what should I do??

Question

if I want a baby but I can't, cuz' I dont have a period every month, I'm irregular... I really want to be a mommy, in one of this Adoption Agency, there's a long waiting list before me and they want a lot of information that I dont have, like to be married and a lot other things. Someone told me to think about an open Adoption, but I dont know where can I find a girl who want to give us her baby (legally) and I can't go asking people if they want or not their baby... I really don't know what to do? or what should I do?

I've trying to get pregnant for like about 6 yrs but nothing happen, I went ask doctors and they said that everything its ok, if it was ok, I should have a baby already... but I dont =(

Answer 1

Check with your doctor to see why your not on a regular cycle. He may sugest a reproductive specialist for you to see.

Answer 2

Maybe the person you are having relations with is sterile. Just because your periods are irregular does not mean that you are not ovulating. I think that you are over stressing yourself about this situation. You need to try and relax and try something like foster parenting that leads to adoption. Good Luck!

Answer 3

I think God works in his own way. I really feel like some people are infertile for a reason. that doesn't mean they shouldn't have any children, but maybe He is calling them to a different way of going about it. there are so many babies out there who need homes. have you though about being a foster parent??? or adopting from another country?? good luck, what ever you decide

Answer 4

You can post an add about what your looking for in the Craigs list it is a nation wide FREE place to find sell or trade anything. It is the one stop web site for any need you have. it is craigslist.org click on the sanfrancisco link and then go to the far right and post in any or all states. also myspace is great place to find just about anything you need I personally like craigs list. Westword is also a place for non-traditional findings and adds. go to different sites on line and post. The places are unlimited

Answer 5

You ever find what your looking for when your looking for something else? its the same with getting pregnant. try too hard and you wont find it. stress can affect concievment.

Answer 6

You can put an ad in local newspapers---Looking to adopt.

You can look for people on line, but much more risky.

Answer 7

maybe it just isn't your time or you can pay and have them put your mans or who ever sperm inside and they can fertilize you instead of having sex very expensive though and it doesn't always work Good luck Keep trying

Answer 8

If you are irregular get on the pill. It will regulate you periods. Just take it for like 3 months and then stop and you should be normal! Also here's some tips on getting pregnant....

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Getting Pregnant

Did you know that a woman's chance of getting pregnant at any particular time is only about 20%? Most gynecologists say that women can still get pregnant within one year, but there are a few "tricks of the trade" that may help speed conception:

1. Track the monthly cycle. According to the National Institute of Environmental Health Sciences, a woman is most likely to conceive on the day of actual ovulation and the five days that precede ovulation. A woman usually ovulates on the fourteenth day of her cycle, so conception attempts are best tried between the 9th and 14th day. Her temperature will rise slightly during ovulation, so this is another point to check. Remember that the first day of the cycle is the first day of actual bleeding.

2. Don't douche. Douching, or internally cleansing the vagina with liquid (usually in a vinegar-based solution), even occasionally, can cut a woman's chance for conception by up to 50%, according to doctors at the University of Washington in Seattle. Good bacteria naturally cleanse the woman's vaginal area, as does her monthly cycle.

3. Drink caffeinated tea. A study published in the American Journal of Public Health reported that women who drank 4 ounces or more of caffeinated tea each day increased their chances of conception by up to 200%!

4. Elevate your hips. After ejaculation, placing a fluffy pillow under the woman's hips and having her hold this position for 30-40 minutes give the sperm a better chance of reaching the ovum (egg) with the help of gravity.

Though these methods do not guarantee conception, they have been known to help significantly increase your chances.


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Fuel up on folic acid
Folic acid is a synthetic form of folate, a B vitamin that can help reduce the risk of serious birth defects that affect the brain and spinal cord. For this reason, the FDA recommends that all women attempting pregnancy take folic acid supplements for decreasing chances of birth defects.



Quit smoking, drinking and drugs now

Smoking or taking drugs greatly diminishes your chances of getting pregnant and can lead to miscarriages, premature birth, and low-birth weight babies. Plus, research suggests that smoking can affect your fertility and lower your partner's sperm count. In fact, studies have shown that even secondhand smoke may affect your chances of getting pregnant. It is also recommend that women avoid alcohol when trying for pregnancy.



Cut down on Caffeine

Research shows that too much caffeine can reduce your ability to absorb iron and increase your risk for stillbirth. Avoid coffee, tea, and colas or switch to decaf to increase your chances of getting pregnant. If you are a complete caffeine junkie, then the safe limit would be a cup a day. Try switching to a milkshakes which will boost your calcium as well and assist in conception.



Get your weight in check

Healthy weight women have an easier time getting pregnant than overweight or underweight women. Studies show that women whose body mass index (BMI) is below 20 or above 30 have a harder time getting pregnant, so it's a good idea to try to get yourself into the 20 to 30 range before you start trying.



Timing is Everything

You will have little chance of getting pregnant if you had sex on the wrong days and missed the most fertile ones. Figure out your ovulation days with our ovulation calendar to increase your chances of conception. Read our articles on Ovulation and Signs of ovulation to assist you in knowing your fertile period. Ovulation predictor kits can also help you figure out when you're ovulating by detecting hormones in your urine that signal ovulation is about to occur.



Mind Control

Women who suffer from depression are twice as likely to have problems with fertility as women who don't. Get a mental health check if you notice signs of depression. Also, try stress management techniques, such as yoga and meditation, which research suggests can also help in getting pregnant.



Buy something sexy

Some experts say that if a woman is highly aroused while she's having sex, the sperm has a better chance of fertilizing her egg. Others say it makes absolutely no difference. It definitely wont hurt and may even help in boosting your libido and killing that awkward feeling of having sex for pregnancy.



Positioning yourself

Many experts suspect that the missionary position (man on top) provides the best opportunity for getting pregnant, though no definitive studies have been done on this question. This position allows for the deepest penetration which deposits sperm closer to the cervix. For additional effectiveness, the woman can try elevating her hips with a pillow so her cervix is exposed to the maximum amount of semen. Other positions could be Rear entry and lying side-by-side. Avoid woman on top, standing, or leaning positions, which discourage the flow of semen to the uterus.



Increase the Odds

Make your vaginal environment as sperm-friendly as possible. Avoid vaginal sprays and scented tampons, artificial lubricants, and douching. Not only can they cause infections, they may wash away cervical mucus or create a hostile environment for the sperm.

If you find that your cervical mucus is not as conducive of getting pregnant as it should be, you may want to try a specific type of lubricant. Pre-Seed lubricant is the sperm friendly choice of many people trying to get pregnant. After intercourse, elevate your hips on a pillow for about fifteen minutes.



For your man

Ask your partner to chuck all briefs and opt for boxers instead for a healthy sperm count. Also, having sex in the morning would help since the semen has the highest number of sperm then.



Finally

Getting pregnant isn't always easy. Very few couples conceive on the first try. In fact, even if everything is absolutely in perfect working order, you only have a 20-25% chance of conception each month. If you are under 30, and haven't conceived in 12 months, you should make an appointment to see your doctor as there could be some issues at play with are preventing you from getting pregnant. If you are over 35, and haven't succeeded in getting pregnant in six months, make an appointment to see your doctor, as infertility issues become more prevelant the older you get. If you are over 40, then do not delay in getting medical help.