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start to nudge on the mistakes that she does and get on her nerves..........

2006-09-29 00:35:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

Do what Miz Kazza says !! Wiser words were never spoken............

Be the Teacher. Teach her kindly that you are worthy of her respect. Make right decisions and she will learn to trust you better. Do not react when you are in her presence. Respond. You can say, "Mother i law, is there something you and I need to talk about? " Let her get it off her chest. She'll ease up when she slowly gets it that her son has brought her a beautiful gift in her daughter in law. Aim for the end result. She'll come around. You honor your husband when you honor his mother and who can measure how that will make your man love you all the more.

2006-09-29 07:30:13 · answer #2 · answered by Sunbaby 4 · 1 1

Ignore the nudges, sacrifice your ego. What is the "fault" she has pointed out? Remember it & next time don't ever repeat it. This practice will make you perfect until she can no longer find faults with you...

2006-09-29 07:21:10 · answer #3 · answered by Robin 3 · 0 1

Don't try to please her. Never justify your actions and don't tell her private things or discuss them with her. If she starts be critical then just leave the room or change the subject. Since she is already making it clear that she doesn't approve then you have nothing to lose by being rude and direct to her. You must nip this in the bud. You don't have to be polite and listen to crap about yourself. She is jealous of you for some reason and seeks to assure her position as being superior in some unfathomable way.

I had a mothernlaw that use to do this and I took it for years until ; I woke up one morning and said to myself "She will not change."
I then stopped calling her, stopped giving pictures of the kids, stopped telling her anything I had been doing. I refused to go over to her house and I never passed on messages to my husband. My husband knew I was doing this. I also told him that when he starts getting from his mom what he wants from me...Then he can complain. Soon, he started seeing that his mother was just being a pain. 2 years went by before she finally got the hint not to interfere in our lives.
When she called and said "what's wrong...blah blah blah?" I simply said "Nothing, what could be wrong?" I cut the convo short. If others tried to tell me something she had said I told them that I wasn't interested.
That was 10 years ago. Good Luck.
Remember you are deserving of the respect that others expect you to give them in all of your actions and if you don't get it
CUT THAT PERSON OUT of your life. GOOD LUCK!

2006-09-29 07:25:40 · answer #4 · answered by AVA 4 · 2 0

Tell her to stop it or stay away.
Or if you want to be nice about it, tell her that at least you're trying and if it doesn't suit her, you're sorry.
I got nasty with my ex-mother in law and opened the door for her and told her when she could come back and play nice, I'd let her back in, otherwise, she was invited to leave and not show her face again.

2006-09-29 07:19:11 · answer #5 · answered by Lucianna 6 · 1 0

This is normal .. It has been discussed in movies, stories and television for a long time . However the intelligent daughter in law is that who is patient and tolerant to her mother in law until she changes her behavior to become very friendly.

2006-09-29 07:22:26 · answer #6 · answered by Nilehawk 3 · 0 1

Im sorry! Thats hard. You really have two choices...

1.) Confront her nicely. Say "I know you must not like me very much, you keep nit-picking and finding my faults. It's really upsetting for me. What can I do to make our relationship better?"

if you dont want to go that route....

2.) Kill her with kindness....send her loving cards, flowers, compliments her like mad. She will start to soon feel like an A S S for finding your faults when you are so kind to her!

Good luck!

2006-09-29 07:15:56 · answer #7 · answered by Miz_Kassandra 4 · 1 2

tell your spouse, it is his or her place to set mother in-law in her place. then it will keep peace in your home.to make a marriage work is hard enough by itself. you don't need the extra.

2006-09-29 07:36:32 · answer #8 · answered by queenmidas1014 2 · 1 0

You could always ask her how she might do something and then do it your own way. Whatever, do not stoop to her level.

2006-09-29 07:18:47 · answer #9 · answered by Val 6 · 1 0

just ignore her, my mother in law is just like that. her mouth is bigger than her behind

2006-09-29 07:51:24 · answer #10 · answered by boohoo 2 · 0 1

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