Under the context of male and female chauvinism
2006-09-29 01:25:10 · 33 answers · asked by Shank 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Ye wo laddoo hai jo khaye na bane aur jo chhode na bane.
2006-09-29 01:28:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I love your line;
"Under the context of male and female chauvinism"
It shows that you've not experienced a mature relationship. Yes there will "some" freedom lost. But that in no way means it's under the context of male and female chauvinism.
Look at your own life first. It looks like your making generalizations about marriage due to your own failings (not seeking the right person)... &/or accepting someone that expects this twisted view on life.
There are plenty of us that are happy in marriage that look at your "assumption" as weird.
2006-09-29 01:40:29 · answer #2 · answered by Common Sense 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What freedom does one lose? The freedom of being with someone else. When you fall in love that is the only person you want to be with. By marrying one another you are making a commitment based on your love for each other. You become one. I am 29 and have been married for 12 years. I was young but still feel that no freedom was lost, I gained a lot.
2006-09-29 01:43:42 · answer #3 · answered by Kim M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really view my marriage as a loss of freedom. I can see how it could bee viewed that way however. There are compromises and balancing acts performed when you are married. But again that doesn't make me feel confined. I feel more free to be myself and to take risks now that I am married.
Mainly because I don't have to try to attract someone. I don't feel lonely and no longer need to find companionship. I'm not playing the dating game anymore. I don't have to try to hide my flaws. My husband has already found them despite my best attempts to keep them under wraps. And he doesn't love me any less in spite of my flaws. And the same goes for his flaws.
I can take more risks because I know someone will be there when it's all over. Someone to celebrate with if my risk paid off, and someone there to help me pick up the pieces if it all fell apart. Of course there are arguments and difficulties. If life were all peaches and cream it would be incredibly boring.
I know you hear a lot that marriage is about compromise. And compromise is often synonymous with giving up what you wanted for something lesser. Easily confused with a loss of freedom. But really it's not. You've also probably heard the phrase all good things in moderation. Normally a spouse is the one to keep you from going too far. That is what the compromise is about. Not cheap deals and bargaining that you might think of. It is reminding your husband or wife go this far and no farther...not because I'm controlling you but because you may get hurt.
Really its difficult to explain without you being able to experience it. Ever lived with someone you loved (other than blood family). It's kind of like that. NOt really a loss of freedom, more a respect for the wishes of the person you love and who loves you back.
2006-09-29 04:37:53 · answer #4 · answered by bubb1e_gir1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a very independant woman myself, I find it a little "frightening" to get married in that you do lose some freedom in the sense of coming and going as you please (without having to inform anyone else) and things like that. However, it is far more exciting to share my life with someone! I can't wait to come home and have my husband there. Now, there will be days when I am sure I will be unhappy when my husband is there (he'll be watching TV, dishes in the sink, no dinner ready, etc! LOL!) but for the most part, I think marriage is a very special thing. I'm really looking forward to it.
I'm getting married one year from today actually :)
2006-09-29 02:54:06 · answer #5 · answered by PT&L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! You must have some really sad relationships in your life!
A good marriage has no chauvinism in it!
I didn't lose any freedoms when I got married...Not a single one!
2006-09-29 06:52:35 · answer #6 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to lose some freedom to be in the happy captivity of the other person. If you are unhappy then you must set yourself free.
Naturally the partner must also give you a buffer zone of freedom. He/She cannot know every secret and sometimes you need some time alone. Find that balance, you have found your partner for life. If you cannot cope with commitment, do not marry.
2006-09-29 01:29:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think if you feel that you are losing something by getting married than your prolly not truly happy with the person you have chosen. I am getting married soon and have been with him for over 7 years and dont feel i have lost anything we have something called trust in our relationship we are both free to do as we please within reason no sex with others etc. unless you classify that as a lost of freedom? The thing with good relationships and happy marriage is that you build a life together you gain from having this person in your life...
2006-09-29 03:39:18 · answer #8 · answered by So Happy!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People marry for love, commitment, and security (not financial, but emotional support). The most amazing thing my husband told me after we were married for a while - is that he realized he was MORE free since he had been married, and didn't know what all the other guys were talking about, who thought they didn't want to get married because they were scared to give up their "freedom".
2006-09-29 04:22:16 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with free_your_fancy on this one. I have been married for almost 7 years and I have all the freedom I want. Yeah it was hard at first, but after I got him trained it is better now :) just kidding LOL! But seriously marriage does have its ups and downs but hopely more ups and the ups are really worth it. I love my husband very much and he loves me. I am very fortunate to have found him.
2006-09-29 02:21:47 · answer #10 · answered by victoriaelaine2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally, i think way too many people marry just to do it or because they dont wanna be alone anymore. that's why there are so many unhappy people in marriage and so many divorces. alot of people will never find TRUE REAL love in their entire life and therefore dont know what love really is. they only THINK they do. when you truly love someone, you dont think about losing freedom, because you wont. the only "freedom" you would lose is that freedom of sleeping with whomever you want...but again, if the love is REAL, you dont want to sleep with anyone else ever again except your spouse. if you love someone, you dont hold them back from doing anything, you allow them to live their lives.
2006-09-29 03:29:34 · answer #11 · answered by tulips♥77 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋