I fall in love with somebody who is straight, and he hates gays.
solution please...
I know that it is impossible for me to date him, so help me to unlove him!!
2006-09-28 18:35:32 · 23 answers · asked by Freezing_rose 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
As my sainted grandmother always said, "The best way to get over someone is to get under someone."
Find some cute gay guy, or a straight guy who doesn't hate gays and is open to suggestion, and rock his world. Unless you're the type of person who likes to invite tragedy into their life, you'll forget about Mr. Cutie McHomophobe in no time.
2006-09-28 18:40:58 · answer #1 · answered by Guelph 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Refocus your attentions and energies towards a more productive goal. Volunteer your extra time to helping others, get involved in something you really believe in, help out "OUR" community.
You never know, you just might actually find someone else who's more "available!"
I must admit that I'm a bit concerned that you have an issue with falling for unattainable people. Those who are emotionally unavailable. If this is a pattern for you, I'd suggest a little counseling as well.
It's no shame to ask for help, if you really need it.
Just a suggestion.
2006-09-29 01:46:49 · answer #2 · answered by DEATH 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In response to Ms. Mary: I have read several of your answers to people's questions. You are a heartless bit@@ and I hope you get diarrhea and $hit until your @$$hole falls out.
Dude - I feel for you. I had a guy fall for me before, just because I accepted gay people, he thought I must be. Good luck, you never know - maybe he is projecting, perhaps he doesn't really hate gay people, and is using that as a cover. You never know.
2006-09-29 05:57:06 · answer #3 · answered by Forgiven 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Realize that you are chasing after unattainable partners. If that trend continues, it may be an indication that you are commit-phobic. Being gay and finding parters can be difficult as not every man you see is gay. Look for partners or dates in places you know that is aimed at men who are gay. To "un-love" your straight guy, understand that he is not a suitable partner and that you need to find someone who would love you for being you.
2006-09-29 05:59:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unlove him? Oh dear. I know I'm not the one to advise on love stuff but if you really love someone, you can't unlove them. It's not possible to love someone who hates you; you desire him for some reason, probably hoping to change his view. You can't. He'll have to come to that decision someday on his own. So. What you can do is think of something or someone else?
2006-09-29 01:43:58 · answer #5 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are not in love, you are in ... flatuation (ain't that the shi*s?) Just a case of dreaming up love, not being in it. WE all are guilty of it occasionally, the best and worst of us. Trust me, it will pass and you will look back and laugh at yourself. Been there, done that, wrote the book, it was a best seller.
All thing pass, and while you are waiting, DO NOT LET THIS guy know anything about what you THINK your are feeling! It is not his fault, and please do nothing that will scare him away from being your friend. Good luck, and chill out..it will pass.
2006-09-29 01:53:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might consider some "me time" to get ok with just being on your own instead of running off to someone else whom you may or may not actually care about for the right reasons. Not a judgement, just a suggestion; worked wonders for my happiness.
2006-09-29 01:45:50 · answer #7 · answered by Atropis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Falling for someone else is one cure. Also look at why you fall for someone. If your values are so totally opposite maybe you should start valuing men by more than the hottie factor.
Good luck.
2006-09-29 02:58:06 · answer #8 · answered by San Diego Art Nut 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest u might can get him, because where im from alot of men are in the closet. And if he really hates gays be careful because most that do feel that way they feel like gays dont belong on earth. N-E-Wayz like i said its alot of in the closet and mojorty of them will not have a problem telling you what they are catch u someone thats feeling you.... thats what i think .....
2006-09-29 02:00:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is NOT a gay problem. It is an emotional intelligence problem.
He hates gay people. What is your problem? Why love a guy who hates your sexual orientation? What's to love about such a hateful person?
2006-09-29 04:44:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋