2006-09-29 01:34:55 · 30 answers · asked by overseas and broke 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I'm not in love with the girl. I'm in a poor country where I can't even stay more than 30 days at a time. I'm currently unemployed. Yes, I would agree with anyone who says I'm a loser. I can't be a Dad at this time. I can barely support myself. This is really hell.
2006-09-29 01:47:01 · update #1
I didn't lie to her. I don't really love her. She was madly in love with me and gladly did it to me and I just reacted biologically but did nothing to stop it. Besides, I didn't know she had no back-up contraception.
2006-09-29 01:51:07 · update #2
Accident?????? Ur a jerk dude, u r going to ruin a person's life.... If I was the girl I would make sure the baby gets adopted by a loving family who wants a child.... I would also make sure u had a vasectomy as clearly u r no good as a dad. But that's my answer as a human girl... My answer as a Christian would be that u should go on your knees and pray God will help u through this and that the answer u choose at the end is the best for all parties concerned
2006-09-29 01:41:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
If abortion is truly out of the question and neither you or the pregnant girl truly do not want the child, I would suggest contacting an adoption agency. Some will say that the child could be adopted by other members of the family, but I would say that this will cause undo stress and guilt later on. An adoption agency can help in setting up a situation so that the child will go either directly to the adoptive family after it's birth or into foster care briefly while suitable parents are screened. Above all, make sure that your motives are pure. You are messing with someones life and this is not the time to make a lot of mistakes. Also, both the mother and the father (if available) should have the like conviction for themselves that the child should be somewhere other than with them. They are the parents, they are the deciders in this case not the potential grandma, grandpa, uncle, aunt, pastor, Rabbi or anyone else. Their decision along, you can give advice and help them thru the ordeal but leave the decision to them.
2006-09-29 08:46:12 · answer #2 · answered by ImMappam 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This might be a good time in your life to stop making excuses for your behavior.
First you both agree that the pregnancy is unwanted and neither of you want the responsibility of being a parent.
Second murder is not an option.
Third step up to the plate and do your part to insure that your child enters this world in a loving, caring environment. Find a reputable adoption service that can connect you with a couple wanting a child. Often they will help support and pay the medical expenses of the woman carrying their future child.
Do what is right for the child and be supportive of this girl who is carrying your child. Then at some point in your life when you are looking back on mistakes and regrets you can still hold your head high knowing you did the right thing.
I wish you all the best and hope that your mistake is the answer to a childless couples prayers.
2006-09-29 09:01:11 · answer #3 · answered by easinclair 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say you can't be a dad at this time. the problem is, you already are a dad at this time. It is too late to prevent that. If you didn't want to be a dad you shouldn't have fornicated. But now you are a dad. Your little son or daughter is alive and growing. Your only choices are to care for the child to whom you have given life, or to hire someone to murder your own son or daughter. Which will it be? Here's your chance not to be a self-centered loser, but to do what justice demands. If you are not willing to care for your own child, then just run away. Don't pressure the child's mother into doing something that will traumatize her for the rest of her life. Think of someone other than yourself.
2006-09-29 09:00:16 · answer #4 · answered by PaulCyp 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you have to be a man...yes you are a man! You are man enough to want to grow up too fast and have sex with a girl you probably told you loved with the potential for getting her pregnant. So now you have to step up and grow up and take responsibility for your actions...The focus of this life is not about you anymore it is now about taking care of your child that you will see in a few months.
Try not to look at the negative (negativity will get you no where)things and think about all the positive and life changing things a child can bring to you and your girlfriends life. If after care full consideration you still don't "want" the baby adoption is really a loving choice if it is well thought out with the child's best interest in mind. I wish you the best.
2006-09-29 08:47:27 · answer #5 · answered by DreamingofU 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How about adoption? There are many people out there who can't have children and could give your baby a good home & life. Many folks will often spring for the cost of prenatal care & delivery to ensure the baby is healthy.
You should support the girl and be there for her during all this. It's a tough situation, for sure. Good luck!
2006-09-29 08:45:07 · answer #6 · answered by dark_firmament 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want to be partly responsible for the death and murder of your child, because if you were party to an abortion that is exactly what you would be doing.
You have a girl pregnant, now you need to take responsibility for the girl and her baby.
You have alternatives, this baby could go up for adoption, which will give the child a chance to be brought up in a loving caring environment, which if you don't feel you can give it in a few months time, it might be worth thinking about.
The other alternative, is to build a relationship with the girl, and make home with her. It's amazing what we can do, when we put our minds to it.
Whatever you decide, I wish you all well.
2006-09-29 08:41:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
If you want to dance then pay the fedller. You should have paid at lest $1.00 for protection. " What should you do " be the man
you felt you were during the accident. You sound like it's all you and not the girl or baby. i'd say the man in you is thinking i'll
" ABORT " Help her what ever she decides.
2006-09-29 09:00:16 · answer #8 · answered by hello67898 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I cant have anymore children, I will take the child, love him or her & give the child a good home. Where do you live now? There are so many couples like me. I glad to hear that abortion is NOT an option! Good for you both!
2006-10-01 22:54:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it up for adoption. There is so many couples out there that wants kids so bad that they cant have children. Never abort a baby, always think of someone else who might want the child.
2006-09-29 08:42:12 · answer #10 · answered by iwant_u2_wantme2000 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋