Ever since my sister had a baby nearly 2 years ago, I've had baby fever and the majority of my friends have kids. Im only 20 years old so its not like I need to go get pregnant right away. That, and my boyfriend is not so big with the kids menu. I know I want to be with him for the rest of my life, even though we are both at the point where we shouldnt be commited and should be dating, but I just want to have his kids. This isnt exactly a question... but advice is a perk. I try to play with my niece as much as I can, but my work schedule rarely has time to cooridnate with my sis for some play time... I can only live vicariously through my sister so much...
2006-09-28 19:03:19 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Try getting a puppy or a kitty, they don't talk back and you don't have to change diapers only litter box and you can spoil them rotten and it won't have an effect on them, you also don't need a babysitter to watch them when you go to work. I am only suggesting an alternative to a child because most consider their pet as a child. It also helps as the companion aspect plus they are just cute and cuddle and fun to play with. Kids are great I have two but if your not ready then maybe you need to substitute that need with something else so this is why I suggested a cat or dog. Think of it as a trial run to parenting.
2006-09-28 19:28:21 · answer #1 · answered by medevilqueen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may want to wait. Raising kids is demanding physically and emotionally. It also makes a lot of demands on your time and is expensive. It costs a fortune to supply food, clothing, diapers, day care and housing to children. It has many rewards, but if you wait, you will be in a better financial position in a few years. You'll have money saved up and have a job that pays better. Your boyfriend will be more ready in a few years also, and will have a better job. Most people at the age of 20 are in an entry-level position.
2006-09-28 19:14:25 · answer #2 · answered by salsera 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are very young. You admitted that your work schedule rarely allows you the time to play with your niece. So what would you do if you had a full-time baby? Think it through and agree with yourself to wait until you are financially able to stay home and care for a baby. If that's not an option, then please wait a few years because 20 is extremely young these days to start a family.
2006-09-28 19:08:23 · answer #3 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try and enjoy your life to the fullest before settling down to have kids. Make sure that both you and your partner are on the same page when it is time for having kids. But I firmly believe that everything happens for a reason and when the time comes and when the time is right, you will have beautiful, healthy baby. Don't rush it, you still have plenty of time!!!!
2006-09-28 19:19:33 · answer #4 · answered by Slk 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Umm....I'm 20 and I'm pregnant, but I didn't have baby fever, it kind of just happened. But I'm happy about it now, I wasn't so much at first. I say, you need to seriously think about having a baby before you actually get pregnant because things can change. You said your boyfriend doesn't want kids, that doesn't sound too good if you want one. Just wait and see, don't rush anything just yet.
Good Luck!
2006-09-28 19:11:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are young. You have a busy life. Life with a baby isn't all peaches and cream. Enjoy your freedom. You can still have fun times with your neice, but don't have a baby at such a young age. If you don't have enough time to play with your neice as you'd like, imagine what your life would be like with your own child. Also, babies cost BIG $$$. Hopefully you are completing your education so you can afford a baby. Talk to your sister, I'm sure she envies your freedom.
2006-09-28 19:08:10 · answer #6 · answered by wanninonni 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what do you mean "you shouldn't be commited, you should be dating"... is that REALLY how you feel, or is that how he wants you to feel. maybe date around then... theres lots of guys out there who love kids.
i was really young when i had my first, and I was never with his dad. my son is the biggest part of my life--- i found someone out there who was great for me.....
you need to tell him what on your mind and in your heart. if he doenst want kids, and you do... then maybe its time to move on and search for someone else.
let me tell you about my cousin, shes about 40 now, been married for about 15 years......she has ALWAYS wanted a baby, but her husband does not want kids... she thought that he would change his mind after they settled down. NOPE. she is now 40, depressed , and childless. she drinks A LOT....
i dont know if my advice will help.
2006-09-28 19:14:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just don't rush things take your time because a kid is a big step in another world. Make sure thats what u want ok. GOOD LUCK
2006-09-28 20:00:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
An infant needs both a mum and a dad. Do not believe those who say otherwise. In your case you should have a total commitment from the man with whom you would like to live and who you would like to father a child.
2006-09-28 19:08:09 · answer #9 · answered by kytho 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I hv 2 ladies they r 32 months aside. Adjusting from one million to 2 is complicated its very very complicated.. i could not think of hving yet another that close 32 months is close adequate. only think of DOUBLE the diaper, bottles, wipes, formulation, automobile seats, cribs etc etc.. might u been the single
2016-10-01 11:55:47 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋