Does anyone else deal with a bitter exwife? And if so, how do you get someone so full of hate to back off? We don't bother her, but she continues to bother us. I got yahoo to delete an email account where the username was "leeandruth*****areb*tches". She calls, emails, im's but with her being in another state, tx won't touch her because the police department down there thinks she's nuts. If I file a police report, or restraining order, she's does the same thing the next day. Any advice on how to deal with this madness will be greatly appreciated. Serious answers only please. I put up with enough of her crap already.
2006-09-28 20:03:25 · 16 answers · asked by ruthie b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, I'm the new wife. She won't leave me alone. She's still in love with my husband. He can't make it anymore clearer that it's over. Yes, there are kids, but she keeps moving and changing numbers and now their daughter is in on the harassment.
2006-09-28 20:10:04 · update #1
No, I doubt I'll be a bitter ex-wife, i don't behave like her "kathy o". That's why she's divorced. hint, hint But i appreciate everyone elses answers. thank you.
2006-09-28 20:15:22 · update #2
I dealt with one
they were divorce for 16 years when I get into the pic
and she live in a complete different continent than us
the minute she heard that I was preg she decide to bother me
she will call everyday AT 2 AM
my husband step up to plate and put her at her place
get a lawyer and file a restraining order
and when I lose the baby he went after her
After that was over my husband gone trow the same with my X
who happen to live in the US and me in France
for peace we had to get the court involve and now he is not even seeing his children because of his stupidity I was allowed to leave the US with the children
are you the new wife or the Gf, it should not matter
but I think you need to get him to deal with it and try to stay away from the drama
it is harder if children are involve, but you guys should get ID caller and do not answer her call when she e-mails keep it as proof have him get a lawyer to file the restraning order
but no matter what don't let it brake up your relationship because that is what she wants -Don't let her know that what she is doing is bothering you
Be strong
Good Luck
2006-09-28 20:19:13 · answer #1 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Dang this situation sounds all to familiar I thought my Husbands ex was a psycho but your Husbands ex takes the cake well I didnt go the route calling the police and restraining orders because my Husbands ex was only Big Billy Bad Azz on the computer and on the phone but face to face shes as quiet as a church mouse I bet your Husbands ex wife is the same way,heres what I did she would call my home and be rude every waking time so I would get upset at first so then i decided to kill her with kindness so when she would call I would greet her with a warm and friendly hello and I would let her state her business and then hang up or give my Husband the phone,about a month or so ago my husband let her have it when she called saying she needed money for school clothes after we had bought everything his son needed and more finally my husband went the H ell off on her so she started to call and be polite after a while but then she started right back up and one day she called and I didnt feel like being nice so she called and hung up and finally she had a friend of hers to call saying ugly things about my Husband so I finally told her you know what YOU ARE MAKING AN EVEN BIGGER A SS out of yourself I told her she was childish and she was a joke and that myself and my Husband get a big laugh every day because now she misses what she had so shes pinning over him and thats the same thing your Husbands ex is doing,if he wasnt seeing you or married to you I can almost guarantee one thing she would still feel like shes in control and theres only one way to beat a control freak at their own game stay at least 10 steps ahead of them but if push comes to shove you may have to be prepared to confront her face to face and see if she wants to box (just Kidding) which I doubt she just wants to be like my Husbands ex a pain in the A ss I think shes just childish and needs to grow up and find a man she can call her own I also think maybe she could benefit from some counseling.
2006-09-29 04:00:12 · answer #2 · answered by CaliMa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take this with a grain of salt... If I were you I'ld change my email and phone number, of course make it unlisted. Tell the people that really need to know it what it is but nobody that will leak it to her. I'm sure its a big inconveinance but to stop dealing with that crap its more then likely worth it. If you don't want to do that, seeing that its between states and tx won't do anything about it, is it possible to make it a federal issue??? Might be worth looking into. Good luck.
2006-09-29 03:16:41 · answer #3 · answered by Jason 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well she can only have access to u via the ways u give her access to u.. understandably she has ur mail address and phone number because of the child.. but she doesnt need ur email address.. so change ur email address.. problem solved with the emails..
Phone.. your husband needs to answer the phone when she starts talking he needs to say "Is there something i "NEED" to know about as far as our daughter" the moment she starts in on the harassment he hangs up.. NEXT STEP.. at radio shack.. they have phone recording devices to where u can record ur conversations.. now the trick is as soon as he picks up the phone he has to tell her each time that she's being recorded.. if she's an idiot she wont care and pull her crap on the phone.. when u have enough evidence to show how enstable she is, and enough evidence of the brainwashing tactics on his daughter.. then u take her back to court and get custody of the little girl.. as she is the one being truely hurt in all of this.. NOW another solution to the phone harassment.. is if he has a cell phone.. he only lets her have the cell number and change the house number that way when she starts her crap and u see its not an emergency with his daughter he simply turns the phone off.. If she sends things in the snail mail u send it back return to sender.. Eventually she'll get tired of the games if u keep putting a brick wall up.. i think u should do the radio shack record phone call thing.. because one of two things will happen either she'll back down real quick when she realizes she's being recorded, or she'll think he's full of crap and run at the mouth then he wins custody of his kid when he can prove how instable she is.. But u can work around this, instead of her having access to everything u need to limit her access, she should only have a cell phone number and a house address thats it.. everything else should be private away from her.. and if u continue to let her have access to all of this yet do nothing about it, then ur just letting it happen.. so change ur phone number, change ur email.. get the recording device.. and maybe even just get a track phone prepaid thats only used to call them or for them to call u.. that way u know who is calling every time.. but stop getting so distraught ur letting her win she wants u to be upset.. start taking her tools away .. she'll start getting ticked when she see's she keeps running into a brick wall.. stop fighting with her over the phone soon as she starts say "when u can talk to me civily call back" then just keep hanging up on her till she gets the picture.. she will eventually get tired..
2006-09-29 04:03:44 · answer #4 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should try to suck it up and be "friends" with her. Having a courteous relationship will be good for everyone involved. By the way, why did your husband marry her and have kid(s) with her if she's always been psycho? There must be something there besides evil. Find the good, encourage the good, and remember that when you marry someone with kids, you marry the other parent too. It's a tough road, good luck.
2006-09-29 03:37:07 · answer #5 · answered by theinfalliblenena 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I HAD the same problem. It was a nightmare. We stopped answering her calls, if for some reason she called from somewhere else, we would hang up unless it was a serious call about the children. We didn't give her the satisfaction of knowing she got to us. What really made her stop was just simply laughing.
2006-09-29 03:12:08 · answer #6 · answered by mckvlvt 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My only advise is to learn not to react to her crap. What she is looking for is a reaction and it seems to me she is getting what she wants. My husband had a nasty rotten lady that was attached to him by a kid and it made things pretty bad but I figured out that she was looking for a reaction and if you don't give it then they get bored eventually and move on to terrorize someone else. Believe me it took alot of self control but It can be done and you can do it also. Words are just words and have no meaning to it unless you give it meaning. Also mind over matter, if you don't mind it surely don't matter. Remember this and learn the act of self control and you will better equip yourself to the world anyway. Its all a matter of perspective.
2006-09-29 03:09:40 · answer #7 · answered by soniaatcalifornia 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Contact your local police and put a restraining order on her. Then if there is any direct or even indirect contact she goes to jail. And the only thing other than that is time. or murder, but then you pay not her.
2006-09-29 04:56:17 · answer #8 · answered by sonkysst 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to contact an attorney. A woman scorned. You must have really done her bad to make her that angry. Although you have gone on with your life, she hasn't. She is angry because you are doing the things you were suppose to do with her. If you have kids, I hope the State doesn't take them away.
2006-09-29 03:06:59 · answer #9 · answered by Trollhair 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
BLOCK HER from your email list and messengers, get caller I.D
or change your phone # and get it unlisted and a new email address (easy to make a sub-account and stop using the one she contacts you on).
Its simple really.
Im wondering, why would she slap a restraining order on YOU?
2006-09-29 03:09:29 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋