I found something out about the gf I should be told about, but discovered this information ignobly. I want to know about it. She has always been reluctant to open up and, according to her, not only with me. It is something I have the right to know about but shouldn't know about. So what do I do now? Do I ask or wait for her to tell me? This thing doesn't have the potential to end the relationship unless she doesn't share it with me at which point I will feel betrayed. Please don't speculate about what is going on. I am only asking for the protocol for inquiry into something major and important that I should know about but have not been told.
2006-09-29 00:55:58 · 11 answers · asked by randyken 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanks for being gentle so far. I like this girl and I want her to trust me and am doing all I can to show her she can trust me, and still she balks. I need to find a way to assure her that she can tell me anything and my opinion of her is not going to change. This hasn't changed it so I am all but positive nothing will.
2006-09-29 01:14:06 · update #1
make a call and ask
2006-09-29 00:57:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Randy if she is opening up to you little by little then you need to wait a little while to see if she tells you. Somethings girls just have problems telling guys because of what they might think of them. Now I don't know what this thing is but if it's not going to break you two up then it's worth waiting to see if she will tell.
Now on the other hand if there is away she will find out you know before she tells you then she might be upset with you for not letting her know you know. So don't wait to long but wait a few days and if nothing ask her questions that pretain to what you know and see if she admits it! If it is something very personal about her or something bad that has happened to her or something she is not proud of it may take her awhile to tell you. Just hold tight and then start talking about the subject but not directed towards her, maybe use a name of someone she doesn't know. That way she might feel like it's ok to tell you.
It will be ok, you will see!
Good Luck, but I don't think you will need it.
Always Amy
2006-09-29 08:09:35 · answer #2 · answered by heart2heart27958 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-09-29 07:57:55 · answer #3 · answered by d d 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know that you don't want to hear this but you have no right to know anything she is not comfortable telling you.
Be patient. When she is ready to share with you, she will. If you push this issue, you will have lost her trust and the relationship will be doomed.
2006-09-29 07:59:28 · answer #4 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient with her. Obviously it is something serious, and when she is ready, she will tell you.
It is hard to open up, sometimes just as hard for women to open up to men, as it is hard for men just to open up.
Just by showing her you care, she will learn to slowly let that wall down, and then you will be rewarded. Not in terms of physical rewards, but emotional rewards.
But you have to be patient.
2006-09-29 08:05:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she read minds? How can you put a deadline on something and not let this person know? Talk to her and give her the opportunity to tell you about it. Be fair!!!
2006-09-29 08:01:17 · answer #6 · answered by kelley1031 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start now teaching her how to be open and honest with you ,because if not someone will get hurt later on ,just tell her you know and wish she had of told you instead of you hereing from someone else ,I really wish you the best
2006-09-29 08:01:40 · answer #7 · answered by Holly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wake up my friend ,you dont own her and if you really care you will let it be ,if she wants to tell you then let it be at the time and place of her choosing,maybe she has her own reason why she has not shared that info with you,respect her right to her privacy and grow up
2006-09-29 08:00:32 · answer #8 · answered by gry w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-09-29 08:00:36 · answer #9 · answered by philanthropic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her and explain to her, just the way you explained to us that you need to know
2006-09-29 08:02:47 · answer #10 · answered by babejules2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her out for dinner and some time alone and ask her about it.
2006-09-29 08:00:31 · answer #11 · answered by Jessie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋