Okay i have been going out with my boyfriend for 9 years we have a 6 year old son and another baby on the way... he has cheated on me 3 times (that i know of) the first time i was 5 months pregnant with our son, he is very immature (oviously) and leaves all the responsibility of taking care of the kids up to me... Although he knows these are his children he takes absolutly NO responsibilty for his son , or the one on the way. We have not had sex in about 2 monthes (because i have decided not to) and we dont live together so we hardly see each other, and we hardly talk on the phone ne more... i really couldn't be bothered to talk to him... i woud have done ne thing for him but i think his attitude has turned me off of him, he will tell me "I love you" and i won't say it back, i will just say "yeah ok" or "yupp bye" and i also don't feel anything for him ne more, i mean i love him and care for him as a very close friend as the father of my children.
2006-09-28 18:28:48 · 13 answers · asked by Romy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i really don't think i have "THAT" feeling for him ne more, i guess what im asking here is... what should i do? i can't break up with him, i have tried and we just end up back together again... how do i work this out, i know i should go to counselling with him, but some one with a logical answer please help me out!! THANKS!!
2006-09-28 18:31:01 · update #1
How do i go about leaving him FOR GOOD...idon't want us to be enemy's my son love his father very much (for some reason) and i don't want my son to think badly of his father, although everything he could possibly think is true... My son already know his father is useless, and has even said stuff like "daddy doesn'y love me" and i will reassure him that daddy does love him... but damn aren't i lying to him and myself i dont know what daddy feel cause all he wants to do is go out and party!!!
2006-09-28 18:34:43 · update #2
You're probably feeling as though you need to stay with him for your children's sake. Not true. If staying with him only makes you miserable, then don't do it. Besides, kids can sense when something is wrong between their parents. They would be better off if you two weren't together. Then they wouldn't have to deal with the arguments. Don't torture yourself. He's cheated on you THREE times. That means he's not going to stop. Find someone worth being with who actually cares and respects you and your children. This guy just sounds like a douche bag.
2006-09-28 18:38:22 · answer #1 · answered by sexy lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would seem you have already made the choice ... you just don't know how to make the change.
Ask the local authority (Court House) on the views of parental rights..... if he doesn't choose to acknowledge the children there should be no problem leaving ... pack up and split with the kids and bank account balance.
Start over some where else and be the single mom!
You've already made the hard decision .... so look in the mirror and ask your self if your comfortable with the choice your making ... be sure your choice includes whats best for the kids mental health and ... do the right thing.
Be safe, Be strong, Be happy !
2006-09-28 18:41:02 · answer #2 · answered by John 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Another woman with pregnancy hormones asking questions that are OBVIOUS. You may have feelings for him but in your heart, you know he's no good for you. The man cheated on you numerous times and who knows how many times you DON'T know about (trust me there are times you don't know about)
You asked in your next half should you leave him, YES.
How..........get up and go. Tell him you aren't interested in him, he's no good for you and take his AS@@@ to court for child support. Your child loving his daddy is not the question. If you break up with the guy and he stops seeing the kid, there is NOTHING you can do about that. If he wants to see his kid, he will whether you are together or not, if he's a real MAN. Staying with him for the kid is an excuse. Being a father has nothing to do with staying with the mom. Of course that is ideal but not MANDATORY.
2006-09-28 19:37:10 · answer #3 · answered by Tara B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look in all honesty, you already have your answer. Your life doesn't revolve around him anymore. In fact, you rarely have anything to do with him in normal circumstances. The only reason you get back together is probably for the children in the vain hope he will take an interest. Most likely it won't happen. Set up child support through the courts, take some time to yourself, and move on. You can do better.
2006-09-28 18:50:13 · answer #4 · answered by merlinmx5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find someone else to be in a relationship with. He is telling you without actually saying it that he does not want to be with you. He can be a father if he wants and not be with you. The best thing you can do for your children is teach them that a relationship is a healthy thing. If he is cheating on you and you continue have unprotected sex with him( you're pregnant) you are running the risk of not being around to see your children grow up. Love yourself and especially your children enough to dump this loser. Then take his butt to court for child support. Hooray for not living with him.
2006-09-28 18:35:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are both mother and father of your children then why do you need him. Leave him. You can still stay friends but don't think this is the kind of father you want for your children. So, give yourself a new chance, you are better off alone without him.
2006-09-28 18:36:59 · answer #6 · answered by Saphire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a story, not a question. Whats is your question? This guy sounds like a total peice of trash. Any guy that would cheat when his girlfriend is pregnant is a scumbag. You need too tell this loser to leave you and the kids alone and then take him too court for support. If you allow this chaos in your life (and childrens life) you will regret it for the rest of your life.
2006-09-28 18:32:18 · answer #7 · answered by bsd300d 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're better off. He this guy is not willing to take responsibility for his actions, do you really want this guy in and out of your children's lives? PLUS he's cheated on you!!!! Not cool in my book. Once a cheater, always a cheater. This guy isn't honest with you. I know you care about him, but enough is enough, you've fallen out of love with him. Move on, focus on your children, and Prince Charming will come along..
2006-09-28 18:33:56 · answer #8 · answered by asiantomato84 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl open your eyes, once a dog always a dog....yes he may be the babys daddy and you have to deal with it till the kids are of age...but you need to move on. How....well cut back on everything you do for him. You cant just cut everything off at once but cut back and then you will soon be able to cut it all out.....
2006-09-28 18:33:42 · answer #9 · answered by playwitdamind 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your words: " i can't break up with him, i have tried and we just end up back together again.."
Look, either you break up and stay broken yup, and move on with your life, and find somebody you love and raise your kids to know what a good,happy, loving relationship is OR YOU WASTE MORE YEARS OF YOUR LIFE WITH SOMEONE YOU DON'T LOVE.
I mean no insult, but the answer is obvious to me.
2006-09-28 18:38:00 · answer #10 · answered by nickipettis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋