I was with my boyfriend for two years but we broke up because he is a lot older than me and I thought it was time to move on. I guess our relationship got worn out and I wanted to explore.
After that, I met somebody quickly and we are dating but he is so jealous of my exboyfriend and won't even let me hang out with my ex and I still want to be best friends with my ex boyfriend.
The new guy has a good job, a nice car, is younger, ambitious, charming and very smart.
My ex is more insecure, quiet and he knows me so well. It seems like he is always there for me-but he doesn't have a job and is sick right now with cancer. But it feels like he knows me better than anybody and has been with me through so much.
I don't know what to do this is tearing me apart... I feel like I should go with someone new and exciting and start a new chapter in my life but I also feel like I should be here for my ex and our relationship was so comfortable and easy. :(
WHAT DO I DO? HELP!!
2006-09-28 18:25:03 · 12 answers · asked by catanomicsunset 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Two years is a long time to spend with anyone and while i understand your need to be with the new guy he needs to grow up if you choose to be friends with your ex and especially since he has cancer he needs you as a friend so if the new boyfriend can not learn to accept your relationship as just friends with a sick man that you cared alot about at one time in your life then i suggest you move on to someone that is a little more considerate of how you feel... Good Luck
2006-09-28 18:29:13 · answer #1 · answered by Amy M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your relationship was so perfect your Ex wouldn't be your EX. There is something about your relationship that caused you to give him that title. If you have this deep connection with him I think your new boyfriend has every right to be jealous, especially if you are considering even with this question taking him back.
I think you should honestly sit down and ask yourself are you feeling guilty or sorry because your ex is going through a rough time with his cancer (I wish him the best) or are you geniunely in love with this man? I mean again, he is your ex for a reason.
Give your new love a chance to blossom, if you really want to be with your ex be honest and let the new guy go so that he can find someone who will love him back.
Best Wishes!
2006-09-28 18:27:42 · answer #2 · answered by poetic princess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should make a decision right now. Be there for your ex and continue with your relationship. If you have to make a choice choose the one that treats you the best,that material stuff won't last!!!
2006-09-28 18:35:49 · answer #3 · answered by Mycan Moneek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your ex is still your best friend, this new man in your life cannot interfere with it. especially because he has cancer, but you have to make it clear that you want to continue a friendship with your ex, and if that's not ok with your boyfriend, then you should break it off
2006-09-28 18:29:19 · answer #4 · answered by zion354 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a break and learn what it is you want in life, where your wanna go ... Once you got your head screwed on straight them you can make the right decision .... remember the only person you really have to please here is you !!
You don't have children to worry about or a hundred million dollar fortune to loose ......
think hard & choose well
2006-09-28 18:30:25 · answer #5 · answered by John 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your new bf is more advantageous than your ex. He has stable job and wanted you to be him alone, that's why he is so jealous of your ex-bf. But you only want your ex-bf to be your best friend so convince your new bf or let him propose for marriage with you to lost his jealousy.
2006-09-28 18:37:32 · answer #6 · answered by vsg0818 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your present boyfriend and assure him that there is nothing to worry right now.you just want to be friend with your ex- may if you tell your present boyfriend that your ex is sick he will understand.but remember ,in life you can't have both what you want.
2006-09-28 18:36:58 · answer #7 · answered by jocelyn o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your in love with your ex....you can not just have a new fling cause of what he has...love comes once in a life time....I say stick it out witht he ex.
2006-09-28 18:30:43 · answer #8 · answered by playwitdamind 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should be with your ex boyfriend...well he know u better....and if your new boyfriend love you...he would trust you,not jealous...u should be there when your ex boyfriend sick...coz be4 this he is always there 4 u...well that is all i can help...
2006-09-28 18:39:12 · answer #9 · answered by bella 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be shaky in your convictions, but be firm and accordingly take a decision suiting your betterment in all fields of life.
2006-09-28 18:29:25 · answer #10 · answered by mkm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋