doesnt please me in bed he was a virgin when we married and its kind of disapointing i love him no matter what its been four years , but he only last a few minutes and its over he just says your too good, i have been with men before him and i masterbate and think of another guy, (who'd I never take to another level its just mind contact )but I feel guilty about thinking about another guy to have a orgasm but the ways he made me feel comes to my mind, what can I do to imprve my husband he is perfect for me in every way but sexually
2006-09-28 19:23:35 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Its not that difficult to improve your husband's sex drive, just ask him to give it a little more deal and thats it.
Have you tried repeated sex on the same night? that would increase his time
secondly mastrubate together and that would increase his time.
ask him to slow down pull etc if close to discharge.....
2006-09-28 19:49:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your question is important and serious.
Please talk and discuss the problem with your husband, straight and freely. I think there is no point to tell your husband about your past experiences with another men and about your masterbate, because that will just make your problem become worst.
What you may want to discuss with your husband is how to prolong the process, could be how to reduce your goodness as he always said. In another words, if your not too good, may be he can last much longer !
Good luck.
2006-09-28 19:46:42 · answer #2 · answered by sastra 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The simplest think is to talk to him
if he does not listen than stop sex when he wants to know why say well it is not worth it to me
if he want to listen, than show him how to take his time teach him
rent a porn movie show him how man touch woman
buy him books on how to make love
in the other hand buys books first and then the movie
Good Luck
2006-09-28 19:59:05 · answer #3 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe u should think of wat turned u on in the first place a/b ur hausband instead of another guy when u do that b/c i do think it is wrong 2 think of another guy.Something that might possibly help u n the bedroom w/ ur hubby is 4-play.get him off first then try to make love after words.That should help him last. I've been married 4 almost 10yrs so I know that works 4 us. I hope i have helped. good luck.
2006-09-28 19:34:34 · answer #4 · answered by liv2praz 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Might I suggest taking a trip to the adult store together and buying some toys he can use on you to satisfy you. There are also lubes that have a slight numbing effect on the penis so that it isn't as sensitive and he can last longer.
2006-09-28 22:04:17 · answer #5 · answered by sonkysst 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one, maybe you could find clips of videos to show him the things you want to do with him.
There are things I'd like to do with my husband but something about being married and all the stuff that goes with that.
May sound weird but the sex I would want can only be done with someone I don't drink coffee with or fart in front of...
2006-09-28 19:49:06 · answer #6 · answered by ShiftyShadyBitch 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Men love it when you say "OK Hunny, I want you to this for me/to me, It gets me so hot". Men will jump at the chance to be a better lover. If it pleases you and makes you happy. It will make him happy too. Men are very simple and women are very complex in the way their brains work. S we can be teachers and they will soak it up. Especially if we do it in a kind and gentle way. Don't be like a drill Sargent be a thrill Sargent and things Will heat up in ways you never thought possible!
2006-09-28 19:29:43 · answer #7 · answered by twysty 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If the question is "how do I fix this", then simply tell him what you want him to do. Some people, especially those who are not as experienced, need direction. He may be embarrassed at first, but make a game out of it, and I'm sure he'll come around.
2006-09-28 19:26:55 · answer #8 · answered by jkeele777 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Talk to your husband, tell him some of the things you would like him to do to help you get satisfied in the bedroom. Or you could masterbate first, but stop when your right at the brink of an orgasm, then make love to your husband.
2006-09-28 19:28:10 · answer #9 · answered by sweetgurl13069 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Make it fun! Do something fun, like take a bath together. It will make the both of you feel better. Experiment! Don't try to achieve greatness all at once. Don't be afraid to try something new, as long as you both agree! Play!
2006-09-28 19:28:34 · answer #10 · answered by regwoman123 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋