myself and my husband dont sleep in the same beds..he was pissed and came into my bedroom trying to get some..it was 2am i was tired and just wanted him to leave but he wouldnt get up off my bed the more he kept trying to touch me the angrier i got..shouldnt i be entitled to peace in my own room??so he wouldnt leave because i was mad...i ended up shouting at him because i got so mad...then he said im not leaving till u calm down..i would calm down 5 more mins this dragged on till 5am and he knew i was up at 7am..we ended up having a huge row were i somehow got him out of my room and locked him out..he stood at my door for at least half hour asking me to open it..is it just me or is THAT JUST WRONG? he seems to think its ok to treeat me like this..and its all my fault because he remained calm and i got angry
2006-09-28 21:54:34 · 22 answers · asked by tinkerbell 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
reason for different rooms is he cheated on me and i never let him back into my bed...also hes a pilot and often has to be up at 3 am and 4 am was always waking me up
2006-09-28 21:59:26 · update #1
I think when men are pissed they can be the most annoying creatures on earth.
His sexual advances on you were selfish and he wasn't thinking of your pleasure, I'll bet you any money on that!
So, yes it was wrong. His moves don't sound to be respectful of your space or your request for him to leave. That in my book could be considered 'sexual harassment'. I don't care if your married or strangers, any person who tries to push themselves on you, especially when liquored up is sexually harassing you.
My judgement: He's in the wrong.
2006-09-28 23:23:07 · answer #1 · answered by quay_grl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He may have cheated on you but you are the one holding the grudge. You either love him with all your heart, and in every way you can by being forgiving, and understanding, and do everthing you can to make it work, or you can cry about it, make him feel guilty, and give yourself another reason to be COLD HEARTED. This answer to this one is simple and I am sure you have heard it before----- Love him. Or leave him.
By the way, if you want your own room, you should have NEVER gotten married. Stop being so selfish. Wouldn't it have been easier to help him get off, then to get into another stinking fight? Sheesh? What I call people like you is chaos addicted spoiled brats. You are mad because he cheated on you??? You must want him to cheat on you again since you are not making any effort to re-make the love. If you are not part of the solution...you are part of the problem.
2006-09-28 22:33:44 · answer #2 · answered by Xady 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're entitled to your feelings and your emotions, because you're a human being, and if you want to be left alone than you should be allowed to do that too. Sit down and talk to him and clearly tell him about how you were feeling and how inappropriate he was coming into your room at 2am and finally leaving you alone at 5.30am, when you had work at 7am! If he doesn't believe you in any way then show his this message board. You are entitled to be angry, I would of swung for him, or gone into his room, locked his door and gone to sleep :)
2006-09-28 21:59:33 · answer #3 · answered by susanradford18 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear Tinkerbel
Why are you in separate beds anyway?
Are you ready to leave him?
Can you work out what you want from him?
Does he have a drink problem he is getting help for?
How do you help each other?
How do you not help each other?
Why are you together?
Your question brings up all these other questions , and clearly this behaviour is wrong,manipulative, passive aggressive..
No doubt he will play the I feel rejected card and try and make out it's all your fault.
BUT
If you have answered all those questions for yourself you can tell him what is required in the future. Whatever you have decided.
All the best with this.
M
2006-09-28 22:10:01 · answer #4 · answered by mesmerized 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should never have been bugging you that much, but he IS going to stray again, this time because you are giving him no choice. He can live with you and live like a monk for the rest of his life or you could just cut him loose or cut him a break and trust him again. But as I have seen in countless questions over and over there is always something the asker isn't telling you. So either leave him or start sleeping together because to be married and miserable well, life is what you make it.
2006-09-28 22:20:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-11-25 02:01:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you mentioned the word "cheat",the answer became crystal clear-like a vision from on high-DIVORCE HIS AZZ!This cannot be allowed to continue,you will become ill from lack of sleep,stress,and all manner of other problems,so best you bin him and get "normal" again.You do not have to put up with this behaviour,you have choices..options,so use them.
2006-09-28 22:47:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Though you do deserve more respect than that, why on earth do you sleep in different beds as a married couple? That sounds like it would add tension to your marriage.
2006-09-28 21:58:05 · answer #8 · answered by Obsean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's cheated on you once and now you have seperate rooms.
I think that mabe the marriage is over.
Is that how you want to spend the rest of your life. It's a long life and wouldn't it be nice to SHARE it with someone?
2006-09-28 22:43:49 · answer #9 · answered by richy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might have marriage problems if you sleep in separate beds, my grandparents sleep in separate beds but they are almost 70.
2006-09-28 21:57:53 · answer #10 · answered by Jennifer S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋