When I was dating my husband he was so attentive and sweet. He would do anything for me and showed me he loved me all the time.
Now he hardly ever talks to me, has no respect for me and pays no attention to me and wonders why I never want sex! DUH!!!!!
I've told him this and he still doesn't make any effort! It doesn't count when he ignores me all day until he wants it. Why don't men get a clue?!!
2006-09-28 20:54:36 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your question is so biased and silly that it's not worth giving you an honest answer.
2006-09-28 20:56:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
It is so amazing to me the women that don't know how to talk to a man before they marry him. Not all men are like that. If he is not paying the attention to you like he should then it's up to you to put it to him in plain English that you are not going to live your life with him being treated this way. If he can't give to you the love and respect that you deserve then you or he has got to go. Some men are hard headed and a little stupid at times. And don't ask a man to get a hint' Most don't . Look him in the face and tell him the way it is. If he loves you' He will fall in line. To borrow a pun' Look deep before you leap. U should have known this BEFORE you married. Does he help clean the house? Watch the kids? Cook supper sometimes? Maybe wash clothes? Just little simple stuff can make a relationship go a lot smoother.With all this said i hope you are not the kind that seams to think that you are suppose to get all the love and respect but never give it back??
2006-09-29 04:45:58 · answer #2 · answered by Sarcastic Sid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could swing both ways on this one. Perhaps he'd say the same thing about you.
Either way, I'd talk to him about where your relationship is going and if there is something you are doing wrong. If he says you aren't doing anything wrong, explain to him your feelings and how you feel like he is taking you for granted. Most (good) men presented in a non-threatening situation like this would probably try to work things out.
You may want to read Dr Laura Schlessinger's "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" and it's companion book "Women Power". It's in paper back these days and if you have the guts to read it, you can turn your marriage around. Dr. Laura does talk about this subject and it can make a difference in your marital life.
Good luck.
2006-09-29 07:47:08 · answer #3 · answered by mchenryeddie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It works both ways , Life's daily stuff gets in the way , the daily interaction of the same old stuff , the list goes on and on . That's why people have affairs , the mystery, the adventure , the attention from the person working to get your attention, Try talking , not bitching and explain your feelings , than do something to spoil him , to give him the idea on how it is done. If there is not written operating instructions and detailed diagrams on how to take it apart, put i back together and having the proper tools to get the job done, most men are a little confused.
2006-09-29 04:02:31 · answer #4 · answered by DEADGONE 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
all guys are attentive,sweet and loving before marriage dear.But u hav to sav urself,if u'll resist wen he wants to hav sex with u then dont ask for help wen he'll seek sex outside dr.thers a prob somwer but since u found dat out its u to handle the matter and take initiative,u hav to spice up ur love life otherwise it will die same as a plant if u dont water and add fertilizers will it survive???? a marriage is same dear,u have to b attentive and sweet to him,its vry easy dear to handle a man u hav to use ur IQ i.e be vry intelligent.Its so easy to trap a man provided u woman know how to.Believe in ur abilties and cleverness 1st and u gota act asap.
2006-09-29 04:21:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
since you are complaining, what have u done for your man? Don't expect him to be all giddy around you. Starving him will just make the situation worse and worse. eventually someone will come and take your place. just make sure u don't complain about it. I hope he finds someone to do your job for you. Tell him i wish him the best of luck.
it takes 2. Punishing him does not make him the bad person, only u. Never use sex as a punishing tool.
2006-09-29 04:44:04 · answer #6 · answered by DaNewGuy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, in your case that may well be true! Not in all cases. Are you still acting the same as you did, when things were good? Have you asked him? What are you doing, that makes him not want you? It sounds like you have turned him off completely! Maybe, what your saying, really applies to you! Maybe your ego stands in the way of seeing the truth!
2006-09-29 04:14:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dont know either of you , but it usually takes 2, might be you dont dress up for him, try putting on a nice sexy dress or top and nice pants, and fix yourself up see if that helps.
2006-09-29 05:03:00 · answer #8 · answered by a1_friend64 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Were you married to more than one man, or does he account for all men? Would you like some cheese with that "whine"?
2006-09-29 03:57:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion... make him treat you right. If you are open to each other then you should be able to sit him down and say... look, I'm not happy and if we don't start working together in this relationship then we'll just have to call it quits. But be prepared to back it up, be strong, if he loves you then he'll see your side.
2006-09-29 03:59:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well yes it is his fault if you have explained your feelings to him and he doesn't make the effort to change...
2006-09-29 04:20:12 · answer #11 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋