I am madly in love. We met our freshman year in college and have been together ever since. He's my best friend, and I can't imagine finding anyone else like him. He recently asked me to marry him, and I don't know what to say because we are both still so young.
2006-09-28 19:06:19 · 20 answers · asked by iheartpink 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When in doubt, say no! You think you are too young, so then you are too young, and that is OK to think. I think it is best to wait until you are sure in every respect. Remember that true love does not go away, so there is no need to rush into marriage. You do have your whole life ahead of you still, and aren't you pursuing a degree? Do you want to finish those studies? You can date and have all kinds of fun, but being married is a lot different, and will be filled with responsibilities that you don't have now, so I'd enjoy your life now with him as your best friend, and get married when you are truly ready all around. Timing is very important.
2006-09-28 19:18:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is amazing how many young women ask this same question. You are obviously feeling doubt, and that doubt is the first sign that you should not be getting married at this time. Now, I said at this time, that doesn't mean that you can't get engaged if you really love this man and are committed to him. You can stay engaged and continue your relationship until you are ready to make a lifetime commitment to him without the doubt. There are many questions to be answered....Do you want to finish college before getting married? Do you want to be able to support yourself before moving in together? There is no hurry... If you both are in love, you have lots of time and you will both know when it's the right time. If you have to ask the question...it's not the right time.
2006-09-28 19:32:39 · answer #2 · answered by Cynthia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what YOU think is best and not what anyone else thinks. YOU are the only one who knows if you are ready or not. True if you are still in school it may be hard, You are only 20 and you have your whole life to live but if he is what you want and you will love each other through the ends of time the good AND the bad. Then I wish you congradualtions if you decide not to it may not be over between you two just that you need time or many a long engagment. Good Luck.
2006-09-28 19:12:02 · answer #3 · answered by Sassy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask, then no you should not get married. If are worried that you are too young, then you are intelligent enough to know that you are.
If you really love him, an engagement of at least a year would be a good idea. You will need time to plan your perfect, fairy tale wedding, and in a year you may be ready.
Whatever you decide to do, I believe it will be the right decision for you. I wish you well.
2006-09-28 22:52:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i must say that being young and married doesn't always work out ... u know ... not in all the cases , my mother was married when she was 19 and she was madly in love just as u were but no sooner than a year , she got pregnant and had her first baby , my eldest brother ... but then problems began , she found out that the guy she married wasn't exactly the guy of her dreams but she had to go on because of us ... that's why i must advise you not to rush in , marriage isn't just about love , and your life hasn't started yet , you didn't finish your studies , you haven't started a real job yet , that's why you have to wait and wait coz he's the first real love in your life , you haven't met any other guys yet .... so be patient ... and i assure you that time will indicate whether he was the one or not ....
2006-09-28 20:05:48 · answer #5 · answered by chocolate 90 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend and I recently got married, I'm only 20, he's 24. It's about maturity and the stage of life that you are in. I was ready because it was time, and he was ready because it was time. Not a moment before, nor a moment after. Love is only half the battle; making the marriage is the other 90% ;)
2006-09-28 19:13:35 · answer #6 · answered by mrschrisbennett 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I got married after knowing eachother for a year, and when we tied the knot I was 19 and he was 21. It was the best decision I've ever made. It sounds like you really need to take some time to yourself and think. When you have all your thoughts gathered talk to him about it. Nobody on here can tell you if you're ready to get married.
2006-09-28 19:11:01 · answer #7 · answered by masterdvrsgirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would think about it alittle more cause i was with my husband 2 years before we got married and we've been married 4 years now. i dont regret it but i'm only 23 and i still want to go out and have fun with my friends the sad part is i also have 2 kids. my husband was my high school sweet heart. we got married had 2 kids and still going strong
2006-09-28 19:43:31 · answer #8 · answered by mary g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though I married my highschool sweatheart at age 23, I think now, years later, that I was too young. I don't regret marrying my husband, but it is soooo important that you both have your independance first......I stongly recommend that you follow your feelings, and maybe go to a pre-marriage course that will allow you and your boyfriend to work through possible issues that my come up in your marriage....it will save you alot of heart ache....good luck
2006-09-28 19:17:10 · answer #9 · answered by Victoria 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi frist of all am happy that you found the one you love , but love isnt every thing in our life there is many things in our life is important to make your love complete , frist if you get marred you must descuce many things like, did he works and you works or not ,if he is the only one who works is his salary can make you both happpy and spent it and save some money from it , did you thought that you are so young so are you going to get childreen after you marage or not , if your parence know that and will be happy for it , do you and him leave in the same level of life ( you poor he rich or the opp.) if you descues all this things go on and happy marrage
2006-09-28 19:27:00 · answer #10 · answered by lover boy 2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋