have u ever loved and lost.....?

Question

i think its time when u move on.... the most difficult part... forgettin him.................

Answer 1

If you are going through a break up right now, creating a new and joyful life may sound impossible. Whether you believe it or not, you can make your break up a positive experience in your life. Acceptance is the first step.
Getting Past the Drama
Acceptance comes when we step out of denial and judgment and are willing to see the present exactly as it exists in this moment. This means being able to see the story of your breakup for what it is, without any drama or story line. Our drama serves as a defense mechanism designed to protect us from the pain of our past. But, living in the story of your breakup and the drama of circumstances comes with a huge emotional price. It costs peace of mind and prevents us from living in the present.

Learning to Separate Fact from Fiction
An important aspect of healing is learning how to separate the facts from the story. Fact is an unbiased observation of the events of our lives. Fiction is the story we create out of our unresolved emotions from the past. It is rarely based on the facts. Here are some examples that can help you to differentiate between fact and fiction:
Healing Action Steps:
Ready to take the first step toward recreating your life -- and making it better than ever?
1.Create a quiet environment free from distractions. Take out a pen and a pad of paper, and begin writing your breakup story, complete with all the drama and emotion you feel about the events that transpired. Use language that expresses your deepest, darkest feelings. This is not a time to censor yourself, to be kind or to take responsibility for your actions. Give yourself permission to bring forth whatever needs to be said concerning yourself, your partner and your breakup.
2.Make a list of the facts about your breakup, without any story, drama or judgment.
3.Go back and read your list. As you revisit each detail, ask yourself, "Is this fact or fiction?"
You will soon realize its time to move on with life, get some good sensible friends Good Luck

Answer 2

Yes I have. But till today we love each other and cherish the good times we spent with each other. We are married to different persons and have children but still care for each other. So do not worry of losing. This memories will help you to come out in your difficult parts of your time. Possibly he or she will find in some corner of the world and put your solders on each other and releive your pressures you both had in the period you were not together

Answer 3

yes i think i speak for 98% of women worldwide most have loved and lost at some point in their mature lives.
actually moving on is the most difficult part but i think the secret to that is to focus inward,try not to think about him at all.hang out with your friens,family,do things that will keep your mind off thoughts of him.
all the stuff you neglected to do when you were with him cos it would cut in on your quality time or cos he did not want to do them,do them now.
also try to learn something new like french or salsa dancing some wher were you will meet new people a new environment that does not remind you of him and catch up with all the friends you neglected cos of him.
dont think about staring a new relationship just yet,you need some 'me' time first.and i tell you the memory will fade you will forget him even though you think you will not.
dont feel sorry for yourself or begin to think that if you had done things different that he would have stayed,this is his loss your gain.
good luck

Answer 4

Trust me I have been there. It is easier to hold on than let go, because letting go means you have to start over. But trust me now that you have admit you have to move on, you are making a huge step. My advice to you is the following:

1. Do not contact him at all. It will only hurt your healing progress and you won't truly move on.

2. Do not rush to date again. Take your time to truly heal and love yourself before you try to love someone else again. You will know when you are ready to get back out there. You will be ready to share your life with someone, not fill a void.

Good luck!

Answer 5

I think everyone has loved and lost at one time or another..and yes it is one of the most difficult things a human being can go through, whether it is losing a boyfriend, spouse, or family member, it will definitely take lots of time to mend...Sorry for your loss, try to stay focused on what really matters....YOU. Take care and good luck!

Answer 6

Love is the answer to everything. All you ever need is love,
communication and understanding. That's what I figured out so
far. If you are down, you need to get up and start doing something with
your life. Don't need to be shy, be straight forward and allways say what
you want and expect from the others.

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Answer 7

So place him in a special part of your heart....a place saved for only very few things.....and move on.....it's hard to move on, but you really have to. Let yourself have some time to get over him a bit. Not fair to a new man to have you still wrapped up in your ex....good luck.. I SO understand!!!

Answer 8

That's just part of the game we all play. Heartbroke and move on. Bad thing most times your not really in love w/ that person. We just like having em around. hehehe... To do our dirty work...

Answer 9

"The beautiful ones" Prince. (Purple Rain '84)
"Rocket love" Stevie Wonder (Hotter Than July ' 82)

Or any other song to help you get over. When you're fed up of the song you'll be fine.

Answer 10

Loved and lost guy here.....i am not the person who will answer your question because i myself dont know what to do but think about it...atleast when u move on you wont commit the same mistakes that u did in your previous relationship........i hope i can apply the same to me.......anyways.........u are right move on...........and wish me the same.........