I have been living in London for a while now and am completely homesick!!!! My family lives overseas and I miss them SO much. Things have not worked out for me here: still can' t find work, don't have any friends. The only thing is my husband is from here. He wants to move, but am I giving up? What's the right thing to do?
2006-09-28 22:52:48 · 20 answers · asked by ~♥~mama-to-be~♥~ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
tough question to answer - when i moved to london it also took me a while to get the kind of job i wanted. i gradually made some friends, joined a sports club where i met nice people etc. however, i continued to miss my family and old friends at home. the decision whether to stay or go 'home' wasn't an easy one, which is why it took me about two years to make up my mind. i was leaving a great job and a few people i'd miss - my roots were stronger than that. i don't think of my leaving as 'giving up', as sometimes you have to try something to see if it works for you. (i still have some regrets about a year as an exchange student in france, when i was really unhappy and lonely but thought i couldn't possibly 'give up' - what a waste of time that was!) it doesn't seem like you'd be leaving much behind, which should make things easier for you. from my experience i'd advise you to take as much time as you need to come to a decision; you don't want to spend the next ten years back home (especially if there comes a time - as it tends to do once in a while - when things don't go according to plan) wondering whether you rushed it and should have stayed in london after all. take your time, be as sure as you can be, then allow yourself to make a new start, not regretting your experiences during the time in london.
ps: i still feel homesick for london but know at the same time that i've made the right decision. lots of luck to you!
2006-09-28 23:35:07 · answer #1 · answered by new-in-town 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi hun
You have to follow your heart on this one i think, how long have you been here???
If moving here is the first time you have moved from your family and you are close to them you will feel very homesick. I moved far away from my family and i dont look back i speak to them all the time and when i do see them its so nice, because of the time we have had apart. Have you tired getting out and having some fun to meet you people??? England can be a fun place and has lots of nice people, we dont bite hehe well much. If you wanna chat give me a shout i have yahoo messenger ;)
But you have to follow what your heart desires you live once dont be unhappy.
Good luck hun
2006-09-28 22:58:11 · answer #2 · answered by Secretguk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i still do not know what the problem is. your hate it there, you are homesick and you want to go home. Well your husband wants to move, so suggest he move overseas and give it a try. so you can be with your family.
marriage is all about comprimise, you lived in his place so now he should give your country a try.
2006-09-28 22:57:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would you be moving back to???? A job? A home? I don't think there is such a thing as giving up. Things either work out, or they don't. There's no shame is saying "I miss my family and I want to go home!" Don't let false pride keep you from being happy.
2006-09-28 23:09:27 · answer #4 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its good that you miss your family stay in touch with them and make sure you go and see them or they visit you on vacations.
Its not the question of giving up coz family is what you need to survive and if they are away it seeems obvious that you miss them so even if you have to take that decision Goahead.
Thanx!
2006-09-28 22:57:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it feels right and the only thing you would be staying for is your husband - who is willing to go with you -then go. Nothing keeping you somewhere you're obviously not happy. Doesnt sound like you've settled and life is too short to be somewhere you're not happy.
Good luck in whatever you decide
2006-09-28 22:55:36 · answer #6 · answered by Leiani 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your not happy then theirs no point suffering just because you dont want to think you've failed. You haven't failed, home is where the heart is and your hear isnt in london. Your husband is happy to move so you have his support so go for it.
2006-09-28 23:20:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient, hang on, life does not reward the fickle and flighty. You had a reason to come, what is your reason to go? You knew your family would be living overseas- their situation was'nt to change, you changed-stay with it.
2006-09-28 23:00:19 · answer #8 · answered by John W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang in there, things will get better. Your family is your husband.
2006-09-28 23:22:58 · answer #9 · answered by Paulda37 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
either go back home or make the decision to stop sulking & start making things work. The decision is yours!
2006-09-28 22:55:49 · answer #10 · answered by Claude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋