Is it wrong to be annoyed that my roomate has friends over until 3 in the morning?

Question

I live in a four bedroom apartment. My room is directly next to the kitchen and common living area. They aren't too loud, but I can hear everything they say, laugh, using of kitchen appliances, etc. Apparently it's their holy month, so they can't eat during the day. So he'll have 3 or 4 people over and cook for them. I have to wake up for classes at 7:30 in the morning. I am a light sleeper. I am annoyed by the fact that I hear them and cannot fall asleep. Am I wrong to be annoyed? Am I just getting too whiney? If not, bonus points for what I can do about it.

Edit: I should also add they aren't being rambunctious, as one poster seemed to think I implied. They're doing normal stuff normal people do when normal people eat with each other-- just at 3 in the morning next to my room.

Also, I tried explaining it to him, but english isn't his first language, and he responded that he didn't understand what I was saying, then showed me his food and said I could eat it. :-\

Answer 1

1. > Muslims fast during the day, starting fr the time the sun comes up till it sets, n it is encouraged for the Muslims to eat just before the sun comes up (thus eating at the wee hour)

2 > as u said, they're not too loud, but you're a light sleeper. still, yes, you should discuss with your partner about your problem, if both of u are civil enough, then the matter should b solved instantly.

3 > no, you're not whiney, it's good that u r trying to find a way to solve it diplomatically. *cheers!*

Answer 2

You have every right to be annoyed and more. That is so rude, I had a roommate like that once. Why don't you wait until early morning and have some revenge by not letting them sleep. Blast the radio have your friends come over nice and early for a breakfast party. Say it's your religious practice. Then get a one bedroom even if it's a studio trust me you'll love the privacy. Good luck. Hope you get some rest soon. Try earplugs too in the meantime they work wonders.

Answer 3

If it's Ramadan, aren't they supposed to fast and not eat at all? Maybe I misunderstood.

Wow. I guess that would be annoying. But there's really nothing you can do about it since you share the apartment. Be glad they're not hootin' & hollerin' and chugging down beer and having sex and stumbling into your room drunk....

If it bothers you, mention it casually the next morning. Say something like, "I hope I don't bomb my test today; I really couldn't sleep very well...." Or just tell them bluntly.

I'd leave it alone and adjust my sleeping habits so I could fall asleep anyway.

Answer 4

Sounds like a clash of cultures that requires some diplomacy.

As you probably know, the fast begins at daybreak (judged by when you can distinguish a white thread from a black one). During these hours Muslims may not eat, drink, or have sexual activity. At sundown, the devotees partake of enough food and drink to enable them to fast the next day without physical weakness.

Tell him that:

You understand that he and his friends need to break their fast and celebrate Ramadan, but that you also need to get your rest for early classes. Ask that they finish their meal by a time that you feel is reasonable for you to get adequate rest.

Answer 5

any words can be spoken; it is how it is said that matters. So go up to ur roomate and tell her nicely.. "sorry, i am a light sleeper, so when you guys make small noises in the kitchen, i cannot sleep. is it ok to try to minimize the noise at nite bec i get a real bad head ache if i dont sleep well at night?"

if he/she is a considerate person, he/.she will move the gang to another place. u will see what kind of attitude he/she has here.

Answer 6

You may want to discuss this situation with them. Even if it's a religious event, perhaps your roommate can go to his friends' places to do this.

Have you tried sleeping with ear plugs?

If you live in an apartment and share space with your roommate, then he should understand and be courtesy for what is happening to you. Your studies should not be affected because you have an inconsiderate roommate. That's not fair to you.

Good luck!

Answer 7

You have every right to be annoyed. You are sharing the cost of rent, so your roommate should not behave as if he owns the apartment. Tell him to either keep it down, or to hang out in his bedroom.

Answer 8

no, you are not beeing whiney! you do not pay rent to listen to HIS friends at 3 am. tell him that it is disrupting your sleep pattern, and that while you respect his religious beliefs, ask if they can go to one of the friends houses instead of your house. just say that it is unreasonable for him to have friends over at 3 in the morning. if he continues to do it, talk to your landlord.....when people live in a house together, and share common areas, respect needs to be given to everyone in the house.

Answer 9

I'd be having a talk with that friend and let him know him and his friends are keeping me awake and I don't appreciate it. If he does not comply to keep the noise down, I will resort to keeping him awake. 2 can play that.

Answer 10

don't think it's wrong to be annoyed-think it's wrong to have your roommate disturb you like this.why not talk to him-hear what he has to say .maybe you can tell him that you don't you don't mind him having his but you need your sleep so they should be less rowdy.