants us 2 b friends and get 2 know each better. He doesn't want to rush in2 a relationship right away and end up with hurt feelings"??
I think what you did was right, just give eachother and to yourself some space. Relationship should arise because you feel something not because you slept once. Calling the whole thing off for the time being would be the best. See where you go as friends and if you feel some chemistry, go ahead with a relationship.
Oh by the way.... why does ur nick name say "neverbeenkissed".......
2006-09-29 01:48:11 · answer #2 · answered by TulipGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, u were very wrong. That was just downright mean even. Who are u to say that you cant be friends after u have sex? Maybe u need to be more careful about those u have sex with in the first place. I wouldnt have sex with anybody i couldnt see as a friend. That would mean i am just sexin random ppl. UGH! All he wants to be able to do is hang out and get to know u since u already stated that u didnt want a relationship. He is willing to be friends and take it slow with u, and u just rejected him from the jump. Didnt even give him a chance. How rude.
2006-09-29 01:49:52 · answer #3 · answered by scorpioangel22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing I once did that but I was the one with the feelings,,,But we dint sleep or anything,,,, So may friend told me that we were going to fast and that we need some time to cool things up,,,So I started to yell like crazy telling him that this frinedship feels fake,,,at the time it felt god but when I went to sleep at night I realzide that I was not being a goodfriend and not thinking in his feelings...so I call him 2 days later and apologized about the whole thing and he told me that in he;s eyes I look like a bigger person for understanding that our friendship was more valuable than ever so if he is a real friend he will come back ,
2006-09-29 01:53:20 · answer #4 · answered by Airforcepink 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Rush into a relationship"? "Doesn't make sense to try to be friends again"? You just had sex with this man, one of the most important and intimate acts. And now you're walking away? I'm sorry, but you sound like you're really easy and irresponsible. Shame on you for leading this man on and now breaking his heart. The next time you want to set your loins on fire, find some jerk at a bar to use, not a sweet man like this one. How you can call yourself a friend to him is beyond me. Sounds more like you're the enemy, you heartbreaker!
2006-09-29 01:45:15 · answer #5 · answered by nido_tr3s 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
honestly you were wrong here, the big question here is your ages, most people dont look, at experiences dont talk it out and just assume you got somebody on a instant- dog leash here. second- were you involvedd in a prior relationshipp before this mixed uip mess started and or was he?? try being just friends sit downe with him and be straight forward with him lok him in the eyes and say look dont touch me--- i just want to be friends no sex-- iam moving downe that lonely highway-- thats it admit you were wrong--- and say look you want too talk-- we are just friends-- thats it iam moving on downe the highway-- get up and leave- and dont lok back it but nothing but friends- you made such a huge mistake here--- plain and simple hes hurt-- you may have scared him for life- lights out on the sex part--- end it pack suit case and--- end it/
2006-09-29 01:49:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wrong and your cold. Give this guy a chance if your not going to be friends with him anymore why are you scared to enter into a relationship your losing something either way if it don't work out. I think you are taking something out on him when he may not deserve it.
2006-09-29 01:45:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's why sex is usually the icing on the relationship. He's had the icing so now he thinks he wants the rest of the cake...and that's no way to really build the solid relationship.
I don't think it's wrong of you to not want to be friends, because there might be other reasons why wants to be friends...in other words just so he could have "icing" if you catch my drift.
2006-09-29 01:48:54 · answer #8 · answered by Sudy Nim 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your definitely right...it wont work anymore as friends but guys dont like to be bounded by a woman who demands reason..or a relationship in the beginning....i think your wrong...as guys we like to freely choose and want the person we're with.....no demands!we like to go with the flow of things and if it becomes something more .....so be it....why cant women understand that....you could of ruined a good oppurtunity in getting to know each other on an intimate level....point blank ....we dont like ultimatums
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2006-09-29 01:49:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋