he wants to go out tom night on our own without my b/f (who i live with) My b/f dosent really like my friend much and suspects he has feelings for me. I love him as a mate and wouldnt want to not see him. But what do i do about my b/f - shall i just tell him that we are going out alone?? - That would prob upset me in the same situation.
2006-09-29 01:31:19 · 15 answers · asked by moo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you can still go out with your mate but i think i would refuse to leave my bfriend at home. its a bit disloyal, and may also give your friend the wrong impression and make him think he has a chance with you. you kinda already know the answer - you said yourself you would be upset if your bfriend did the same thing to you . . . why not invite other friends out too so its not just the 3 of you!
2006-09-29 01:33:45 · answer #1 · answered by Empress 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can you get a whole group of mates that would go out? That way its not so bad as in its just you and your mate - and you could bring your boyfriend along also so it wouldnt be just the three of ye. You could chat to your mate on a one and one basis also whilst your boyfriend chats to some other friends. I think its the best solution all round as no one gets hurt or upset by rejection. xx
2006-09-29 01:37:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's going to cause too much problems why doesn't your b/f go along? Do you live with him? If so, then it's perfectly acceptable to him to go. I would think that if you went out alone with your friend then your other half is going to get ideas...especially if he thinks your friend has feelings for you. I would tell your mate that your b/f is part of the deal and that if he wants to meet with you alone perhaps you could do it during the day for lunch or so? Surely that would be ok and it would be less threatening for your b/f.
2006-09-29 01:40:14 · answer #3 · answered by Victoria M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you've answered this yourself - if you would feel upset put in the same situation, then its not worth putting your boyfriend in this situation. If your friend does have a problem with your boyfriend coming along, then he might have an ulterior motive with you. Instead of being an awkward trio, why not invite some more mates out and make a big night of it. You never know, with the pressure off, your boyf and your mate might hit it off, or he might fancy one of your mates instead...
2006-09-29 02:01:21 · answer #4 · answered by Charliecat2980 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite the boyfriend along. He needs to accept your friends, it isn't like you are married. Your friends should be important, and he should respect that. Also - if he doesn't trust you, what are you doing with him to begin with. It has the makings of an abusive relationship. And your boyfriend - let me warn you, if he doesn't trust you, he himself can't be trusted.
If your friend from abroad likes you - he will also respect you. Don't do anything that would incite your boyfriend unnecessarily, that is, if you care for him.
Be upfront - but do go out on the town, with or without the B/F.
2006-09-29 01:36:26 · answer #5 · answered by Forgiven 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your friend is not really a "friend" if he makes such an obviously confrontational request... Tell your friend to get over the problem he has with your BF... and if he is "really" your friend he should accept your BF... I wouldn't go out alone with your friend... He doesn't respect your decisions and your happiness... Tell him it's a trio or a no go... period...
2006-09-29 01:43:20 · answer #6 · answered by deakjone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go out...what right does your boyfriend have telling you that you cant...it would be a different situation if you were married....but just go out and have a wicked night with your friend...your fella has the problem...if this upsets him..then tough...you have got a life....dont let him spoil it...tell him to get over it...he's your friend...
2006-09-29 02:05:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this grow to be to long winded lol, idk y u ask whats going at here b/c u look to already be kissing and cuddling and making plans to holiday mutually or in spite of. next time whilst something like this occurs, and u sense like some1 likes u, u could make sparkling issues b4 u enable any kissing and such to bypass on. so a strategies as is he a stable guy, shouldnt u be attentive to that with the help of now? u spent all this time w/ him and u could ask lol. it is y such a great number of girls have undesirable relationships b/c they're afraid to open their mouths and ask undemanding questions, they only enable issues take place as they take place and finally end up being the fool.
2016-10-01 12:04:49 · answer #8 · answered by fritch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No stay in, if your bf went out with a girl I'm sure you'd sream the place down
2006-09-29 01:33:45 · answer #9 · answered by Powerpuffgeezer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should explain to your b/f that he's only a friend and that you don't fancy him and that you only have eye's for your boyfriend.
2006-09-29 05:05:16 · answer #10 · answered by key 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋