i have a friend and i've known her for 2 years.i met her in college and even enrolled in the same university. the problem is, she seems to think i'm her best friend(which is i am not), and being following everything that i have done before. she tries to like all the stuff that i like and it really piss me off...i am sick of her but i keep pretending that i like her.how to get rid a friend like this?
2006-09-28 20:36:46 · 15 answers · asked by senorita_syaz86 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Breath deep the gathering gloom.
2006-09-28 20:53:43 · answer #1 · answered by saturn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you do it like you would a regular breakup. Try the gradual approach. Become less available. Don't return phone calls. If she doesn't get the hint then you'll just have to be honest with her.
Doesn't sound like she's done anything mean or malicious to you so I would give her the common decency of doing it in private. Be calm and be kind. Don't make accusations. Don't burn bridges. What goes around really does come around.
Just be honest. Mention how much her friendship has added to your life, but now that you're in college you want new experience and want to meet new people. This is your time to discover more about yourself. She might just appreciate your openness and your honestly. And you'll be proud of yourself you were able to handle the situation with such grace.
Good luck!
2006-09-29 03:52:15 · answer #2 · answered by Savez Agir 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I find it hard to believe that if you really dislike her, how come she doesn't feel that ? That is very strange to me, perhaps you are a very good actress. I would have a hard time being around someone who irritated me so much. Why do you pretend, is it to keep from hurting her feelings? I would pray about the whole thing but if you dislike her, I would start making excuses to not be together for a while, not lies but do stuff with others and not her. She must think that you are her best friend and that is why she hangs on, sometimes someone turns out to be different than we thought and they bring us down. I hope you let her down in a loving Godly way.
2006-09-29 03:45:28 · answer #3 · answered by Godb4me 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Communication! This girl thinks she's your best friend because you chose not to tell her you didn't think her to be. So now ... You have to communicate your feelings to her! Let her know she isn't. However ... Don't go upsetting the poor girl! She only assumed she was because you didn't reassure her this was not the case by saying nothing. So break the news gently. Tell her that you're both moving in different directions now and the friendship was good, you enjoyed it but you now have other things to do, other people you feel closer to. State you are too much of an individualist to imprison yourself with one best friend and that she can and will make other friends, one of them will be her best friend for years to come. Tell her university life changed you as it changes everyone else. But also tell her that! It'll be nice to meet up at times!
2006-09-29 03:50:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do her a favor , and pretend you are gone . From what you have written , she must be an angel to put up with you . Read your statement slowly to yourself several times and see if you can read between the lines ...It sounds as though she is just being a good friend- but you kept betraying that friendship-by merely "pretending ".
2006-09-29 03:42:04 · answer #5 · answered by missmayzie 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Dont pretend anymore... Get out.. Move from her, tell her you are having a melt down and need to distance yourself from everyone, esp her. Or just come out and tell her or ask her why shes such a *****. Maybe she doesnt realize she is a ***** all the time. it happens. Just set her straight.
2006-09-29 08:32:43 · answer #6 · answered by sshhmmee2000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck, I have a friend like that I've been trying to shake forever! The best thing I can tell you to do is to distance yourself. I triend MANY times talking to my friend but with her it only made it worse. Sorry!
2006-09-29 03:46:21 · answer #7 · answered by natureutt78 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Always be busy when she contacts you. If she ends up asking why you are avoiding her, tell her what you said in your question. It's kind of sad though because she evidently admires you very much to want to be just like you.
2006-09-29 03:40:11 · answer #8 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Be real with her. You're not doing her a favor by pretending to be a friend.
2006-09-29 03:39:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Restrict to speak
2006-09-29 03:39:48 · answer #10 · answered by Devaraj A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋